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Oyisa was carrying that marriage on her own. She did the grocery shopping alone, showed up for family and church alone, while he was always out with friends living like a single man. Love is in the little things, in presence, effort and partnership, and she deserved so much more than feeling alone while married.

Is this at the same gathering where he was calling people makwerekwere? With both his kwerekwere wives on stage?

This isn’t a fair reading. You’ve pulled apart his statement and assigned meanings that weren’t there. He said “Ndiyamdinga uNokhumzi apha ecaleni kwam ozakundincedisa kule misebenzi ingaka yasekhaya.” The key word is “ozakundincedisa” which means to help, not to carry everything alone. He didn’t say women exist to rescue incompetent men, nor did he suggest marriage only works when a woman does 90% of the labour. He expressed the need for partnership in the real and unglamorous parts of life, and he is speaking in the context of a funeral where responsibility is heavy. Why do we only celebrate companionship only when it is soft and aesthetic and then villainise it when it is practical. And realising you need a partner does not mean refusing to grow or build. The man is grieving and recognising that he does not want to carry life alone. That is not dependency. It is honesty.

seriously. get back in the gym