Àgbà John Doe (back up)
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Àgbà John Doe (back up)
@jon_d_doee
Man, Husband, Father, Uncle. C-in-C of Àgbàfians. We all know what we're doing. Reality-based. Send DMs for relationship, family, marriage or life in general.
Katılım Eylül 2022
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Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
My son came back from school and as usual we were discussing things that happened while he was there.
To be candid, I am grateful to the Almighty for these children. If I had been left to parent alone without God's guidance, it would have been a flop.
He talked about consent and how he doesn't joke with it. He even said it applies to the girl he likes, whom we all know in the house. He said something that stayed with me, he said consent doesn't start and stop with sex.
That consent and self-restraint work hand in hand. If you can build your discipline and learn to restrain yourself from some things, you'd find it easier to understand how consent works and apply it.
He then said, before he even gives his girl a hug, he asks "Can I hug you?" Or "Is it okay to hug you?" That the girl feels awkward every time he does it and has been telling him to stop... his response in his words... "Stop fire."😂 "Me wey be say I love to text than talk over the phone. If I no trust the chat sef, I go screenshot and send am to myself then save for cloud."
Then I remembered this Agba @jon_d_doe's post and went digging. I showed it to him. He just said "uche m dị ya."
Young men need to be very careful these days. As parents we need to forewarn them so they can be forearmed.
Àgbà John Doe@jon_d_doe
Dear young men, After you have had consensual sex with a lady, please find a way to get her to admit that she enjoyed the sex, & that it was consensual. Then keep your receipts. End.
Ikare, Nigeria 🇳🇬 English
Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
No matter who vouches for a person, always get to know them yourself.
What happened in his first marriage?
Who's with the children and how old are they?
Ask yourself seriously, of you'd want the interference of two children in your new marriage.
Do not use repayment for kindness to get entangled in something and someone you don't know.
Be careful.
Ikare, Nigeria 🇳🇬 English
You remember when I said this 👍
No Man’s Life 🌏@Nomanslife01
@jon_d_doee If you have been following Agba for long now you’ll understand why the family are so nice to you, especially when he’s almost 40 and divorced. He’s not a good man or probably has some kind of sickness they don’t want you to know. They want you to find out yourself in marriage.
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From my DM.
This is my issue: I have been single for a year now, and the family in the place I am renting wants to set me up with a man for marriage.
I don't see it as right since the man in question is once divorced. I am 25 years old, working, and the man is 37 with 2 kids from his previous marriage.
Their main focus is I, building a family with him since they know I am well behaved and the guy grew up from this same family [He is a public figure in a very big position].
I don't know much about this man; I have NEVER had a single conversation with him. The family is really vouching for him, including the children. The family has been so kind to me 🙏. How do I navigate this, please, Agba?
AJD.
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Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
This picture was taken 21 years ago on the day I became a wife, surrounded by our families, our traditions, and people who travelled from far and wide to celebrate with us.
Somehow, whenever I hold it, it brings out a smile because the young woman in it had no idea how many versions of herself she would become.
Through the years, I am grateful for every season: the joyful ones that gave me beautiful memories and the difficult ones that shaped my character.
Those seasons taught me that beyond grand gestures, marriage is sustained by forgiveness, kindness, empathy, patience, sacrifice, shared laughter after difficult days, and the quiet decision to stay when walking away would have been easier.
I am no longer the woman in this picture with the long gele Anụlịka tied for me.😂 I have grown, stumbled, learned, healed, and I am still evolving. Through every season, I have held on to the choice I made, with God as my strength.
Twenty-one years have taught me that marriage is about two imperfect people choosing, again and again, to remain committed, keep rowing together, and weather life's storms side by side.
It is Commitment over Perfection.
Here is to more years of grace, growth, peace, laughter, and love. ❤️
Ikare, Nigeria 🇳🇬 English
Sorry about her experience.
But she is using style to beg those men in her DMs.
With the Akupe on her eyes.
No woman will come to her aid.
Instablog9ja@instablog9ja
“My bank account got hacked, and all of my life savings got wiped out. They only left N194.” — Lady cries out
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Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
Agba, the first five years of marriage is the unboxing phase, sometimes the things we unbox eh eeeeeiiiii🤭
But, seriously, I think it is more about how it was said than what was said.
There is a way she will relate that, it will be a turning point for him to do and be better. And there's another way that could shred any ounce of dignity the man has left.
This is why I always say we should learn to bridle our emotions as wives.
Àgbà John Doe (back up)@jon_d_doee
She may not be wrong in the logical sense. The first 5 years of marriage is always the toughest on both sides. You as a man, should after 5 years, have learnt better ways to lead your wife and learn that a blind husband is a good husband. If she have not caught her cheating, continue your marriage. My first 5 years in marriage was tough, despite dating my wife for 9 years. It's not everything that a woman says that you must take too seriously. Ask your father if he's still alive, or ask men who have stayed longer in marriage. AJD.
Lagos, Nigeria 🇳🇬 English
Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
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Àgbà John Doe (back up) retweetledi
My younger daughter and I drove out to get a few things this evening, and as we were chatting about boys and how they woo girls, I just brought up a twist with some points using the padlock and key analogy to drive them home.
She still dey process am.
Tonight, high school romance and relationship questions go plenty, I ready. 😂
Lagos, Nigeria 🇳🇬 English
You better don't.
Make I no go block you by mistake.
The Odin@TheOdin_II
If I change my DP would you still recognise this page?
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She may not be wrong in the logical sense.
The first 5 years of marriage is always the toughest on both sides.
You as a man, should after 5 years, have learnt better ways to lead your wife and learn that a blind husband is a good husband.
If she have not caught her cheating, continue your marriage.
My first 5 years in marriage was tough, despite dating my wife for 9 years.
It's not everything that a woman says that you must take too seriously.
Ask your father if he's still alive, or ask men who have stayed longer in marriage.
AJD.
Em Burna@EMburna
@jon_d_doee My wife open her mouth to say the 5 years of our marriage has been the worst 5 years of her life. I just weak.
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