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a lot of y'all don't believe ppl can meaningfully improve and it shows

Scientists ran a debate experiment on 30 four-person groups of strangers, scanning everyone’s brain in real time. The pairs with similar autistic traits clicked together. The brain region powering that connection was completely different from the one the other pairs used. The work came out of Tianjin Normal University and appeared in Biological Psychiatry in September 2025. Researchers used small light-based scalp sensors to capture brain activity as it happened. They put together 30 four-person groups, each with two students scoring high on a standard autism survey and two scoring low. The groups listened to an audio story, then debated which fictional characters to rescue from a deserted island under turn-taking rules. Afterwards, every participant privately rated who they wanted to be friends with. The mutual attraction only showed up when opinions matched during the survival debate. When two students agreed on who to rescue, the one with high autistic traits wanted to be friends with the other high-trait student. The same happened for low-trait students. Matching on personality, like both being extraverts, had no effect. The brain scans revealed the mechanism. Low-trait pairs synced up in a region called the right temporoparietal junction, the social autopilot that reads the room without conscious effort. High-trait pairs lit up elsewhere. Their brains synchronized in the right dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, the focused-thinking region you use to solve a math problem. Both kinds of pairs reached the same level of connection, just through different neural hardware. This finding mirrors a 2020 study from Edinburgh, where researchers passed a story person-to-person through a chain of eight people. Autistic-only chains kept about 13 details out of 30. Non-autistic-only chains kept about 12. Mixed chains, where the two types alternated, dropped to roughly 9 details, a 31% decline. The latest CDC numbers from April 2025 put autism at 1 in 31 US eight-year-olds, up from 1 in 36 just two years earlier. For decades, the standard line in research and clinical practice called this a social skills deficit. School and clinical programs were built around fixing it. The new scans suggest there was nothing to fix in the first place. Those brains were doing the social work all along, just in a different part of the cortex.

Let me tell you a story why Wayne is wrong that his advice is the only advice, and how a father ought to look out for his son, and how men ought to guide and protect younger men. A woman I know owed $75k in student loans. Her boyfriend loved her and wanted to marry her. His dad believed they were a great match, but was concerned about his son starting off life $75k in the hole. What did his father do? His father approached the young woman’s father about her debt. He respectfully told him that his daughter’s debt was his since she accrued it while under his authority, and that his son should not be burdened with such at the beginning of building their life together. The girl’s father disagreed at first, but over time came to realize that his future son-in-law’s father was right. Rather than passing on the debt to the next generation at the beginning of their marriage, the young man’s father ensured the right man took responsibility for his daughter’s debt.

The problem isn’t your hobbies. The problem is that you aren’t good enough at your hobbies. There are groupies for every annoying endeavor on earth. Video game groupies. Fly fishing groupies. Marching band groupies. She’s repulsed not by your hobby but by your mediocrity.

When women say they don't like a male hobby, you must translate this to, "I feel anxious if I see my boyfriend/husband spending time on a surrogate activity rather than a tangible achievement, because I feel our resources are insecure, and like he isn't prioritising my needs." If a woman feels safe with you, and knows you have things taken care of, she won't care about you spending the occasional hour a week on Rome Total War.

True outliers, especially those of higher intelligence, have a complex relationship with the feeling of belonging. Many have never experienced true belonging in the groups they have been a part of. The more extroverted and physically attractive ones often have others relate to them - however, they do not feel the same in return. Over time, they begin to wonder if belonging to a group is something that simply does not exist for them. It becomes a question of which groups require them to mask less. Even in personal connections, it is not that they cannot sustain friendships or build a tribe - many are adept at doing so - but rather that these friendships often feel inauthentic. They become a kind of coping mechanism, cobbled together as a pseudo-placeholder for the deep belonging they long for. They usually have no difficulty moving on from friendships, not because they are heartless, but because true resonance was never there to begin with. What most do not realise is that when they do find souls whom they truly resonate with, they are deeply sentimental. Finding someone with true resonance is like hitting the mother of all jackpots - a sensation that is both soothing and terrifyingly exposing at the same time - often, an experience that is deeply healing. Ultimately, they value belonging - they just rarely experience it.

Reading people's justifications for pushing the blue button is actually spiking my cortisol levels If everybody pushes red - nothing happens! So why on earth would anyone press blue? It's a needless gamble, but it's being painted as the altruistic decision for some reason

(tbc I only consider this style of negotiation to be valid when Entities unilaterally subject humanity to negative-EV games. Positive offers are a different matter!)