Christine_Scarborough

I used to extend kindness and compassion more toward others than I did toward myself. My default was to always put everyone else first. Then I realized how unhappy I was and how I had forgotten how to love myself. I’m a totally different person now. How did I do it? 🧵

@ChiTownSam723 Yep, and I had so many bruises on my arms!

@tonyposnanski I live in Georgia, so I always have to specify “unsweet”, and they still get it wrong most of the time.

When you go to a restaurant and order iced tea, do you expect it to be sweetened?

@AshSean Wait, WHAT???

Lemme tell y’all how I thought Madeline was an orphan and living in an orphanage.

@MelChisnall Yep! It goes way deeper than discipline and being “lazy”.

@Kath1213 @cmclymer I can remember pulling out my encyclopedias to read them.

@cmclymer Reminds me of one summer during grade school when I'd read all the books in the house. So I started on the dictionary and progressed to the phone book (yep, dating myself).

I'm normally not one to be the old woman yelling at the kids to get off my lawn, but one thing I will absolutely never tolerate is any older kid, let alone any teenager, saying they're bored. Kid, you are not allowed to be bored. Let me tell you something about actual boredom. We were so vulnerable to boredom as kids that we were snookered into collecting little discs of colorful cardboard with interesting designs, and we dueled each other by slamming each other's little cardboard discs with our own little cardboard discs in an attempt to flip them over. That's it. That's the whole game. We would do this for hours. The game got spicier if we had little discs of hard plastic or metal, which were viewed as a luxury item. This game was called POGs. Fights would break out. Friendships were ruined. Entire sociopolitical structures in elementary school were shaped around whom had nicer little cardboard discs (or little plastic/metal discs called "slammers"). I shit you not. The trajectory of an entire generation was forever altered by little cardboard discs. And that's nothing. The generation before us put googly eyes on literal rocks and kept them as pets. Actual rocks as pets. They didn't even have an interesting name. They were called "Pet Rocks." You have video games and phones and computers and easy access to shows and movies. You are not allowed to be bored. Boredom for children has been de facto abolished.

I’d love to see more coaches be up front about this from the get-go. If someone is dealing with mental health issues, I’d prefer they speak to their therapist or doctor first before working with me. Once they have the chat about the type of work I do, and they feel it’s safe to proceed, then I’m happy to work with clients.

I was thinking about this today and how we coaches need to have basic training to spot when we’re not being effective and hand over to a therapist. I’m more than happy to say “not my zone of genius” and recommend someone else. But many coaches just continue and potentially do more damage. In my own training, I’m trauma informed but I know in my gut when a client isn’t responding and I’ll stop the session or end the contract. Mental health is delicate and basic training and certification/accreditation would be a good start. Would love to know your views.

With the rapid proliferation of "coaches" popping up like weeds, there is also an obvious fixation on money over value add for the client. Its a problem because there is no regulation on coaching. As a regulated therapist myself, I see the merits in regulation as it serves to protect the public. I must stress there is a difference between therapy and coaching. Anyone can be a coach but not every coach can be a therapist. I'm all for people making money and as much as you can. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that but that enthusiasm must be tempered with providing quality support while doing no harm. In a Psychology Today article, "New research suggests certified coaches could effectively fill the therapy gap for moderate mental health needs" With strong alliances and evidence-based methods, coaching is an accessible and stigma-free alternative, offering comparable outcomes to traditional therapy according to researchers. As a therapist I have been trained and continue to participate in continuing education, most recently PTSD and the use of psychotherapeutic interventions like CBT and Behavioral Activation. To the coaches: Don't you have an obligation to provide some form of evidence based approaches for your clients who rely on you for your expertise? Many clients are vulnerable and desperate and I believe we owe them quality service for their trust and their dollars. Thoughts?

@AlAboutNothing @StephenCaggiano Same here. Probably the only show I’ve watched like that.

@ChristineSc11 @StephenCaggiano I have see every episode and some several times. They said Jerry went to see the real soup nazi and he threw Jerry out!!! Lol

Seinfeld triva: other then the four main characters what character was in more episodes then any other characters? ✔✔✔✔✔✔✔✔✔

@StephenCaggiano @AlAboutNothing What a great show!

@ChristineSc11 @AlAboutNothing I was thinking Newman.

@AlAboutNothing Or maybe the hostess/lady at the cash register in the diner.

@ElevateUrself0 A bird about to make a speedy landing.

What do you see?

@ActivateAmyMode Wow! It was a lie. He needs serious help!

@ChristineSc11 I found both posts, but based on his other content, and the fact that he's made up other stories, I really hope it's not another lie or something for clout.

Brad. Brad. Brad. Bradley. 😂💀

@ActivateAmyMode I haven’t done a deep dive, because I was so bothered by what I had already seen, but that IS wild.

@ChristineSc11 He's got so much stuff online and it's hard to tell who the real person is and who might be a parody. It's wild.

@RDelaney So true, and I’m ok with that.

The more you awaken and heal, the smaller your circle of friends becomes.

@ActivateAmyMode Yep. Their post is on his TikTok, too.

@ChristineSc11 Wait....what? Seriously?

@KeneAkers Completely disgusting

@amydoublet You’re welcome, Amy! I love this question.

@ChristineSc11 Thanks for sharing Christine.

What does joy feel like in your body?