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Hey guys! I wrote an article on the need for a gendered response to climate change in Nigeria. Pls read and lemme know what you think. Thank you.🙏 crossriverwatch.com/2024/08/a-call…

Let women be. Let women lead. Let women thrive. Let women speak up. Let women represent. Let women live peacefully. Let women express themselves. Let women control their bodies. Let women live.

@olajumokeokenla @Cijenan What is the thing being taken from you?

@Cijenan Something is actually being taken away from me.. and no, it’s not just SEX “personally”

You are an adult woman. Enjoy sex without thinking it’s something being taken away from you. It’s just SEX!!

@Obiridike @kanye_og @sheni_coker Maybe because he waited till she was in Nigeria to run his mouth on twitter

@Deedii02 @kanye_og @sheni_coker She is suing him in Nigeria for defamation And I said why ddnt sue him at UK , why wait till she comes to Nigeria to do that

It’s good that Ugo’s ex wife finally spoke up and served him a lawsuit. It’s now left for him to provide evidence of the alleged cheating or pay 500 million. 1-1

Meanwhile, in modern day Nigeria any woman with a similar septum piercing would be classed as westernised and as acting against ‘our culture’. We have a long way to go

@patshyne1 @FolashadeSb @amazingwoman47 @_Demiiee @_Ojonya Ibibio people are from Akwa Ibom nau. I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m saying ‘Adeife’ there is the baby’s name too so the name arrangement isn’t the way Akwa Ibom names are arranged. Also, baby daddy is Yoruba and that matters.

@Deedii02 @FolashadeSb @amazingwoman47 @_Demiiee @_Ojonya I said in akwa ibom.

The baby doesn’t have any name from her tribe?

All the extra extra shock and moral panic whenever women do something even slightly morally reprehensible exist because you have been conditioned to see us as obligatory saints when we’re not. My feminism recognises women as morally complex human beings capable of good and bad, and socialisation is why the consequences are disproportionately harsher for us. If we were truly morally superior, you would cede leadership positions to us — domestically and professionally — but you won’t because you know it’s all just a mechanism of control. No true equality until we undo this dehumanising construct so men can stop using ‘nature’ as an excuse to do all sorts of evil while punishing women more harshly for the same shit they feel entitled to do. There is nothing special about men that makes their pain a global emergency while ours is treated as an afterthought. Claiming not to be emotional beings but stinking up the place with tears and bullets when they get their feelings hurt, even when they drew first blood? Cry me a fucking river.

Disagree. Surrogacy is ethically straightforward, much in the way prostitution is ethically straightforward. It is commodification and exploitation of women, reducing women to “things” for rent or purchase. Women will never attain full humanity as long as these practices exist.

@callmephlames Who has societal bias ever helped if not men? You will not offend someone and bank on societal bias to keep them from retaliating if they so choose…that time is past. That’s why we’re celebrating women who cheat back so that we can deconstruct that bias and remove the shame.

I do not even care for whatever is going on but women need to understand that they do not have this leverage😂 Please, understand each genders societal bias and save yourself the stress “I left because he cheated” is more honorable than “he cheated and I cheated back” A word..

@patshyne1 @FolashadeSb @amazingwoman47 @_Demiiee @_Ojonya This is true. But her baby’s name wasn’t arranged that way. Besides, the baby’s dad is Yoruba not ibibio.

@FolashadeSb @amazingwoman47 @_Demiiee @_Ojonya Igbos can have their English and tribal name . But in akwa ibom ,you just have your name (English or tribal),your father's and your grandfather's.

@Obiridike @kanye_og @sheni_coker Sue him for what?

@kanye_og @sheni_coker Listen a man can't just come and accuse wife of cheating without evidence If she never cheated, why didn't she prove herself in UK when it happened Why didn't she Sue him in UK

@_Ojonya Lol She’s an Akwa Ibom woman. It’s very normal for their 3 names to be biblical/foreign names. I don’t think she cares about her daughter having an ibibio name.

@Sugar_Pops_ Problem is, most women love men and marriage more than themselves so they may end up not catering for themselves in the prenup and let the man alone get what he wants at their expense.

If you ask me, more women should actually insist on prenups. In a country like Nigeria where many women may pause their careers, lose income opportunities, or slow down professionally just to raise children and support the family structure, a prenup can serve as a protection. If one person sacrifices years of earning power, promotions, business growth, or financial independence for the home, there should be some sort of security attached to that sacrifice.

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@ashantewa1 @Nimisioluwa Women will marry anything, sadly.

@Nimisioluwa How did that fine lady manage to marry such a foolish guy? 🤦🏾‍♀️🥺

Clown 🤡 😂💔

@Machala980 @lilyally98 @ptreatshaven Bring evidence she’s in Lagos. No run o

@lilyally98 @ptreatshaven BRING EVIDENCE THAT SHE'S STILL IN UK NO RUN OOOOO

“she’s in Lagos in her father’s house” Someone that is chilling in London. You people let males lie and whine you on the app. 😂😂😂

@sugabelly It’s the name of a place in Nasarawa state. Lol

Wait until you find out one of the most popular traditional names for small dogs in America.

@franny_eze @David_TGL @treazyblaq Exactly this. Everywhere they turn, there are women pulling their weight as they have done throughout history, yet they claim it’s only men doing everything just so they can say they’re the superior gender.

@Deedii02 @David_TGL @treazyblaq That is how they erase women's participation and efforts in building society so that they can justify only their privileges. They don't think we deserve to enjoy equal rights and privileges. It's only when it benefits them that it is "culture".

The reason many men are losing their minds over Sugabelly’s post is because it even remotely suggests female agency and power. If she had said, “In Igbo culture, a man is permitted to marry multiple wives,” or referenced customs that benefit men, many of the same people would have applauded her for “preserving culture” and “educating people.” The reality is that not every custom or tradition, within or outside Igboland, will align with modern sensibilities or everyone’s personal morality. But discomfort does not erase history. The fact that some people are unfamiliar with certain practices, or consider them taboo and unspeakable, does not mean those practices never existed. What Christianity and colonial influence did in many African societies, including Igbo society, was not simply to introduce religion; it also reshaped social structures and gender relations through more rigid patriarchal frameworks. Precolonial Igbo society was far more complex than many people are willing to admit. Igbo women historically held significant social, economic, and political influence. They had institutions, collective power, and forms of autonomy that are often downplayed today. There were also customs that reflected a different understanding of family, lineage, and womanhood from the modern Christian framework many people now see as “traditional.” For example, women could own property in some contexts, become “female husbands” for lineage purposes, raise children within their paternal homes, and in certain situations where a husband was infertile or impotent, arrangements could be made, with his knowledge and consent, for the wife to conceive with another man while the children remained socially and culturally recognized as belonging to the husband’s lineage. You do not have to like every historical practice. But selectively accepting culture only when it reinforces male privilege while rejecting every part that acknowledges female autonomy is not cultural preservation. It is revisionism.

@David_TGL @treazyblaq “Who built the society” as if women did not partake in building the society, and that is after they had built every single man. 🙄

@treazyblaq I thought you were a sensible Igbo lady. I've quickly unfollowed. This path you've chosen, to talk down on the men who built the society and identity you claim, will not turn out great for you. Many have tried and are still trying, but have failed at every turn. It's a pity.

@drkrissthoughts @RufaiHafsat1 In summary, polyamory isn’t about marriage, and both genders (I.e if there are men and women in the relationship, cos it can be single sex depending on their sexuality) can have multiple partners unlike polygamy where only the man has multiple partners.

@Deedii02 @RufaiHafsat1 Oh...tell me the difference

You cannot enjoy this if your husband has two wives.

@drkrissthoughts @RufaiHafsat1 Polyamorous relationships are not the same as polygamy.

@RufaiHafsat1 That's a big lie. Just say you have no idea what polygamy is. You have even see yourself the non-religious polyamorous relationships online but chosen to ignore that.