@vkgscotland1 My husband and I have always had separate bank accounts and neither of us could say exactly what the other earns. Stops any arguments about my books and his clothes
On the latest “Sturgeon must have known ” unionist obsession, and meltdown
My wife and I have separate bank accounts, and have no idea what we both buy for ourselves or others.
So, what’s the big deal? 🤷🏼♂️
My parents slept in separate rooms my whole childhood. I asked my dad about it once. He said they made a deal early because my mum snores and he tosses. He said they sat down one evening and talked it through like a business meeting. His words. He said the first night apart they both slept like babies. He said they were happier than they had ever been. He never told people. Because when he said separate rooms they said oh I'm sorry. He said he was never sorry. He was just tired of explaining that love does not have to mean sharing a blanket. They are still married 39 years later.
There was a discussion tonight. It was suggested that only old people have favourite poems, only old people have favourite novels, plays, & even films. Can this be true? Does anyone have a favourite poem? Do you? Thoughts?
I’m going to let myself get personal for a minute.
Today is shower day.
If you had asked me three and a half years ago what the hardest part of my day would ever be, I would have laughed if someone said:
“Taking a shower.”
A shower?
Something warm. Something comforting. Something people associate with relaxing after a long day.
Three and a half years ago, I would have thought walking through soft sand at Clearwater Beach in the Florida heat, feeling the sun on my skin, the breeze coming off the water, playing two-on-two volleyball, running, pushing my body, would be harder.
It isn’t.
The shower became harder.
Because for many people living with chronic illness and chronic pain, there are mountains hidden inside ordinary things.
Standing upright.
Heat.
Pain.
Dizziness.
Heart rate.
Fatigue.
The quiet calculation that starts before the water is even turned on.
“Do I have enough in me today?”
People see a shower and see ten minutes.
Some of us see an obstacle course.
And unless you’ve lived it, I don’t think people understand the grief that comes with watching something that once meant comfort become something you mentally prepare for.
To those living this too, I want to hear from you.
What are your shower-day hacks? Shower chairs? Cooling tricks? Music? Breaking it into steps? Resting before and after?
Jump into the replies.
No judgment.
No explaining yourself.
Just people who understand the things the rest of the world often never sees.
Legitimately curious to hear your thoughts…
In your day-to-day interactions with people, do you find that people are less intelligent today than in years past?
@FishyFishkin@danhathersage Yes but,most medieval representations still depict women as relatively thin. But what was valued was mainly a curvier lower body, a slightly rounded stomach and wider hips as signs of fertility.It was essentially a pear-shaped ideal:slim on top and wider on the bottom.
Funerary effigy of Anne of Bohemia, queen consort of Richard II. Over 600 years old. Used at her funeral on 3 August 1394.
And yes, I did get jumpscared by her.
What fresh hell is this?
Just when you thought Meghan Markle had run out of embarrassing ideas for her basic products…
Behold her latest culinary crime: a hard, dry-looking scone - weirdly fashioned to look like a burger - overpowered by cream and oozing honey, of all things. 🤮
Even those ridiculously unnecessary flower sprinkles are trying to make a break for it. 😬
#AsEverAFail
Your reminder that if West Ham are relegated today, then next season will be the first season in the entire 138-year history of the English top flight without a team beginning with the letter W.
@FishyFishkin You're the fourth or fifth person to tell me this, and I'm not going to gainsay you. But the core point remains: just about any tinned bean is better than 99.9% of homemade attempts.
YES, this. Heinz have perfected baked beans, and the supermarket own brands aren't far behind. There's no call to make them in-house, unless you're fetishizing unnecessary effort for its own sake.