Daphne Merian

Introducing… Ask a Domme! An advice column where you get to ask me your burning questions. I accept anonymous questions about BDSM, power dynamics, femdom, Female-Led Relationships, and all things kink and relationship.

I love submissive men because instead of being intimated by my career, intelligence, and banging bod, they just see it as more reasons to worship me Lots of “alpha” men can’t deal with a confident and successful woman So tell me again why submissive men are seen as the weak ones?

Things submissive men are better at: listening, follow-through, asking what you want, and saying thank you.

My wife doesn’t like femdom, how can I get her into it? I don’t like pineapple. I’ve had it raw, had it candied, had it in cake. I just don’t like pineapple. How can you get me into pineapple? I want to help couples where there’s some spark of interest, but you can’t force it

Some women just don't have dominance in them, the same way that I don't have submission in me. That doesn't mean that she can't enjoy some femdom kinks, but be careful you're not expecting someone to turn into a different person to fit your fantasies.

I’m not going to convince a man that I deserve to lead. If he doesn’t recognize that it’s the best choice for the both of us, I don’t want to be with him.

The biggest misconception about FLRs is that she does all the thinking. No. He’s thinking about what she needs before she needs it.

I don't like punishments for subs because they reward bad behavior. But I do love training games. In my first FLR, we had a rule that he couldn't look at me naked without permission. Whenever he didn't immediately look away when I started to undress, he had to pinch and squeeze his nipples until I told him to turn around again. Sometimes I forgot to tell him to turn around. But that's why it's a game. Inconsistent punishment doesn't reinforce a lesson. Fun little games are the fastest way to learn.

Dominance from an inexperienced partner will not look like femdom content, that is to be expected. Instead of demanding she act more like your fantasy, try to be supportive and encouraging while she learns what she likes.

There isn’t one correct way to have an FLR in the same way there isn’t a way to have a “normal” relationship Some couples thrive on denial, rules and strict protocols. Others just need a light touch of control.

@TheHigh_Roller That’s the plan

@DaphneMerian Marry one then

I 💗 Submissive Men

@TechMantik Huh?

@jsa1075 We had a few awkward head bumps at first, but he really wanted to make it work and so it did

@DaphneMerian I'd never expect that. I somehow connect with other switches most often, but I've had femdom only connections and I wouldn't dream of trying to change something like that about somebody.

@Ricardo26603475 x.com/daphnemerian/s…

@DaphneMerian Link me the article, and I will read it ☺️

@jsa1075 My last FLR was with a switch. As long as he doesn't expect me to switch we're all good.

@DaphneMerian Any love for the switches?

@mroracle827 When did I say that?

@DaphneMerian This is just fetish branding for women who want their private power fantasy to sound like a civilizational upgrade. Your niche is your niche. Stop pretending it explains men.

@mroracle827 I'm not changing them, they are perfect the way they are.

@DaphneMerian Go date women. Don't try to change men it won't work.

@Ricardo26603475 I am literally only attracted to submissive men. So it seems our experiences cancel each other out, and maybe you can read the article and try to understand my point of view.

@DaphneMerian I'm sure there is, but in my experience, women are generally not attracted to "submissive men" aka simps. Maybe they think they would be at first, because they will always get their way, but after a little while, she realizes that weaklings are actually not very attractive at all

@SteveMa09379210 My entire sexuality disagrees

@DaphneMerian Most useful maybe but hard to believe they are sexy

I don't get why people think I'm lying when I say I love submissive men. I can't understand being attracted to a man who doesn't do everything I say and worship me. More hot juicy subs for me I guess.

@Ricardo26603475 There’s a whole article about why it’s not

@DaphneMerian Is this satire??