I see a lot of people wonder why there aren’t more free IRL communities… Let me share a story from today, as someone who’s hosted 146 free walks every week since July 2022. I started requiring that people RSVP for my free event (it makes my life 100x easier) and a guy came up to me at the end of today’s walk and said: “I am going to waste 100 minutes of my life filling out your RSVP form over the course of a year… I also hate how it throws off the vibe at the beginning because everyone complains about filling out the form.” He complained about specific things (i.e. how it didn’t autofill even though he uses incognito browsing) and honestly made me feel like shit. Here I am… flabbergasted at this interaction because it feels like a bare minimum ask for attending an incredibly high-value, curated, FREE event on a weekly basis (this guy has attended easily 30+ times)… but he is not the first to do this. I’ve had dozens of other people complain about RSVPing in a similar way (with some outright refusing to do it), and I’m at my breaking point. If you’re wondering why there aren’t more free, high-quality events: behavior like this is why. The entitlement, bitterness, and combativeness I’ve experienced from asking people to do a *1-minute* task that’s expected at every single event on earth has frankly crushed my spirit. If it continues like this, I will need to make some big changes. I do not deserve to be treated this way, and I will not tolerate it. If you don’t want to RSVP, do not attend my events. Full stop. And lastly… if you attend a free IRL event or community you really enjoy, do not act like this. It kills the host’s morale and is a big reason why there aren’t more free communities. Bring gratitude with you. Ask how you can help. Be a kind human. (By the way… one man asked how he could help me today, and I really appreciated that. I asked him to write a testimonial and share with friends!) It goes such a long way. 🤍
