Katrin | Girlfriend Coach

FREE VIDEO SERIES: Why we become grumpy girlfriends, why it's so hard to stop, and how to stop without using force, willpower, or by bottling up how we "truly feel". katrinberndt.com/workwithme

The Girlfriend Glow-Up Mastermind is the place to be this summer if you want to level up, dump the grumpiness, and enjoy your good relationship. Read more: katrinberndt.com/glowup

Real love is both of you meeting each other in the middle instead of always trying to win and get everything you crave. You aim to get half of what you want and feel joy from seeing your partner get what they want too. All or nothing love breaks; cooperative love lasts.

If there’s even a tiny chance that you could get everything you dream of, you owe it to yourself to try.

Want to learn more? Listen to episode 8 of The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast where I share how I finally overcame crippling jealousy. katrinberndt.com/podcast

|￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣| IT JUST PREVENTS HAPPINESS |＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿| (\__/) || (•ㅅ•) || / づ

|￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣￣| JEALOUSY DOESN’T PREVENT CHEATING |＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿＿| (\__/) || (•ㅅ•) || / づ

It’s a skill over the long term

Maybe this is NOT just who you are. Maybe what you desire IS for someone like you. Maybe those other people AREN’T all that different. Then what?

We’re so scared of being wrong that we completely overlook the dangers of being RIGHT. You’re “right” about a lot of things in life that are holding you back. 👉🏻 What if everything you want is on the other side of being wrong about something? What do you WANT to be wrong about?

I think we all need a reminder from time to time that it's not all about US and what we want in our relationships. ♥️

Listen to episode 68 of The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast to learn all about manuals and how they often get confused with boundaries, love languages, and standing up for yourself: katrinberndt.com/podcast (iTunes/Spotify)

Well... never, really. Telling our partners what to do and then giving their actions credit for how we feel is called having a manual for them. A manual outsources responsibility for our emotional life to someone else, which is never a good idea.

If »boundaries« determine what WE do in response to violations, and »requests« communicate our wishes and preferences... then when do we get to tell our partners what they should or shouldn't do? 🤔

The past is gone. The future is uncertain. But what you focus on and how you feel in the present moment is up to you. Notice how you show up differently here and now in your relationship when your mind is either in the future or in the past. ♥️

What is lost when you allow your partner to do whatever they want was never there to begin with. Trying to control, prevent and manipulate doesn’t change what’s true. It just allows you to hold on to your perception of the relationship a little longer. ♥️

Is your goal to stop being a grumpy, jealous girlfriend by this time next week? Next month, tops? Does it feel overwhelming, frustrating, and close to impossible? Perfect. Just what your brain wanted. Find out why: instagram.com/p/CcaK7NoNz6d/