Dumb subby

honestly the way some of y'all are promoting depression and self hatred as something that is to be celebrated and made fun of when a sub is serving you is simply deranged. if your goal as a human being is making someone else's life worse, you're not a domme, you're just a terrible human being. submission, HEALTHY submission should always come from a place of admiration and love. it should feel safe (even when you're engaging in more extreme scenes, especially then imo) and it should add meaning to your life. if you're noticing a sub's mental health getting worse as he's serving you, don't leave that matter unaddressed. yes, it is not our job to play "therapist", but it is a sign of basic human decency to step up when another person is not well. have a conversation and recommend them to get specialized help if needed. stop romanticizing abuse.