Kenzman Kenzee

Common Sense 101: There’s something many Nigerians get wrong about breakups. After a relationship ends, the goal isn’t to prove you’re doing better without them. That mindset still keeps you performing for their attention. Real growth is quieter than that. Focus on becoming better in your craft, your mindset, your discipline, and your skills—not for validation, but for your own evolution. And if they happen to see you one day, let it be obvious—not because you tried to prove a point, but because you truly outgrew the version of yourself they once knew. Lastly, while I understand that some relationships end badly and people choose to keep their distance, it shouldn’t remain a place of constant hostility forever. No matter how things ended or how long healing takes, it shouldn’t get to a point where every encounter is filled with tension or silent resentment. There should be room, at the very least, for simple greetings and basic pleasantries—done with clear and respectful boundaries. It shouldn’t always be that whenever you come across each other, there are palpitations, long faces, or unspoken bitterness. There is more to life than holding on to enmity.