bhavjot ✨(puv-jo-th)

Someone that loves you will put in their best effort to communicate with you. No matter how poorly worded, or non-sensical, or emotional, or imperfect their attempts may seem, they'll keep trying to sort things out. They'll keep trying to better understand & be better understood by you. They'll keep putting in the effort to make things work because they'd rather risk looking stupid for trying than risk losing you.

I'm at the age now where, I don't want a relationship where all of our time & energy goes into fighting over bare minimum things like respect, time, attention, care, & understanding. I want to have the time & energy to do the most for you. Love you beyond the bare minimum. Plan cute dates. Go on weekend getaways. Take dance classes together. Take up a hobby together. Cook together. Cuddle on the couch while we watch our favourite show. Write each other handwritten letters. Find little ways to make each other's day that much easier. I don't want constant fighting, bickering, & drama with you. I want romance, thrill, & adventure with you. I want an epic romance.

Someone that loves you will put in their best effort to communicate with you. No matter how poorly worded, or non-sensical, or emotional, or imperfect their attempts may seem, they'll keep trying to sort things out. They'll keep trying to better understand & be better understood by you. They'll keep putting in the effort to make things work because they'd rather risk looking stupid for trying than risk losing you.

A healer will trigger you. It’s inevitable. That’s their purpose: to trigger you into healing. To trigger your wounds to surface, to trigger you to face your own darkness, to trigger you into accepting, integrating, and loving your shadow. To trigger you to grow and evolve into your highest self. That doesn’t mean they’re bringing out the worst in you. On the contrary, they’re bringing you closer to the best in you. Intention and energy matter.

"Keep going" isn’t always the best advice. Sometimes, the best advice is "come sit down."

Out later this week.

I heard an interview today about AI in creative spaces and the man being interviewed said “AI is data, and Data can only look backwards. Creativity looks forwards.” And I need to sit with that in the best possible way.

@MatthewHou8989 I love that Matthew. I hope your wife is doing well 🥲

@LightofEmotion the 'best effort' marker is the real one. in trauma framework love isn't measured by how well someone communicates but by whether they keep trying when they can't. my wife couldn't articulate what she needed for three years. her staying in the room while trying was the data.

One of the first things that genuinely helped me during burnout was taking long Epsom salt baths. The warm water calmed my nervous system and gave me a quiet space to finally slow down. I originally chose Epsom salts (plus jasmine-scented bubbles) simply because they smelled comforting. Later I learned the salt is rich in magnesium, which so many people use for body tension, exhaustion, and pain. I don’t take these baths every day, but when I do, I make them intentional: dim lights, deep breathing, affirmations or prayer, or simply floating in silence. I love visualizing stress, heaviness, and emotional overwhelm gently leaving my body with the water. I sometimes stacked this habit with listening to audiobooks or podcasts. Traditional reading (and even watching tv and movies) felt impossible during the worst of the burnout, but some part of me knew I still needed stories and escapism, even though I felt numb. Listening to audiobooks helped me dive into my imagination without the added mental strain from reading or watching tv. One I especially loved was Fairytale by Stephen King. It was the perfect mix of suspense, wonder, heart, and magic when I needed it most. I also have leaned heavily on the “Healing” episode by Mary Phelan from the Meditation Break podcast for years—the wave visualization feels extra soothing while you’re literally in the water. ♡ Full article will be available here later this week.

I don’t know who needs to hear this but, if people wanted to, they would. If someone wants to fix their relationship with you, they put in the effort to have uncomfortable conversations. If someone wants to love you, they put in the effort to get to know your love language. If someone wants to be part of your life, they put in the effort to be present. It’s really that simple. It’s just hard for you to accept because that means admitting to yourself that some people don’t care about you the way you care for them. For that, my heart goes out to you. That hurts to know. But remember, rejection is part of life and necessary for growth. And the sooner you accept that, the sooner you can move on to starting over—not from scratch but from experience this time.

I refuse to feel down about my real self because of a narrow-minded opinion shared by a girl that’s lying about her age and where she’s from.

These girls in their teens and 20s don’t realize before I was the "burnout girl," the "stuck girl," and the "she’s playing victim girl," I was the "push through everything girl" the "high-achiever girl," the voted "hardest working girl" and that’s on honesty.