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anyone else do this to the bots when they’re bored

@ValerieVixen226 think you approached it the right way. I wish more people would think like you and focus on learning instead of rushing into it believing it’s easy and quick money.

I think the quality of certain services have changed significantly, which is why I prefer my long-term subs people I’ve had for over eight years serve me The new doms don’t quite understand the build at least from my experience. My intro into the industry was four months of training at a dungeon, hands-on under two mistresses really teaching me dynamics of play and psychology that I needed to master before really taking on my own brand. I’m sure there’s exceptions to the rule, but the landscape of this work has changed significantly.

I don’t care if people criticize me, but the Findom domme standard has dropped so much. Back in the day, subs had to do their research, approach with a tribute, and actually work for it. Nowadays, our DMs are just filled with “send pig.” It’s tiring.

@milfdomontop I agree with you of course subs have a choice. But waking up to 15+ DMs a day filled with this kind of spam gets overwhelming. It scares away a lot of good subs. My point is simply to raise awareness about the issue and hopefully encourage people to change their behavior.

Youre correct - wrong advice.. but let's be real... subs still have a choice ultimately on who they interact with.., I believe there is a level of noise and chaos when most entertain this world. Shouts of "send" and ignored needs. I believe if any Dom or Sub has the time and patience to swim past the crashing breaking waters, to where a different type of fish swim, they'll learn and grow in and with this space instead.

@spookysorceress Well I only speak from my personal experiences. Everyone is different.

@HappySubbie1 Ngl some subs only want a domme that demands one thing from them like their money because it’s something they actually get off to if that’s not for you then move on

@_Goddess_Charli @WorshipEmberlyn Maybe because I already have someone I worship? Ever thought of that?

@WorshipEmberlyn @HappySubbie1 Right? I don't see why he is wasting his time typing words instead of worshipping us quietly.

@peachyaless Discord

@HappySubbie1 is there any other good app for this?

@milfdomontop Because so many new dommes are entering this world through TikTok and getting the wrong advice.

@HappySubbie1 I find it interesting that serving from a place of admiration rather than humiliation seems to be spoken about far less,. I wonder why.

@milfdomontop This is exactly what I’ve been trying to get across to dommes for years. Finally, someone gets it! Not all subs enjoy degradation and humiliation. Some are comfortable with themselves and simply enjoy serving a powerful woman.

It's interesting; mystique, confidence and earned connection suggest to me you notice details others miss. I wonder if the issue is a lack of communication and appreciation. I find it interesting there appears to be a common misconception that every submissive prefers chaos and degradation. One size fits approach with ears closed. Patience, trust and real communication is seemingly a disappearing art.

@Saphiem5d5 I feel the same.

@HappySubbie1 It’s so oversaturated that I feel like I haven’t interacted with anyone real

@milfdomontop Mystique, confidence, class, and understanding her own power and worth. A real connection takes time to build not just spamming “send pig” as a first message.

@HappySubbie1 Perhaps older subs understood that earning attention was part of the privilege. 📝 feel free to let me know what woukd separate an ordinary Domme from one you'd feel genuinely compelled to serve..

@GoddessMirah2U I 100% agree with you. It sucks!

@HappySubbie1 With all the dommes on TikTok, that is all they talk about "STFU and send" or "Pay me pig". You hardly ever hear any one of them talk about building a dynamic. So of course it's now flooded with people who think it's easy money. And have to be a brat to get it. They have no clue.

@princesslsocks I agree

@HappySubbie1 It goes both ways sadly it needs to go back to how it was before all the scammers

@GoddessMirah2U I can only speak from a subs perspective. I’m not a domme. But it sucks for both for sure!

@HappySubbie1 Yes, It has changed. Dommes get more and more freeloaders in their dms too. It goes on both sides. Pathetic actually. But I feel ya on this!

@WorshipEmberlyn I never said I don’t already have that. I’m just explaining how it has changed.

@HappySubbie1 You can still do your research and look at how she posts. If everything is a variation of "send pig" then just move on. Find one with a personality that you're looking for.

@MzP444 Because no one wants to take the time to build a real connection. Everyone just chases the next dopamine kick.

@HappySubbie1 Connections are sooooooo much more valuable but people don’t wanna talk about that

@kiwi24grocery Society has shifted toward quick dopamine kicks, and sadly that’s the world we live in now. I agree the old days with femdom parties and that kind of scene felt much better.

@HappySubbie1 Oddly this was easier before the Internet. You actually met people on neutral territory, talked and got a feel for each other. I've always been service oriented so money never entered the discussion. Nothing was happening without a connection.

@lolahaze333 Sorry I don’t speak Spanish.

Findom twitter is just scam, catfish and AI. No wonder subs are quitting. Tired of all these scam DMs.

@kiwi24grocery Everything about connection is sadly lost.

@HappySubbie1 How about a time when findom was non-existent and Femdom was the way? Where the connection was the focus.

@MzP444 I could have said it better myself. I 100% agree with everything you are saying.

@HappySubbie1 I definitely agree. I think there’s too much spamming trying to get someone to send instead of building an actual dynamic with someone. It’s definitely on both sides as I’m sure you know but I definitely understand why it must be overstimulating and frustrating.

@ToSpoilAmara I agree but I can only speak from a subs perspective.

@HappySubbie1 It's both ways unfortunately...