@deborgex@pixyrot "setting yourself up for heartbreak" yea too late brother. I am not saying you are wrong. Just everything has its balance. I'm not good at finding it yet.
@Gennada2@pixyrot And that's fine and all, but still, don't get too attached. I won't stop you from setting yourself up for heartbreak, but I'll just warn you that attachment inevitably leads to disappointment
Then again, you can always apply my mentality and decide my opinion is worth nothing
@Gennada2@pixyrot But I think a slightly more palatable way to word this is to consider this:
Would you care about what a Chinese farmer in the Qin Dynasty thought about you?
If you can apply this mentality to most people, then you can gradually replace the existing beliefs
@salixstardust@pixyrot I think hurting the people I care about is what I worry about the most. It's just hard to convince myself of anything else when the feelings are so strong. I'll keep your advice in mind. Thanks
@Gennada2@pixyrot In life we never stop changing and we never stop growing and that is really scary but we have to do it so we don’t keep hurting ourselves and others
@Gennada2@pixyrot There is a fix. A lot of people who have this are mostly too scared to take that leap. People choose familiar hell instead of new heaven time and time again.
@dollcramps@HopelessManmode That was me for a couple years after I got my corpo job. Was lucky enough to get mentored by an outgoing colleague so it's better now, but it more feels like I now have a switch I can flip to be more social. Still feels fake
I am actually like, a 24 year old with the life experiences, attitudes and desires of a 14 year old
Maybe becoming social isolated and not rly talking to anyone for 3 years when I was a teen was bad, but I am unsure
I struggle not still seeing the same boy i was in my face, i can still see all the same bone underneath, being trans sucks because you can't unsee all that made you a man