Valencia's Academy

I have created and published my first Adult Coloring & Activity Book. It just went live today! I'm so excited! The link is below if you'd like to purchase one! a.co/d/g2XDgS5

Why Dommes don’t keep most subs: Because most men want the title Not the discipline. 1. They become emotional labor. Constant reassurance. Constant pings. A Domme isn’t keeping a dependent. 2. They don’t follow instructions. They “interpret.” They freestyle. If you can’t follow words, you can’t follow her. 3. They’re inconsistent. Intense for 3 days gone for 2 weeks. Devotion is routine, not mood. 4. They negotiate standards. Discounts. Loopholes. “Can we do it my way?” Bargaining kills authority. 5. They bring fantasy energy. Porn scripts. Quick highs. No structure. Real dynamics require trust & behavior. 6. They take more than they give. They want attention, access, comfort without adding value. 7. They can’t take correction. Excuses. Defensiveness. Dramatic apologies. Dommes keep trainable men. What gets kept: quiet discipline, consistency, contribution. Be easy to lead or be replaced

The one thing that makes Dommes keep a sub? It’s not intensity. Not compliments. Not “I’m yours.” It’s reliability. Reliability means: She can count on you without thinking. Reliability is NOT: • begging for attention • random bursts of devotion • emotional speeches • “I’ll do better” promises What reliability looks like: • Do what she said, the first time • Show up on schedule • Self regulate • Bring value (time/money/skills/support) • Take feedback cleanly No excuses, fix it, improve Dommes keep the sub who is reliable, trainable, and devoted Be easy to lead or be easy to replaced

Just girl things

Just a reminder that you must go to my LF to DM me. I do not reply to DM's here anymore unless you're one of my leather sisters or a female Domme that I engage with on here. Also, Jake gets replies here because he's special!

The most recent line that I've heard that I definitely agree with is... "I don't want someone to be obsessed with me, I want them to be INTENTIONAL WITH ME!" It's okay to be a bit obsessed. However, if you're not intentional then, LEAVE ME ALONE!

Some of you are lacking comprehension skills when it comes to communication with an actual Femdom Dominatrix. So let me break it down to you: We are professional Dominants, that means that not only we are (most of us) naturally dominant, it is literally our profession to establish, maintain and embody power dynamics. What it means for you is simple: From your very first interaction with a Dominatrix, you should acknowledge and respect the power dynamic. It’s not about submitting right away, it’s about understanding and respecting the role of who you are contacting and communicating accordingly; even if you are not a submissive. You don’t have to grovel (Although I do have a soft spot for simps), but you should at the very least: start your message with an appropriate greeting, use proper honorific, make complete coherent sentences and don’t expect us to work for free. These are the bare minimum standards. If you cannot manage these basic things, a true dominant woman will discard you like a crumb; because we have zero tolerance for mediocrity.

Just in case y'all want to know a bit about how I operate.

With all the madness going on in the world today, I think this should brighten someone's day! It did mine!

Finally a man explaining why strong women stay single longer🔥💯

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A lot of you are having trouble with this one….

Hackers are busy! I just had to change passwords and add extra security to my accounts! Everybody should do the same. I woke up to an email for a login and passkey add that wasn't my doings! When I looked at the activity, 3 were from the U.S. and 1 from Nigeria.

Let’s normalize leaving women alone if you: - Don’t have money - Won’t worship the ground they walk on