Frederick Zappone, Author

This quote of mine is based on lived experience, not theory…..

Opinions make no difference, only actions do.

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Resistance is what keeps negative feelings alive and cycling. When you just let them move through without grabbing onto them, the mind returns to its natural state — which is clear and positive. It’s almost paradoxical. People think suppressing negativity creates positivity. But it’s the opposite. The fight itself is what poisons the thinking.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Frederick Zappone, Author

1. Resisting what already is 2. Seeking approval before acting 3. Explaining themselves to people who’ve already decided 4. Confusing worry with preparation 5. Waiting to feel ready 6. Taking other people’s moods personally 7. Saying yes when they mean no 8. Rehashing what can’t be changed 9. Comparing their insides to other people’s outsides 10. Treating their worst thoughts as the truth​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Frederick Zappone, Author

@Matt_Pinner June 14 1946

Can anyone?

Here is a comprehensive list of all the ways people give there power away GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH THOUGHT 🔴 Believing other people’s opinions of them over their own 🔴 Treating doubt as truth and confidence as arrogance 🔴 Rehearsing worst-case scenarios as if preparation equals protection 🔴 Letting the past vote on what’s possible in the present 🔴 Confusing a thought with a fact 🔴 Deciding what they deserve based on what they’ve received so far GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH LANGUAGE 🔴 “I can’t” when they mean “I won’t” or “I’m afraid to” 🔴 “I have to” when they mean “I’ve chosen to” 🔴 “That’s just how I am” — turning a habit into an identity 🔴 Constant self-deprecating humor that slowly becomes self-belief 🔴 Asking permission to feel what they already feel GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH RELATIONSHIPS 🔴 Making someone else’s mood their responsibility 🔴 Needing approval before trusting their own judgment 🔴 Apologizing for having needs 🔴 Shrinking to make others comfortable 🔴 Staying silent to keep the peace 🔴 Choosing to be understood by others over understanding themselves GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH SYSTEMS AND AUTHORITY 🔴 Deferring entirely to experts rather than treating them as consultants 🔴 Assuming institutions know their situation better than they do 🔴 Following rules that were never meant for their circumstances 🔴 Letting credentials intimidate their common sense GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH BEHAVIOR 🔴 Waiting for permission to begin 🔴 Abandoning things at the first sign of difficulty 🔴 Asking “what do you think I should do?” as a first move rather than a last 🔴 Outsourcing decisions they’re fully capable of making 🔴 Doing nothing and calling it patience GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH EMOTION 🔴 Letting someone else’s anger determine their response 🔴 Feeling guilty for outgrowing people 🔴 Mistaking loyalty for obligation 🔴 Using resentment as a substitute for action GIVING POWER AWAY THROUGH BELIEF 🔴 Believing change requires suffering 🔴 Believing their desire isn’t valid until they can explain how it will be fulfilled 🔴 Killing a want because they can’t yet see the way to it — and calling that being realistic 🔴 Believing that wanting more is ingratitude for what they have 🔴 Believing they are the exception — the one person for whom things don’t work The common thread through all of this is placing the source of their experience outside themselves. The moment a person genuinely locates themselves as the creator of their life rather than the victim of it, every item on this list begins to lose its power and authority over them Frederick Zappone, Author —————- That’s Not Fear, that’s your Dream Knocking - Now available on Amazon - a.co/d/0byyE7Dz