Dating OS ⚙️

Don't tell the Dating Gurus, I: • Double Text Girls • Avoid Mind Games • Pay for Dating Apps • Rarely Cold Approach • Work 9 To 5 & On my Purpose And, I still have a more fulfilling dating life than 99% of them. Forget their Rules. These 13 Ideas WILL Change Your Life:

Cold approach is a grind. There is nothing wrong with that. Mastery is achieved through consistent practice. A powerful body is one of them. However… I work 9 to 5. Work out. Have hobbies. And run a business. Online dating systems are better suited to my lifestyle.

@UbiPetrus2019 Where you stand on body count tells people more about your own history than your principles.

Your stance on the situation with Katherine reveals: 1) Whether you're a woman with a high body count. 2) Whether you're a woman who's sent nudes. 3) Whether you're a man who's married to a woman described by #1 and #2.

@TevinMacharia Spirituality performed for an audience and spirituality lived in private are different things. Most people only have one.

One of the biggest mistakes many believers make in relationships is assuming that somebody who looks spiritual is automatically sent by God. I learned this the hard way. I dated a lady who looked like the perfect church girl. She arrived in church very early. Sometimes before everyone else. Never missed service. Always loved sitting in the front seat. Her dress code was excellent and honorable. The way she worshipped looked genuine. The way she listened to the Word looked deep and spiritual. As a church backbencher, I would quietly observe her from a distance and admire her. And slowly… I became attracted to her. But attraction is not discernment. I was attracted to beauty. Attracted to class. Attracted to how she carried herself. Attracted to how she spoke. Attracted to how she worshipped. But I forgot to discern her spirit and character. The painful thing is this: I never truly prayed about her. I did not ask God: “Lord, is this person right for me?” I just entered the relationship immediately because my emotions were excited. And many of us make this same mistake. The moment somebody gives us attention, the moment conversations become sweet, the moment we feel emotionally connected, we jump into relationships without involving God. And slowly, without realizing it, emotional manipulation begins. We would spend hours on phone calls. Hours chatting. Hours talking late into the night. At first it looked normal because I thought: “This is love.” But I did not notice that the relationship was slowly disconnecting me from God. I stopped praying consistently. I stopped studying the Word seriously. My spiritual hunger started dying slowly. And one day she even told me to stop serving in church. Imagine that. The very relationship I thought would bring me closer to purpose was actually pulling me away from God. That alone should have been a major red flag. Because any relationship that weakens your prayer life, kills your spiritual discipline, makes you lose focus, or distances you from God… is dangerous no matter how attractive it looks. And the painful part? The very day we started dating, she had just left another man. While dating me, she was also entertaining other men secretly. Every time I talked about my friends, she always wanted to get close to them too. I remember one day hearing her describe how she would treat her future husband and I told myself: “This is my wife.” But a friend who was with me warned me immediately. He said: “Brother… something is not right about her.” But because emotions were louder than discernment, I ignored the warning. And I paid the price. One thing life taught me: Not everyone who looks spiritual is spiritually mature. Some people know church language. Some know how to act holy publicly. Some know how to worship emotionally. Some know how to quote scriptures. Some know how to appear broken before God publicly. But discernment sees beyond appearance. A person can sit in the front row and still carry confusion. A person can lift holy hands in worship and still destroy people emotionally. A person can speak in tongues and still manipulate hearts. This is why prayer matters before relationships. Do not allow loneliness to make decisions for you. Do not allow beauty to blind your discernment. Do not allow emotional attachment to replace God's voice. Many believers are wounded today because they involved emotions before involving God. Before dating, pray. Before attachment, pray. Before calling someone “my future,” pray. Because not everybody who enters your life came to build you. Some come to distract you from purpose, drain you spiritually, and weaken your walk with God. One thing I learned: A godly relationship should push you closer to God, not away from Him. The right person will not compete with your prayer life. The right person will not make you abandon ministry. The right person will not make you compromise your convictions.Pray for discernment

@melancoptimist Porn tells you what he watches alone. Character tells you whether he fights it or feeds it. Two different problems.

A woman choosing to date a man who struggles with pornography because of an addiction that was forced onto him from a young age (often times so young that he could not consent to it) is waaaaay different than a man choosing to date a woman with a body count

@RemainAman A dog is loyal because you feed it. A woman is loyal because she chose to be. Confusing the two is how men end up surprised when the choosing stops.

Dogs have unmatched loyalty compared to that of women in relationships or marriages. As usual, #RemainAman

@LilaGraceRose Marriage doesn't change what someone believes about freedom. It just makes them stop saying it out loud.

Congratulations to Alex and Matt on their beautiful new baby! I hope her marriage and children give her a new perspective on what is best for women 🙏 Hook ups, promiscuity and abortion are destructive. Love, marriage and life are the greatest blessings.

@wynrosei The men who demand purity have never held themselves to it. The standard exists to restrict her, not to guide him.

it’s always funny hearing men talk about ‘purity’ while admitting they themselves would fail the same standards they demand from women. y’all don’t want innocence, you want ownership

@zellieimani Your standards didn't rise. Your tolerance for nonsense dropped. That's different.

When you reach dating in your 30s, every little thing becomes a red flag or a turn off.

If you want this applied to your specific situation, I work with men 1:1. → datingos.systeme.io/democall

The walk between venues is the actual date. The bar is just the opening act.

The framework exists. Most men just never get it in front of them. → datingos.systeme.io/democall

She replied in 20 minutes. I replied in 20 minutes. That's not a conversation. That's a race. Set the tempo, don't match the panic.

@ijanedoll @xevekiah Body count and trust overlap more than people want to admit. The number tells you how many times she chose access over commitment.

@xevekiah It’s not about the “body count,” it’s about him proving he can’t be trusted with anything personal.

My cousin told his friends his girlfriend’s body count after she trusted him with something private. When she confronted him, he brushed it off and said if she was ashamed of it, that was her problem. Weeks later, he was asking why she stopped opening up, then acted shocked when she ended the relationship. It wasn’t because of one conversation, it was because he turned her vulnerability into something to laugh about, and she realized intimacy wasn’t safe with him.

@AntiFeminismAU The apps showed her the top 1% of men and she thought that was her dating pool. She's window shopping.

Entitled woman admits that she only dates chads over 6’4. Remember when the minimum standard used to be 6’0 ten years ago? Well now it’s 6’4 because their hypergamy keeps increasing every year.

@Alexxandrianah "Be wiser" means "tolerate more." Every time.

Currently on call and a patient was talking about this chike and Franks matter "I know that cheating is bad but I expect women to be wiser" I looked at her and I asked "Why is it that the society only considers women wiser when it comes to nonsense endurance" She kept quiet

@itz_taser She stays because she built something she won't walk away from. Loyalty follows investment. Always.

Women who leave their husbands because they ch3ated never invested anything in the marriage. No woman will want to leave everything she has ever worked for, for another woman to come and enjoy.

@HeartMattaz She left one man and moved to the next. The pattern didn't change. Just the name did.

The majority of women who left their husbands because of cheating are fuvcking people's husbands and boyfriends. HeartMattaz

If you want this applied to your specific situation, I work with men 1:1. → datingos.systeme.io/democall

Before I built a system, I used to think some men were just naturally good with women. Then I watched what they actually do. It is boring. It is repeatable. And it works every time.

The men I work with don't leave dates wondering if she liked them. They already know. → datingos.systeme.io/democall

The app profile is your first filter. It should attract women who understand your world and repel women who would hate it. Polished means the signal is clean.