Softie💜

I don’t understand why some men feel the need to act like “alpha men.” Being a firm or confident man isn’t about trying to control people. It’s about treating others with respect and allowing that respect to come back to you naturally. A friend of mine has been texting a guy for a while, although they’ve never actually met in person. Earlier in January, he told her he would be coming to her town for a party. After that conversation, he disappeared for a while. Recently, he reached out again, and she suspected it was because the party date was getting close. He explained that his phone got spoilt and he couldn’t fix it for weeks. Now this same guy told her, “I’ll send you the party invitation so you have no choice but to come.” My friend replied that she would attend if she wasn’t too busy since she has a job and responsibilities. But he insisted, saying, “No one turns down an invitation. You have no choice but to come.” She repeated that she would only come if she was available. Then he said again, “Did you not read the part where I said you should clear your schedule, or do you just want to be difficult for no reason?” Honestly, in my head I was wondering how he felt comfortable dictating what she should do. They’re not even close like that. To me, that already feels like a red flag.

I never thought I would be able to drive until my mum broke her leg and had it in a cast. The cars were just there in the compound, and I didn’t even know how to start one. Anytime I wanted to take her to the hospital, I would look for someone and beg them to help me drive. One day, I decided to learn since the car was automatic. I learned and started taking my mum to the clinic by myself. Then one day, I drove her to church and didn’t calculate well. I was trying to pass the car through the middle of a pothole, but I miscalculated. Guess what my mum said? She said, “Ah ah, Aunty Dami, you’re a graduate, yet you’re driving like someone who didn’t go to school!” 😂 I said, “Ah ah, did they teach driving in school? She said, “Just don’t spoil my car, because I’m the one that will pay for it!” 😅

A lot of you messed up your own future. You took a real wife, treated her like a casual girlfriend, then threw her away… and turned a woman who should have stayed an ex into your wife. Why? Because all you could see was sex. Open your eyes. Look beyond the body. If you don’t, you’ll keep choosing noise over peace, drama over value, and pleasure over purpose. And one day, it will hit you… You let go of gold, and held on to rubbish. 🤷‍♂️

some of the best health decisions I’ve made in the last four years: • cut off alcohol • skip breakfast • removed bread from my diet • stopped eating noodles • eat once, max twice a day • work out 2 hours, 5 times a week • first meal between 12–1pm • dinner between 5–7pm this helped bring my weight down from 95kg to 85kg 💪

Who taught you how to drive, and how many times did they almost give up on you? 😅 When you first started, was it smooth or pure chaos? Quote me, let’s laugh small 😂

@ossaivictor1_ Well, we don’t know what really happened. Some people actually see the signs in the early years of dating but they are always scared of starting over again or scared they might not see someone better. So, what they just do is manage and patch till one breaks up.

How do you date someone for 13 years and breakup with them, I know women can pretend for how long just to have what they want but for but as a man, why didn't you see the sign for the past 13 years?

Something tragic happened last night. I’m currently in the hospital because a neighbor of mine went ahead to perform an abortion for his girlfriend, and it got complicated, she’s now hospitalized. The family are on their way, but honestly, I don’t know how they’ll cope if anything happens to her. This situation reminds us that abortion isn’t just a debate, it’s real life. People talk about it like it’s just right or wrong, but the truth is way more complicated. Abortion isn’t just about ending a pregnancy, it’s about the life that comes after, the circumstances that led to it, and the tough choices people are forced to make. Is it really fair to bring a child into the world if the parent can’t feed them, house them, or give them an education. That child didn’t ask to be born, but they could suffer if nobody prepares for them. At the same time, abortion is serious. It affects bodies, minds, and futures. People don’t make this choice lightly. Often, it happens because society, the government, and even our communities fail to support life after birth. So, is abortion good. There’s no simple answer. It depends on perspective, situation, and values. To me I feel it better to abort than bring a new born b you can’t train to the world.

There are some symptoms that if you notice them, they're not a matter of let wait &see how it goes if you notice any of these four signs in any child or baby around, please rush them to the hospital. Because it could be a sign that they're seriously ill and may have a life threatening condition. 1. If you notice a child is usually active suddenly becomes very quiet and doesn't want to move around anymore, infact they may come and lie down on your chest not because they want to do so but of how they're feeling....please get them to a hospital. 2. If you notice a child is being very difficult to wake up....you tap them several times and they just appear drowsy as if they're not really there....it's another sign you actually get them help. 3. If you notice fast breathing and their nose start flaring... it's another danger sign. Get them to the hospital. 4. If you're nursing a baby and you notice that the baby just does not stop crying no matter how much you try to console that child over a long period of time. It's possible that something keeps irritating the child that's not stopping... please get them to be examined at the hospital so it can looked into it. It's not normal that they cry inconsolably for very long period of time. 5. Any vomiting that's persistent associated with diarrhea in a child can quickly become an emergency because children can get dehydrated in a heartbeat. Do not keep them at home while they keep vomiting and pooing, you can get them some ORS and get them to the hospital as soon as you can.

@Miss_Oluremi @d_Freeman People will definitely link it to her but they are not connected .

A woman prefers washing clothes at night. It is believed that it might attract de@th to the husband. Her husband isn't living with her. He has another wife. She didn't stop washing her clothes at night. This morning, she received a call that her husband has away.

@BlessedGirl001 Exactly, we have sent her back to her parents before she put us in tr0uble

@Damviews A child that wants to spoil will spoil.

I’m someone who notices even the smallest changes. A young lady lived with us for over 10 years. From when she started staying with us up till her 100 level, I can boldly say I never saw her naked, even though we often slept in the same room. She would always sleep wearing her bra. Whenever I told her it wasn’t good to wear a bra 24 hours a day, she would quietly go to the bathroom to remove it, then wake up very early to rush back and put it on again. At some point, I even called her mum to tell her to advise her daughter to remove her bra sometimes. The funny thing is, she didn’t even wash them regularly. When she came back from her first 100 level holiday, I noticed a change. She had started removing her bra freely before sleeping. She also became more free with her female friends(touching their bumbum and b00bs as girls play with each other). I didn’t say anything then. By 200 level, I noticed she had started taking alcohol. That was when I had to call her and talk to her. I asked her straight, “Have you started having s€x?” She denied it at first, but when I pointed out the changes I had noticed, she eventually admitted it. I then asked, “With who?” She said, “My boyfriend. Ah, sister, he’s a Christian brother. in fact, he’s even a worker in church.” In my mind, I was shocked. I kept wondering, how can someone claim to be a serious Christian and still be doing that? I tried to advise her, but she kept insisting that the guy understands the Bible, and that she too is a worker in church. At that point, I just told her, “You’re already an adult. If anything happens, you’ll be the one to deal with the consequences.” Then I left her with, “Good luck with your relationship.”

Good morning ☀️ Wake up with this in mind: You don’t need to have everything figured out to move forward. You don’t need to be the smartest in the room to win. You don’t need perfect conditions to start. What you need is consistency. A lot of people are waiting for motivation. But the truth is motivation comes after action, not before it. The small things you do today will shape your life: – That one message you send – That skill you decide to learn – That discipline you choose over comfort It all compounds. Some people will doubt you. Some will overlook you. Some will even laugh at your beginning. Ignore the noise. Because one day, the same people will ask you, “How did you do it?” And, the answer will be simple: “I didn’t stop.” So today: Show up. Do your best. Stay focused. Trust the process even when it’s slow. You’re closer than you think. Have a productive day 💪

Lowkey, I admire the way our parents trained us. There was a day my elder sister went to visit our cousin. She knew it was getting late but still decided to take her time. In our house, we usually lock the gate by 8 p.m. at the latest, and that day my mum told us to go ahead and lock it. My sister got home past 9 p.m. and started knocking. My mum went outside and told her to go back to where she was coming from. At first, we thought she was joking, but she was serious. She said, “Since you don’t value your life, stay outside.” My sister had to call our uncle to beg on her behalf. He pleaded with my mum for several minutes before she eventually agreed to open the gate. Since then, my sister has never stayed out late. These days, many people see that kind of parenting as too hard, but the truth is, it shaped us in a good way. Not everything our parents did was perfect, but some of those lessons are the reason we move differently and make better decisions today.

Nigerian parents will humble you. Back in my secondary school days, I remember one Saturday like it was yesterday… One of my friends was doing birthday. Nothing big, just small gathering, music, drinks, enjoyment. I had begged at home before going. “Mummy please, I won’t stay long.” “I’ll be back on time.” She looked at me and said: “Don’t let me call you.” I said “Yes ma” with full confidence. Fast forward… Party was sweet. Music was loud. We were dancing like we didn’t have parents. For the first time, I felt like I had freedom. Then my phone vibrated. “Mummy calling…” My heart dropped. I picked. “Hello ma 😊” Her voice was calm… too calm. “So you have decided to sleep there abi?” Immediately, my environment changed. The music was still playing, but my soul had left the party. “No mummy, I’m on my way” “Don’t worry. You will come back and meet me.” That “don’t worry”? That’s when you know say better problem don land. From that moment, I couldn’t enjoy anything again. Everybody was still dancing, but I was already calculating my punishment. The journey back home felt longer than usual. Even the night breeze was not breezing again. I got home and as expected, I was properly welcomed. You suppose understand. 😂 That day, I learned something: Nigerian parents don’t need to be at the party to scatter your enjoyment. Just one phone call… and your happiness will log out instantly. But later that night, after everything, She still knocked on my door and asked, “Have you eaten?” That’s when it hits you. It’s love. Just an aggressive love. Be honest… Which sentence from your parents used to instantly reset your entire mood? 😂

If you want a relationship that actually lasts, here’s something many Nigerians don’t like to hear: Love is not enough. In this country, relationships don’t just run on vibes. They run on pressure, financial pressure, family expectations, work stress, even “what will people say?” That’s why many relationships crash, not because there’s no love, but because there’s no structure. Here are simple truths: Communication is not “I told you, you should understand.” Say it clearly biko. Nobody can read your mind. Fine girl speak up. Stop all those "I expected you to know." Respect is not selective. You can’t respect your partner in public and belittle them in private. Money matters more than people admit. Not because love is for sale, but because constant financial stress will test even the strongest bond. Peace is underrated. If every conversation turns to an argument, something is already broken. And most importantly… Stop dating potential. Date character. Because potential sounds sweet, but character is what you will live with every day. At the end of the day, a good relationship is not about who you “love” the most… It’s about who you can build with, grow with, and stay sane with. A lot of people are in love… but very few are in healthy relationships.

This is a subtle reminder… That girl you’re chasing right now, she's chasing another guy who's busy chasing his dreams. Life is funny like that. Everybody is chasing somebody who is chasing something else. The earlier you understand this, the better for your peace of mind. Stand up. Dust yourself. Redirect that energy. Because at the end of the day, the only thing that will truly chase you back is success. Good morning, my mutuals.

@DaddyPrince_007 So, why did you comment ? If you don’t have happy home or people you love, don’t bring your bitterness here. People that have happy homes can relate but you can’t. Bad belle.

Mtcheew! So why are you telling us this?

Since there’s a holiday today, my husband’s parents and my mum decided to travel and visit us for the first time since our wedding. I decided to play our wedding videos for them, and both my mum and my mother-in-law started tearing up. In my head, I was like, “What’s wrong with these women?” 😂 But then, for the first time, my mum admitted that she has really missed me since I left home. I jokingly asked her if I should come back, and she said, “You don’t have a room in my house again, stay in your husband’s house.

Ladies, stop throwing yourself at men. Stop it. Yesterday, something happened when I went swimming, and it just reminded me why this post is important. After swimming, I went back to the bar area to dress up and relax a bit. A man at another table signaled the waiter to come to me and ask what I wanted. I hesitated, but I eventually placed an order. A few minutes later, the waiter came back again. The man had sent him to ask if I wouldn’t mind joining his table. I simply said, Where I am is very comfortable, and there’s enough space here. I’m fine. He went back. Then the waiter returned again, this time with a pen and paper, saying the man wanted me to write my number. At that point, I said, Please go back and tell him to be man enough to come and speak to me himself. From appearance, this was the kind of man some ladies would feel honored to be noticed by. Meanwhile, another lady at a nearby table didn’t hesitate. Immediately she was called, she carried herself and went to join them. Eventually, the man came to me himself, apologized for sending the waiter, and we spoke briefly. I politely thanked him for the drink and told him I was busy handling something online. We exchanged contacts, and that was it. Not long after, the two men left. The lady he had called over? She sat there… alone. After some time, she came to meet me and said, “I’m sorry.” I was surprised. I asked, Sorry for what? She said she realized she had messed up. We had a brief ladies-to-ladies conversation, and I spoke to her honestly. Hear me, the way you present yourself to a man determines the level of respect you get from him. When you hear men speak poorly about women, or treat women cheaply, It’s because they have encountered women who offered themselves too easily and too quickly, without boundaries. My father used to say something: Some women got married because a man bought them something, they went to his house to say “thank you”… and they never left. Before they know it … One child, two children, three children…marriage has quietly started. Some of you, the moment a man buys you something at the mall or does one small favor, you’ve already entered relationship mode. Madam… calm down. Give yourself value. Even if you like him. Even if it feels like love at first sight. Even if you’re already crushing on him, control yourself. Hold back a bit. Not everything should be rushed. That small space you create? That self-control? It earns you respect. Stop throwing yourself at men and then complaining about how low they treat you. Respect is not demanded, it is first established by how you carry yourself. ©Suowari

If you have 30million to rent a house for a year, why not just.. You know what?never mind! Twitter billionaires will come and tell me that it’s cheap, as long as you have money. Coming from people wey no get 500k, You can’t talk on anything without Nigerians making it about Money.

@Peculiar_pearlC I’m so sorry about that sis🥺

Sometimes last week, I celebrated hitting 2K followers. It meant a lot especially when a mutual told me they’ve been watching my consistency and how far I’ve come.And now… here we are again, starting from scratch. But one thing about me? Giving up has never been an option.