JayJ.🦋🇯🇲

Hello everyone!🌸 This list was originally created for my birthday, but I completely forgot to share it at the time. I truly enjoyed putting it together, and while I don’t expect anything from it, I’m always grateful for any thoughtful gesture that comes my way. Each item represents a small step in a new journey I’m beginning, and any contribution would mean more than you know.💕 Check out this Gift List I just created. amazon.com/registries/gl/… With love and appreciation, Jay✨💛

When people ask me how old I am, I show them this

Most of the time I’m at home just like this

I’m so at peace in life NOBODY can get me out of character.‼️ I’ve reached a level of peace that can’t be easily disturbed. You can try to push all my buttons, you can try to provoke me, and you can do whatever it is you think will make me lash out. But I promise you, it WON’T work. I won't react. I won't crash out. I won't even do as much as argue. You will not get the reaction out of me that you want. You will not get me to accompany your misery. You will not disturb my peace. The only person whose peace will be disturbed in the end is the person who tried to disturb mine.💯

I don’t have any problem admitting that I’m not always an easy person to love.💯 I’m easily triggered. I’m not the best at communicating. I immediately assume the worst. I have a hard time trusting. I’m extremely sensitive so I get in my feelings a lot. I have a hard time forgiving. I can be a little jealous at times. I question things alot. And I can seem guarded at times. So trust me, I know I’m not perfect by a LONG shot. But I am worth it. I’m one of the realest and most loving people in this world. And you’ll never regret being with me.

My kids are ENOUGH for me. They are ENOUGH for me to want to go home at night. They are ENOUGH for me to not risk my life or my freedom. They are ENOUGH to keep me together and striving to be better for them. They are ENOUGH for me to never want my life decisions to cause them any pain.. they are ENOUGH for me to want to live so that I can watch them LIVE and grow. They are MY WHOLE REASON. I will never understand how your kids aren't ENOUGH. 🤍🤍🤍

IDK WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS BUTTT… you don’t have to deal with anything you don’t want to.‼️ If you’re tired of someone, you have every right to cut them off. If you feel like a job doesn’t appreciate you, you have every right to leave. If you feel like something no longer aligns with you, you have every right to disconnect. Stop letting things drain you. Stop tolerating what disrespects you. Stop staying where you feel small. This is your life. YOUR happiness comes first.💯

IDK WHICH ONE OF YOU GOOD PEOPLE NEED TO HEAR THIS BUTTT… STAY PURE.‼️ No matter what life throws at you, no matter who tries to break you, no matter what you go through… please stay pure. Don’t let evil make you evil. Don’t let pain turn you cold. Don’t let people brainwash you into becoming unauthentic and impure like them. Don’t let this world and the negativity in it get the best of you. Your wholesomeness is needed. You are one of the few people who keep the light shining in this world. Don’t let nobody change that about you.

If your spirit says delete them off your social media, delete them. If your spirit says don’t hang out with them, don’t hang with them. If your spirit says stop venting to them, then stop venting to them. No you’re not tripping. You’ll be surprised at the conversations people have behind your back and then smile like they haven’t done anything. You’ll be surprise who is watching you hoping you fail, but pretending to be on your team. Monitoring spirits are real!! Trust your intuition, your spirit sees what your eyes can’t. Ask God to give you the discernment needed in this season.

Not sorry, but moving forward… reaching me is going to be HARD.🚫📵 My phone stays on DND. If you’re not on that list sorry, but not sorry. No disrespect to anyone, but I am overly tired now😮‍💨. Mentally🧠. Emotionally💔. Spiritually 🕊️. I’ve been on a roller coaster 🎢 for too long with nowhere to vent and nobody to really lean on. I’m done crying in silence😢 and I’m done letting unhappy, miserable energy spill into my life🚫🖤. Removing myself from certain situations, people, and things is about to get REAL serious✂️🚪. This is me choosing peace🧘🏽‍♀️✨not explaining, not negotiating, not debating it. If you have my number and want to reach me, call me regular or use iMessage 📞💬. I will no longer be using WhatsApp❌📲. Don’t call or text me asking about anyone else 🚫👥. Don’t ask me to go nowhere🚷. Don’t ask how I’m doing because that concern has always been selective anyway🤷🏽‍♀️, and I’m cool with that😌. And don’t ask nobody about me🙅🏽‍♀️. Any stories you heard if it didn’t come directly from me, run with it 🏃🏽‍♂️💨. Just know I will not be clearing up rumors, explaining myself, or correcting narratives🤐. Silence is my response now🔕. Anything I post or share is exactly that not up for questioning, decoding, or opinions🚫🧐. Take it as is or keep scrolling⬇️. Life is short⏳. The world is crazy🌍🤯. And there comes a time where you have to let go of certain lifestyles, habits, and connections to protect yourself✂️🧘🏽‍♀️. So drink water💧, mind the business that pays you 💼, and respect the distance I’m choosing 🚧 whether you understand it or not 🖤.

i'm finally coming to peace with the fact that you can't keep tripping over what you can't control, all you can do is stay solid on your end. Everyone gonna do what they want regardless of how you feel. Don't lose your mind tryna figure out where you went wrong

If you’re choosing yourself right now, I’m proud of you. Self love isn’t easy. Your dating life might slow down, your phone might get quiet, and some friendships may fall off. But don’t doubt yourself and don’t settle. Protect your boundaries. Never trade your morals, your standards, or your body just to keep someone around.

For a relationship to really work, you have to understand it’s two different people trying to build one future. You didn’t grow up the same. You don’t carry the same baggage. You’re not always going to see things the same way. And that’s normal. What matters is how you handle it. Knowing how to talk without it turning into a blow-up. Listening even when you’re irritated. Fixing the issue instead of keeping score. You can’t build anything real if every disagreement turns into distance. It takes maturity to grow together and not let emotions destroy what you’re trying to build.”

Virgos biggest flex is keeping a good heart when life keeps giving them reasons not to. When virgos been lied to, used, switched up on, and counted out… but Virgos still show love. Virgos still got loyalty in them. Virgos Still show up for people, even when nobody showed up for them. That’s rare. That’s powerful. Cause this world will test you, drain you, and try to turn you cold… and if you still moving with good intentions after everything you been through, you got the kind of heart they can’t find twice 💯…

One thing about me, I’m quick to tell somebody “I’m Proud Of You” cause I know how hard it is to keep going.💯 I know what it feels like to feel like your hard work goes unnoticed. It hurts you fr. It’s like you work hard & succeed for yourself, BUT it still feels good to know others SEE YOU & support you. Having support can really push someone to go HARDER in life. And I feel like everyone should know that there’s someone out here rooting for them. Support and Recognition just hit different.

Babe, get you a MAN who loves you enough to care how his actions affect your feelings. Stop settling for grown BOYS who think you’re supposed to love them through all the nonsense they put you through. A real MAN understands that his woman’s happiness is key to a healthy relationship ♥︎

Sis, put you first. Take care of your body. Eat well, workout, rest, take your vitamins, and do what actually makes you happy. Invest in yourself, remove distractions, and focus so hard on your own growth that outside noise fades.

VIRGOS ARE NOT CONSISTENT PEOPLE !!!! VIRGOS are more of a dependable person !!!! VIRGOS will go days without texting and calling you. That doesn’t mean they don’t love you or don’t fwu. VIRGOS mood changes ! Some days they just don’t wanna be bothered and also VIRGOS have their own life, sometimes VIRGOS struggle and have to pick themselves back up. Just like you have yours & VIRGOS respect that. WE ARE GROWN! Lil kids need people to validate their every move, VIRGOS DON’T! But when push comes to shove YOU KNOW VIRGOS IS COMING WITH NO QUESTIONS ASKED!!!!

I actually like being alone and staying to myself. I really don’t care to be outside or in people face. I like being in my own little bubble. I like to mind my own business. And I like staying in my own lane. I like the peace that comes with not associating myself with any and everyone. I like how I don’t have to worry about ending up in mess. I like how I don’t have any drama in my life. I just really fw being by myself. And I’ll always choose being alone over being with people any day.💯

🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾bayyybeeeee if yo babydaddy don’t get your kid(s) or do for them like he should don’t even waste your time going back and forth being angry at him. i had to learn to just sit still, be quiet, be humble .. eventually you will see GOD begin to take things from him that he love .. like His freedom, his money, he will begin to lose slowly but surely. GOD don’t play about them babies he sent to us 🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾baby girl take care of them kids and God will take care of you🤌🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾🤏🏾🤌🏾