Joshua Heafield

First tried to walk, all you did was stumble, First try, they laughed, man you see that fumble? Bad hand, no stranger to struggle Don’t think I can do this, belly starting to rumble Not enough? You could breeze double Head up, big things in your future, always be humble

Merry Christmas 🎅🎉 If you’re looking for something to believe in, stick a big red suit on and believe in yourself.

Going to therapy, having honest conversation’s with friend’s and/or getting the medication you need, will not make you invincible. It’s never going to be about being immune to negative thoughts. However, over time you’ll be better at filtering out the bullshit.

Anger is a secondary emotion. Men, at 14-16 learn to suppress emotions until they get angry. Suppressing the emotions; Sadness, guilt, fear, anxiety, worthlessness and self-doubt 🔜 Anger. Withdrawal. Depression. We know what could be next. Enough. Get the truth.

It’s Sunday night. Not a night to think of who you are not, what you have not done or what could have been. Rather, a night to be proud of who you are, what you have overcome and everything you can become. Back yourself. Stop being your worst critic. Head up. Onward.

When someone talks about a problem, they are not always looking for a solution, because they haven’t yet reached the stage to be able to deal with it. You see the solution, because you are not directly or emotionally attached to the problem. Just listen,let them vent.

You are not just your job title. You are not just a Mother or Father. You are not just a Husband or Wife. You are not responsible for saving everyone. You are not here just to SERVE others. You deSERVE what you want too. It’s hard, but sometimes you have to say no.

Psychology says that anger is a secondary emotion. The only emotion many men are often likely to express is anger. Men experience; Fear, Sadness, Insecurity, Despair, Anxiety and Depression. How did you feel, before it made you angry? Honesty is hard, anger is destructive.

We often get caught up thinking we are not where we are supposed to be in life. What if it’s not always about us and where we think we should be? What if we are exactly where someone needs us to be? What if we are where we are, because of who we are supposed to help?

People need such little encouragement to feel like they could run through a brick wall. Opening the door for someone makes them feel seen, valued and respected. One compliment can obliterate thousands of negative thoughts. We’re all going through it. It’s easier together.

We often forget that we control about 90% of what we see on Social Media. We are deeply affected by what we see/read. It influences our mood, our opinion of ourselves and how we view the World. If it’s not uplifting you, challenging you or educating you. Get it in the bin.

Instead of posting “be kind” after someone takes their own life. We should: - Actually be kind.

The people that love you, don’t love you because of what you bring to the table. They just want you to be at the table. Pushing people away because you don’t feel good enough only causes both of you to suffer. Good day, bad day, show up for them. Be there.

When life gets heavy, remember: Your demons may be able to fool you, but they will never be able to fool the people that love you. Don’t deny them the chance to fight alongside you.

Be hungry. Suffer. When it’s easy, we take it for granted. When it’s easy, it doesn’t mean as much. We feel most alive when we are driven by something we can’t go without. Push yourself beyond what you thought were your limits. Be hungry. Suffer.

“Those who love walking, will go further than those that love the destination” The treasure is the journey, the ups, the downs, the wins and the losses. Being afraid, but doing it anyway. Stop dreaming of the destination… Enjoy the walk.

Feelings are tunnels, not dead ends. Go THROUGH them. Avoiding them only slows you down. When we go through them, it’s often only dark for a short period of time. Feel them. Go through them. Move forward.

We often think it’s the things we DO in life that holds us back / determines our success and happiness. However, it’s the things we DON’T DO that cost us in the end. Book the trip, ask them out, apply for the job, buy that penguin. Regret hurts more than failure ever will.

I heard this from a guy I met that grew up very differently than me and he admits he made some wrong decisions; “You can’t do better, until you know better” Fail early and fail often! No one begins as an expert. You will fail and you have to fail to grow!

Push your shoulders back, hold your head up and take a deep breath. You don’t have to be stronger than your problems, fears, thoughts or insecurities right now. Just know, you are strong enough to outlast them.