Dorcus Tabitha

Be careful with who you choose as your friend. Some are more dangerous than your enemies because they can make you change your true character and forget who you are, where you’re from, and what you want in life.

It's a lengthy read. Please read from a married man. He's narrating his experience in marriage with his wife. Ensure that you read to the last screenshot. It's alot to take. When you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny. AJD.

Be generous in prosperity, and thankful in adversity. Be worthy of the trust of thy neighbor, and look upon him with a bright and friendly face. Be a treasure to the poor, an admonisher to the rich, an answerer to the cry of the needy, a preserver of the sanctity of thy pledge. Be fair in thy judgment, and guarded in thy speech. Be unjust to no man, and show all meekness to all men. Be as a lamp unto them that walk in darkness, a joy to the sorrowful, a sea for the thirsty, a haven for the distressed, an upholder and defender of the victim of oppression. Let integrity and uprightness distinguish all thine acts. Be a home for the stranger, a balm to the suffering, a tower of strength for the fugitive.-#Bahaullah #Bahai #BahaiFaith #Generosity#Service

Have you all finished reading the married man's DM on the back up page? His story reminded me of an inlaw who unfortunately passed on because of the type of wife that he married. He was 45. He was asthmatic and had high blood pressure, which he had been managing even before he married her. This man did all he could to explain to his wife that her nagging was always getting to him, but she didn't listen. On the day he died, he called his brothers and sisters: "I have not been feeling well, the doctor adviced me to take a bed rest. But my wife has not been giving me peace. If I die, please know that she killed me, because the way I feel right now, I may not see tomorrow". They called his wife and pleaded with her to allow him to rest. A few hours later, the wife called to say that she was on her way to the hospital with him, and that he wasn't breathing well and was too weak. He died at the hospital few hours later, leaving behind a son and the pregnant wife at the time. The wife started shedding crocodile tears. Family members accepted their painful loss and buried their brother. The wife gave birth a few months later, and after a few weeks, abandoned the two children with the family in the village. She went to the city, sold his car and properties, and left for another state. A few months later, she returned to pick up the two children to God knows where. No one has seen those kids or set eyes on the "widow." Even when the family offered to take responsibility for the children, she and her family refused. I have left out some details from this story for obvious reasons. I want to reiterate, it is very important for you, regardless of gender, to choose someone who is kind. Kindness is one of the three pillars of marriage. If you marry an unkind spouse, they'll always look out for themselves first, before considering you. And it is worse if the unkind person is the wife. Because the wife runs the home. If she's selfish and greedy, nothing you do for her would either be enough or appreciated. Nagging would always want to drive you insane, and you may not live long. Because instead of your wife to be supportive, she would be sabotaging your efforts and milking you dry until nothing is left to milk. Then she would frustrate your life and still act like the victim. This is why I have been insisting that you, young people, should find ways to cohabit. A significant number of the issues you'd experience in marriage, cohabiting would give you the opportunity to see them first hand, and decide if this is truly what you want to live with for the rest of your life. These stories that I share are not fictional stories. They're people's experiences, and we are privileged to be reading them. The people behind those stories are humans like you and me. Do you think that if they had the power to see their future, they would have made such mistakes in the beginning? Learn from them and save yourself from having to come to my DM in the future. End.

And let me say this to young single ladies in relationship. If you go to cohabit with your boyfriends or you go to spend the weekend at his place. Please make sure that you return his change whenever he asks you to go buy anything. Do not say "it's small, be doesn't need it". Give account of every penny you spent from the money he gave you. Even if he is forming not interested in knowing, do it. If you see money in a random place, don't just take it. Tell him that you saw money somewhere, and that you used it for this or that. Or you ask him why he kept money so carelessly. If you tell him that you need 500k to change your phone, and he's "stupid" enough to give it to you, do not spend the entire 500k on a phone. Spend 250k and show him what you plan to use 250k for. Do not go to your boyfriend's house and start forming over-familiarity with his neighbors. Or going to beg his neighbors for salt, maggi, pepper or even water. If he doesn't have those things in his house at the moment, use your money to buy them. And tell him about it later. There are many ways that you as a lady can show that you're not a liability or a leech. But your ojúkòkòrò will not let you be great. To you, your toto water is all that matters. I pity you. End.

If your wife cannot buy as little as salt without waiting for you, then you're in big trouble in your marriage. Even if she's not working. No wife should go to the market with 10k that you gave her, & she comes back without change. Even if the 10k is not enough. End.

No Lie📌 we are all chasing vanity.

Women know that most men would cancel them because of the bad behavior of their mothers. So they may pretend to be different, to decieve you into marrying them. Then they may team up with their mothers, to deal with you. You can't separate a daughter from her mother. End.

Dear young single ladies, If your man is currently living in your house, please kick him out. Tell him to go look for his own house, if he wants to be in a relationship with you. Do not let his penis & the way he licks your toto to decieve your brain. I have said my own. End

We all know how Submissive women move: Not words but Actions depict their truest self. One give away is “How we hold our men’s opinions in high regard..”

Some of you young girls don't even know that you're a walking red flag. You'll be going to see your boyfriend, you'll beg him for tfare, wash your toto and do make up. Then you visit him empty handed. Common fruits you cannot buy for him. Your only value is sex. Then when you're leaving, you'd expect him to give you money and buy something for your friends, siblings or mother. If he doesn't give you, you'll go and cheat with another man. Your audacity and greed is so loud. End.

At the minimum, your wife should be able to put your children through their primary school homework or class lessons. Don't marry a woman that you'd spend a lot of money on her, & she cannot guide your kids through simple primary school homework. Your wife na itiboribo. End.

There is something I noticed that my wife is teaching our daughter. Every Sunday, when they return from church, my daughter brings 'puff puff' to me, which she bought for me. It's her mother's money, but she would always say: "Daddy, I bought you this." Then do you know what I always tell her? "Thank you for my daughter, you're beginning to learn how you'd treat your man when you come of age. This is what your mother was always doing whenever she visited me. One of the reasons I married her". End.

Qualities of a good wife. 1) she's mostly interested in the academics of the children. 2) she goes to bed after her entire family and wakes up before everyone. 3) she's always financially accountable to her husband. 4) she doesn't let her financial success get into her head. 5) she makes sure that she cooks the meal of her husband, whenever she's free to do it, regardless of the number of maids that they have. 6) she protects her husband and covers his shsme. Especially from their children. 7) she most likely would not cheat on her husband. And even when she does, she would do it with a man that has shame and a lot to lose. 8) she's almost always clean. Her hygiene turns her man on. 9) She's not a religious woman who jumps from one religious house to the other. And her religious leader is not above her husband. 10) she'll not cheat back when her husband cheats. 11) she's not a feminist. 12) she shows a lot of respect for her father. And she avoids her mother who wants to stain her white. 13) she's submissive and respectful, because the man has earned it. 14) she'll never turn the minds of your children against you. Even if your marriage with her did not work out. 15) she doesn't have to have a big bumbum, or the most banging body or pretty face. These are just a few. End.

Nobody tries to dim a light that isn't shining. Remember that next time someone "corrects" your energy in public.

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Nothing is as painful to a man who once dated you, & who made you feel like you were nothing, as seeing that you've moved on & are doing better without him. He'll gaslight you & try to manipulate your feelings with pitiful words, just so you can come back. He's a loser. End.

When a man catches his wife cheating, she defends the man that she's cheating with. When a wife catches her husband cheating, he defends his wife from the woman he's cheating with. End.

Do not marry a woman that you do not have unfettered access to her phones. You have the right to go through it without it causing a fight. You don't even need to hack it, or forcefully demand for her password. A woman that wants to do right by you, will act accordingly. End.