@Oluomoofderby Or Encourage Nigerian men to remember that their actions have consequences in a country with rules, unlike some places where rules are for decoration.
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Fadequeen
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Fadequeen
@Fadequeen23
A girl that found favor!
Nowhere Katılım Temmuz 2011
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If you’re still planning to bring a woman abroad in 2026, you will see pro max shege.
The Nigerian man currently in prison charged with marital rape brought her down to the UK in 2024. I can’t speak on that case until after the trial in October.
Decisions like relocating someone come with real risks and responsibilities. It’s important to think things through carefully and protect yourself legally and emotionally.
There are many similar cases to this guy’s situation. All he needs is a good lawyer.
Once he noticed she was cheating, that should have been the end of the marriage.
She went to taste another man and you’re still trying to make peace? She knows exactly what she’s doing.
Some people are navigating these systems in ways that others may not expect, and there are more cases like this than many realize.
If you go to the family court in Holborn, London, you’ll be shocked by how many Nigerian families are involved in child support disputes.
For anyone already in a difficult situation like this, getting proper legal representation is critical.
AHMADINHO 🇳🇬🇬🇧@dinho_1545
This is the true story of my very good friend in the UK right now. In 2023 he brought the girl he loved from university days over from Nigeria. He went home, did everything properly with her family and paid the full bride price, traditional wedding, the works. Few months later she was in the UK as his wife. What happened next destroyed him💔💔💔
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This Nigerian boy trying to be more maga than maga. Idiot.
Jardani🕊️@jardani41
Conservatives are generally happier than liberals. Why? Because we actually have foundation and family values.
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@GodwinTom @Babajiide It is not a must to be a father. Providing alone is not enough. Both parents should try their best to build relationship with their kids. I have a husband that works out of state and still have good relationship with our kids without me playing middle man.
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@Fadequeen23 @Babajiide Don't mean or intend to be pedantic... while imperative, none of that is easy. That's why it requires commitment and determination.
Is it important/imperative? Absolutely!
Is it easy? Nope!
Only speaking for people who actually have jobs and have to be present at work.
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How do you as a man connect with your kids and be present while still holding a full career and provider role ?
- Create the time. If you leave early and come late, don’t play with your weekends with them. Spend time bonding with them, take them out, have shows you watch with them, be curious and not assertive.
- Attend school functions. Take the day off, use your leave, be intentional.
- Don’t always say you are tired. Find the strength and energy.
- Hug them as much as you can. Show affection.
- Explain your job to them. What you do, how that translates to money and responsibilities, and how it helps them afford the life they want
Florz@The_Florencee
Men are always arguing about the wrong things. You can work and still show up for your kids, but nooo, you want them to have a rapport with you when you’re not present. “I was out working to feed them.” Mind you, you can do that and still be present in their lives, lmao.
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It’s easy to say all of this in theory 🤣… but real life isn’t always that simple.
At the end of the day, choose a woman with strong family values and the fear of God, and build your home with Christ at the center…that foundation matters more than all these online theories.
Growing up, my dad wasn’t always around. Because of his job and location, he came home maybe every two weeks. My mum was the one who was constantly present. So naturally, there wasn’t much emotional bonding with my dad….not because he didn’t care, but because life and responsibilities didn’t give him that time.
But one thing I’ll never forget….whenever my dad sent school fees, my mum would always gather us and say, “Your dad has sent money, call him, thank him, and pray for him.”
Even when my dad wasn’t financially buoyant, my mum would sometimes step in with her own money, but she would never let us know. She would still tell us it was from our dad.
That alone built a level of respect and honor for him in our hearts.
Now that I’m older, I genuinely love and respect both my parents deeply. In fact, my dad still comes first in many ways. If I’m sending money home, I could send ₦1M and give my dad ₦600k, and my mum ₦400k. When I need advice or want to make a major decision, he’s the first person I call.
So it’s not always about “he didn’t bond, so the kids won’t value him.” Life is more layered than that. Provision, sacrifice, upbringing, and even how parents present each other to the children all play a role.
Some men didn’t get the balance right, yes….but it doesn’t automatically erase the love or respect their children have for them.
Chicken Catcher🐔@Only1Etubo
I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again. Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing. Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for. If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide. But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.” I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that. Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.
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@Only1Etubo Let them use a dog to try the experiment.
Get a dog. Give it to someone else to feed, clothe and care for while you send money for these things.
One day, go and visit the dog after some months, wo, it will not only bark at you, it will bite you🤣.
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You see that tweet I twoted yesterday? You people are right. Please don't mind me. Don't build any relationship with your kids. Don't communicate with them. Don't show up for them. Don't hang out with them. Let their mother do everything. Let their mother be the one doing the explanation to them. Let their mother be one explaining you are out there hustling for them. Let their mother be the one enduring their tantrums. You just keep working. You cannot Kuku do everything. Keep working. Don't spend time with your kids. You are right. When your kids grow up, they will understand your absence.
But, in the future when they post their mom and don't post you, please don’t vex o. When they call their mom on the phone and converse for like an hour, and they call you for 20 seconds to check up on you. Don't vex o. When all you see is credit alert and gifts and you don't see them. Don't vex o. I hope you will understand their absence too. When the time comes and they hardly visit you. Don't vex o. Don't go on internet and explain how you have suffered for them o ❤️
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@AfricaIka90 @ladyprowess Yes, she can, but it's important to develop a relationship with your kids. My husband has been working offshore for years, and our kids, as young as 4 years, know his schedule. He is closer to them more than me their mother.
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@Fadequeen23 @ladyprowess The mother is right there she can always explain .but when the man is back he can go to his child and make it up with him
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My husband should leave providing for the family to attend the kids party when I can do that comfortably without anyone being affected???
Tech and online jobs is making y’all think that life is easy.
I’ll teach my kids to understand that your father not attending is because he couldn’t do that and that does not stop him from loving you.
That was what my mum did for us. She always try to make us understand the actions of our dad. I didn’t understand before but growing up and seeing a lot of things I realized that my mum did great.
She did everything she can to make sure we don’t hate our dad… A man that wasn’t trained with emotional support can’t give it. No man is perfect and you can’t give what you don’t have but as a mother you can help me where he’s having issues.
A lot of times, kids hatred for their dad is being sponsored by their mom. I know this cos I’ve heard a lot of my friends say how their mum use to turn them against their dad…
I know someone specifically that currently hate his mom with passion because it was after the death of his dad he realized that his mom has been manipulating them.
He said the only thing he ever gave his dad was 5,000 and he had to hide and give him cos his mom won’t allow them.
I can’t say everything but I won’t allow my husband go thru all that to prove to you that he loves you; if you can’t see the sacrifices he’s doing for you as something.
When you grow up and have your own kids, you’ll understand
Chicken Catcher🐔@Only1Etubo
I have tweeted this a few times, and I will tweet it again. Firstly, we cannot say they didn’t build or buy a house for their fathers just because it wasn’t posted online. Secondly, if they didn’t, there must be a story behind it. Lastly, and most importantly, we men underestimate the importance of bonding, showing up, and emotionally supporting our kids. We act like these things aren’t as important as providing. Many men don’t even try at all. no bond, no emotional support, and just providing. Do you know why many men are quick to disown their kids? It’s because there is no bond. We see it online all the time: a video of kids making mistakes, and men commenting, “If any of my kids try this, I will disown them.” That easy? The first thing that comes to your mind is to disown them? I changed so many diapers, soothed their sickness, and endured every tantrum, and you just want me to disown my kids? Many men see kids as people they only need to provide for. If all you do is provide, while the mother does the showing up, emotional support, and bonding, then when the kids grow up and it’s time to give back, they will do the same. Not because they are bad kids, but because that’s what they learned. They will celebrate their mother more. They will talk to her more. Meanwhile, you as the father who only provided, will only receive financial gestures and gifts. You will be taken care of. They will like post their mom and rarely post you. Ask people who openly celebrate their dads if all he did was provide. But if you never celebrated them when they were young, why should they celebrate you? You can’t expect them to miraculously create a bond you never built. If you’re lucky, your kids may unlearn that pattern and try to build a relationship with you, but it will be difficult, because they were raised with, “As a father, it’s my way or the highway.” I work 12 to 16 hours sometimes, and my daughter has a game right after that. I get tired, really tired, but I still show up. And many times, when I get there, the smile that lights up her face when she spots me in the crowd is priceless. I love seeing that. Do you think I always have the strength to go to parks, birthday parties, pools, and watch her play sports? Sometimes I want to rest, but I still try. And whenever I can’t make it, I communicate that with her. I don’t just fail to show up. I explain and give her reasons. So, my brothers, providing for your family and being emotionally present aren’t mutually exclusive. Try. Otherwise, when you are down, your kids won’t be beside you on your deathbed, but they will make sure you d*e comfortably.
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@MaryRoseMalomo If I serve my husband first, I'm confident he'll check my temperature before eating. Everyone cooks whatever they enjoy, and when we all eat the same meal, everyone helps themselves.
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Anybody that is hungry eats first.
In most cases, that's me. Because if I'm not hungry, I no go even stand up cook.
Which one is set aside man's food first?😭
Temi Of ATL🇺🇸🇳🇬@FavorGrace90
Whenever i cook, the first thing i do is set aside my man’s food before anyone else. I thought it was normal… like Daddy’s food first, then the rest 😅 That’s how I grew up o😬
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It’s really unclear whether Trump’s 2020 + 2024 gains among non-white voters are durable. Maybe 2028 brings another sizable coalition shift.
There's been substantial Dem-reversion among Latinos especially in post-2024 elections, but those races have different turnout dynamics.
Zachary Donnini@ZacharyDonnini
Nonwhite voters overwhelmingly shifted back toward Democrats in Virginia’s redistricting referendum last week. YES ran better in pretty much all Hispanic and Asian plurality precincts compared to Kamala Harris’s 2024 baseline, while White precincts moved right.
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@dammiedammie35 So he won't miss the companionship of his wife, but only her cooking. Why not hire a cook for him?
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“Another thing I hate is for a woman to escape to Canada to do and do Omugwo for 3 years, it’s very bad. That’s how you’ll see a 75 years old man going around to buy Boli. If you’re going to Canada, we’re going together. If our child’s house can’t contain us, I have money, I’ll get an hotel”
- Pastor Bisi Adewale
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I agree! Most Nigerian men on X are assholes.
bri@legs4brunch
I’m ready to take legal action against the country of Nigeria
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@tweetbibby I trust my Naija women. 75% wont leave him. They love their husband more than their lifes.
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A man refused to allow the doctors to perform CS for his wife who is in labor .He says she must give birth naturally...
I don't know who raised this set of men that think CS is a bad thing...
If I were the woman as soon as I deliver that baby,that will be the end of that marriage..
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Fadequeen retweetledi
“Adunni in Kene’s Silence is every successful woman who has everything but goes home to an empty house. I had to rewatch this film because the storyline stayed with me.
The truth is, not every Nollywood story needs controversy to be powerful. Sometimes quiet and real is enough.
@BiodunStephenO understood the assignment. We are not talking about this movie enough.”
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Fadequeen retweetledi
@BiodunStephenO is not praised enough for her creativity. Only her will think of true stories that are relatable in real life with matching environments, props, costumes and not overly exaggerated delusional characters/interpetation. Watch Kene’s silence today here youtu.be/wUZC0y-pKeE?si…
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