Lucy Whitmarsh

To people following me whom I have not followed back-- I want to! When I got on Twitter I followed tons of fascinating people and now I can't follow any more. I will when I can 🙂

@oslersweb Wow, that looks great! Excellent job!

A reminder that my book "The Why: The Historic ME Call to Arms" is available as an audio book on Amazon this Labor Day weekend. The US government's epic fail explained pretty well in two hours and 39 minutes. 89% of readers give it a five star rating. amazon.com/Why-Historic-C…

When a woman is consistently spoken to softly & treated gently, she becomes a new woman. You’re helping her heal her nervous system, you’re helping her heal generational trauma, you’re allowing her feminine energy to flourish, you’re helping her to remember who she is

“our grandparents lived through a war and never had any of this mental illness stuff” absolutely, grandma washed down fistfuls of amphetamines with cooking sherry to celebrate how well-adjusted she was feeling

On 10 October for #WorldMentalHealthDay, wear yellow to show young people how they feel matters 💛 #HelloYellow

I wish more folks understood that people don't fake anxiety and depression. They fake being okay.

Self worth for autistics is ususlly rock bottom after being invalidated and put down for most of our lives...... so 'treating ourselves' is hard for us to do. So each week I buy myself some flowers, just to remind myself that I deserve them.

@DafoeWhitney Such a pleasure to read your beautiful writing, Whitney. Best to you 💜

I'm currently in a post crash phase and very sick. I want to do it. I can picture myself doing it. But I cannot move to actually do it. New post on my blog: whitneydafoe.com/mecfs/?post=be…

When people suggest you should be over your traumatic experiences because “It was a long time ago” let them know your brilliant brain & body registered that experience because it changed your survival. And your brilliant brain & body are looking for safety, not uninformed advice.

Let’s end this broken system that judges people based on the relationship they have with their family. Many people had to walk away from their families because walking away is often the only hope for healing, health and survival. Honor them for their loss and their courage.

Traumatic Stress is Your Nervous System Dysregulating, it’s NOT Your Personality.

(5/5) But quality research is very clear that therapy takes time—usually many months and even years. It cannot be rushed, and requires a solid connection between therapist and client where confidentiality, trust, and healthy boundaries are fostered. These apps don't allow that.

One of the cruellest things about chronic illness is that you have to have a certain level of functioning to even organise your care. And the more difficult healthcare is to access, the more function you need. Meaning you have to wait for a 'good day' to even start addressing it.

Yes, in my life subtle and insidious invalidation was the major cause of injury, so validation is healing and helps reverse the damage. Internal and external validation.

Recovery can feel lonely, because we have to give up some relationships that were hurting us, even if they were keeping us company-- as well as some of the superficial relationships that were taking up emotional bandwidth we need for healing. It's okay to feel sad about it.

The goal in healing trauma is not to learn to love those who hurt you. It’s to learn how to love the parts of you who carried that pain. It’s to feel safe in your mind & body. It’s to learn how to live unapologetically & never think of those harmed you again, if you so choose.

Yes, complex trauma survivors do "take things personally"-- because we've often been told, over & over again, that EVERYTHING is their fault & EVERYONE is their responsibly. We were CONDITIONED to "take things personally"-- specifically so we could be controlled by guilt.

Dear survivor, Trauma changes the way your mind & body functions together. You finding a way to cope through that was wise. As you heal old pain, it will make room for new patterns. Being kind to yourself through that growth, is the warm embrace your mind & body craves.

@sorenable YUP.