Archiebald

@PapiZwane Proud father ❤✌

I learned how to say okay and not argue back, because sometimes it's better to stay quiet than to be misunderstood. I got tired of explaining myself to people who never really listened. No matter how honest I was, they still made it seem like I was wrong. So now, I just nod, smile, and say okay, even when it hurts. I stay silent because I'm done wasting my energy. I realized that some people only want to be right, not to understand. And sometimes, silence is the only way to protect your peace. So I let things go, not because I don't care, but because I care about myself enough to stop fighting battles that lead nowhere.

What's stopping you two from just saying "I'm sorry I wasn't the best version of myself.. I still loved you. I just needed to grow up a little more. we both made mistakes and we both failed.. But that doesn't mean we have to let go forever.. lets forgive each other and move forward.. I miss you and I'm sorry.

Normalize losing arguments on purpose so you can go on with your day.

a lot of people are grieving privately while still showing up publicly. they are going to work, posting online, attending events, laughing in conversations, but internally carrying disappointment, heartbreak, confusion, or emotional pain they have not even had the chance to process properly. some people have become so used to hiding what they feel that even the people closest to them have no idea how much they are struggling. i think one of the scariest things about adulthood is realizing how easy it is for someone to be falling apart inside while looking completely fine on the outside.

Love me or hate me. I don't care. I really don't. And it took me a long time to reach the point of being completely unaffected by someone else's opinion about me. It was hard work, but no one can take that away from me now. That soul work I did and all I'm still doing; It's mine. I own it. It belongs to me. I belong to me and only me. No one has the power to touch it, take it, or even look into the way I have rebuilt myself after free falling for so long. I am as free as I have ever been. Powerful, brave, graceful and strong; I did that and it's beautiful. No one has the power to turn it ugly.

“I didn’t want to love you from a broken place. So I fixed me first.” 🥹

Sometimes you just gotta lay in your bed and stare at the ceiling and talk to God about everything. Tell him that life feels heavy and tell him that you trust him even though nothing makes sense right now.

My mind feels constantly loud, filled with stress, confusion, and frustration that I can’t sort through. I’ve reached a point in life where I’m supposed to have things figured out and be enjoying it, yet I feel stuck, trapped in my own thoughts while everything around me keeps moving.

I’m in a heavy phase where I don’t even fully understand what I’m going through. I just know I’m overwhelmed, upset, and carrying too much at once.

Have you ever felt so stuck in life that you don’t even know where you want to see yourself in the future? Have you ever felt like everyone you know is already becoming someone that they want to become or busy chasing all their goals in life, while there you are, still can’t picture yourself in anywhere that you might belong? You don’t understand why you are still working hard when you don’t even know where you’re going. You don’t even have a clear idea of what you want to become. Have you ever felt like the time is running, everyone is growing and becoming somebody, but you are being left behind?

Mentally lost. Except no one will ever know. Because I act like nothing’s wrong. I laugh when I’m in the room. I reply “I’m fine” before anyone can look at me too closely. I show up. I smile. I move. I keep conversations simple so nobody asks tough questions. But the second I’m alone, the silence gets so loud. Everything I’ve been holding in finally starts screaming. It’s not that I don’t want help I just got really good at acting like I don’t need it.

Having your own money changes the dynamic you have with the people in your life. From parents, friends to romantic partners. It gives you a chance to love and interact with them from a place of choice and not survival. Your money gives you options of who stays in your life.

The hardest pill I swallowed this year was realizing that you can feel completely alone in your lowest, and time won’t slow down for you, days still pass, people still laugh, life still demands things from you. No one stops to ask if you’re okay enough to keep going. So you learn to stand for yourself, even when your legs are shaking. You learn to be your own voice, your own support, your own reason to keep breathing. It’s a hard truth, but it stays with you: at the end of the day, when the noise fades, and everyone else is gone, the only person left to root for you is you

I think I owe myself an apology for being in spaces where I knew I wasn't wanted & appreciated, but instead, I stayed. For forcing broken connections & ships. I owe myself an apology, but please don't think your past self lacked worth in any way.

No one will ever fully understand how hard it's been for you, how much you've carried, how many times you've had to pull yourself back up quietly. But you know. And that's enough. Always be proud of yourself every single day. Even when the world gives you a reason not to be.

At some point, you will have to disappoint others to live a life that is honest to you. People-pleasing will drain you, not save you. You have every right to set boundaries and choose your peace; you can disappoint people and still be a good person.

romanticise your life. don't miss a sunset. go find the moon. take long walks in nature and soak in the peace of those moments. capture every moment. listen to your favourite song on repeat. you are the creator of your everyday life, don't miss a moment loving it.

I saw a post where a girl said God talks a lot, like He actually talks all day, and that's the kind of relationship and personal level I'm trying to get to with Him. Not just praying when I need something, but listening, noticing, feeling guided in everyday moments. I want that constant connection where I know it's Him speaking, correcting, comforting, and leading me ❤️

Nobody's easy to date. Everyone has their insecurities, flaws, & certain ways of doing things that make us who we are. Perfect people & relationships only exist on TV. The most important thing is finding someone who loves you on ur worst days & will fight thru the hard times

Some nights sleep doesn’t come because my mind quietly gathers every mistake I thought time had buried . Old words I wish I never said , moments I should have handled differently , small choices that somehow still echo years later . In the dark it feels like my past sits beside me , not accusing, just reminding me that I’ve been many versions of a person I’m still trying to understand.