Loving Efficiently

@RDelagato Excellent question! In general, a great practice is to focus on comforting and validating your partner. They may not be looking for solutions at that moment. For the heaviness you feel, try to remind yourself not to internalize their emotions. Be present and be mindful.

Love isn’t proven by endurance, but by maintenance

Tag your partner and start the weekend fresh. 👇 #lovingefficiently #communication #resentment #relationshipadvice #alittletotheleft

Name the wound not the weapon

What is the 'small thing' you guys always argue about?

The Power of Perspective Most of us were taught how to debate, not how to relate. In our new book, A Little to the Left, we provide practical scripts to help you move away from “who is right” and toward “how are we.”

The power of perspective

How to stay in love with the person your partner is becoming

Why you keep arguing (and how to stop) "It isn't about never disagreeing." We wrote A Little to the Left to help you navigate the disagreements. Because the conflict isn't the problem-the lack of repair is. Start choosing kindness over being right. Link in bio for more tools

We talk a lot about "loving smarter" at @lovingefficiently One of the core pillars in my book, A Little to the Left, is the concept of collaborative growth. If your partner is struggling, the team is struggling. If your partner is winning, the team is winning.

New Year. New Tools. Same Love (just better). 📦✨ If your goal for 2026 is to communicate better, argue less, and connect deeper, you need a plan. A Little to the Left isn’t just a book—it’s the manual for loving efficiently. No more guessing. No more “hoping” it gets better.

“Does it actually work?” 🧐 The Literary Global Book Awards says YES. 🏆 We are hyped to be named a Finalist! This book is packed with the scripts, tools, and “try-tonight” exercises that move you from confusion to connection. Don’t love harder this year—love smarter.

"When you don't feel heard, speak gently!" That is the hardest thing to do in a relationship. Your ego wants to scream. Your pride wants to shut down. But love is a decision you make, especially when you don't feel like it.

Love isn't about never getting hurt. It's about what you do after the hurt. As we head into a new year, the goal isn't a "perfect" relationship. The goal is a resilient one. A relationship where you choose to stay sott, even when it's hard.

@RDelagato Excellent question! In general, a great practice is to focus on comforting and validating your partner. They may not be looking for solutions at that moment. For the heaviness you feel, try to remind yourself not to internalize their emotions. Be present and be mindful.

@LoveEfficiently So how do I respond once the sadness spills out on me because sometimes it feels too heavy to handle?