Victor I

Six months from now I will be in a completely different space financially, spiritually and physically. Amen 🙏

I spent 4 years paying my younger sister’s school fees. Every single kobo. The day she graduated, she gave the acknowledgement speech and thanked everyone except me. I sat in that hall and felt my soul leave my body 😭. When she got admission, things were tight at home. I had just started my first job. I told our parents, "Don't worry. I’ll handle it." And I did. Every semester. No breaks. There were months I was eating 0-1-0 so her account wouldn't run dry. I never told her. I didn't think I needed to. Graduation day, she looked beautiful. The first graduate in our family. I was prouder of her than I’ve ever been of myself. Then she got the mic. > She thanked God. (Fair). > She thanked our parents. (Expected). > She thanked her friends who kept her sane. > She even thanked her HOD. Then she sat down. My mother looked at me. I smiled and looked away, but the clapping felt like it was happening in a different room. I didn’t say anything that day. Or the week after. But something in how I moved changed. I stopped volunteering. Started waiting to be asked. Started noticing who actually noticed me. People say, "Don’t give to be recognized." I agree to an extent. But there is a thin line between not needing applause and being erased by the person you bled for. That's not humility. That's invisibility. We’re fine now. I brought it up six months later, calmly. She cried, and said she was nervous and blanked. Maybe. Maybe not 🤷 But I learned something either way. Sacrifice without communication creates invisible resentment. Tell people what you are carrying for them. Not to guilt trip them. But because silence makes martyrs, and martyrs make bitter people. This same dynamic shows up in dating every day. You’re playing the provider or the supporter in silence, while your partner thinks you're just an oil money that never runs dry. Stop accepting the bare minimum of gratitude. If they don't see the sacrifice, they won't value the person making it. Has someone ever made you feel invisible in a relationship after everything you did for them? Let’s talk below.👇

Lots of near misses and what ifs

So I was chatting with my son on WhatsApp on Wednesday night he told me he was sick in school and has gone to the clinic and he was given injection and some drugs that he was taking. I said Ok come home since Thursday and Friday is public holidays plus the weekend he can eat good food at home and rest well before he continues with his exams the following week. Guy refused to come home o, So I bought some stuffs and headed to his campus.He was not even expecting me. Only for me to get there guy said he's following me back home.I said so why didn't you come home when I asked you to come? 😔He said he was planning to come today that why didn't I tell him I was coming to his school? 😥We were counter accusing each other. Las las he arranged everything I brought for him and said let's go. That's how we left heading home. I pray his roommates won't end those things I brought for him that he left there. Campus life??? 😥Boys for that matter. It is well#finalyearstudents. Graduate@19.Lots to do in between before settling down. We pray Nigeria gets better for these ones. 🙏

“Is there light at home?” “No, they haven’t brought it since you left”

@JORMUNGAND_rr I think the light situation has made my freezer evolve, it gets colder faster becuase we fit no see light for some days after.

“Things my wife does that would send low effort woman into a coma”,

A beautiful sunset to reproduce at home 🌅

I love people who romanticize the sh!t out of every little win in their lives. I want to be those people.

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Now that it didn’t work out in retrospect, it’s easy to blame her. Everybody will be alright at the end of the day

It’s so beautiful how children see the world.

"Never doubted you for a second" 😭

I had a discussion with a married woman yesterday, she's a business owner & also a lawyer. After so much discussion, she told me that her husband's first car was a gift from her. And a lot of things I can't disclose here, she advised me to avoid selfish women even if I'm rich.

This post made me remember something that happened to a guy I know in Lagos. He was dating two women at different points in his life. The first one, Tolu, was earning around ₦100k monthly. Nothing fancy. She lived modestly, budgeted everything, and still found a way to show up for him. If he was broke, she would quietly handle small bills. If he complained about transport, she’d send something without making noise. Not because she had plenty… but because in her mind, “we are building together.” She never used the word “my money.” It was always “how do we sort this?” Fast forward a year later, things didn’t work out for unrelated reasons. Then he met Amara. Amara was doing very well. Remote job. Earning over ₦4m monthly. Soft life, vacations, designer everything. At first, he felt like he had “made it.” But reality started showing small small. If they went out, it was always “you’re the man, you should handle it.” If he had a rough month, her response was, “I can’t start carrying a man financially.” Even basic emotional support came with conditions. One day, NEPA took light in his area and his inverter spoiled. He joked about it, expecting maybe concern or even advice. Her reply? “Just fix it. You’re a man.” That day, something shifted in his head. Because he remembered how someone earning ₦100k once said, “Don’t worry, we’ll figure it out together.” No noise. No pride. No competition. Just partnership. He didn’t end it immediately… but mentally, he had already checked out. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about how much someone earns. It’s about whether they see life as me vs you… or us vs the problem.

They are going in pool with their little children but wait for it

My son posted this on TikTok. Not gonna lie, made me cry a bit.

relationships are healthier when the goal is to experience life together and not to try to make the person into who you want them to be or to make them do what you want them to do.

NEVER get mad at your partner for expressing what UPSETS them. even if it seems small to you, it may be SERIOUS to them. genuine CONSIDERATION is very key

i've learned 3 lessons this year. To leave people where they at, accept situations for what they are, and not every action needs a reaction.

@ayeshamami Honestly! I’ve never felt happier, the works feels so much more meaningful 🥹