TrishaM

@GBarsawme Exactly! neuroscience bears this out. when pregnant people are exposed to more threats, the right amygdala is overdeveloped, meaning the baby is born more sensitive to danger. healing can release generations of pain

Your anxiety might not be “yours.” It may be your grandmother’s body still bracing for war. Your healing is hers too.

Capitalism weaponizes our basic needs against us: Food, shelter, belonging are all commodified to extract from us. When our work is about ensuring everyone's basic needs are met, our communities are enriched to create sustainable futures for everyone.

@markmanson A life-changing truth I learned from my Elders: "The past could only have happened the way it did. What matters is what we do next."

You are not your past. You are your priorities.

What I have learned about freedom: My work is more powerful and more valuable than money in creating the world I believe is possible for all of us. We are worth our work. Not some billionaire who doesn't know your name, but you and your family and neighbours.

one of the strangest things to learn about growing up and healing from complex trauma is that there is no ending, just emergence. we grow through practice not isolation we heal through learning not blaming

Money is such a boring metric of success. It lacks imagination and encourages deception.

If profit is the defining leadership metric, leadership has already failed.

Our work is our most powerful medicine. So why are we using it to build someone else's trillion-dollar dreams instead of healing ourselves, our families, and our communities?

@heyizmadz deciding what we are building decides what kind of corners we find - that part of 'meet people where they are' that seems to get overlooked

Some corners of the internet are wild. But this one? People win by being generous. By sharing what they’ve lived. By simply being themselves. Crazy this even exists.

@borkedsys but making us white knuckle it is so profitable, how can we possibly complain when we are creating value for shareholders we will never know? 🤣

@MagpieTrisha Absolutely! Separation throws us off rhythm. When we’re embedded in a community, even the basics sync up... sleep, stress, mood, purpose. We’re meant to co regulate, not white-knuckle our way through life alone.🙏

Survival is shared. We treat it like an individual competition, but everything that keeps us alive... food, water, energy, knowledge flows through relationships. A healthier system would honour that instead of denying it.

@LORWEN108 "Winnicott showed that the True Self isn’t a child to be cared for — it’s the spontaneous, creative core of the psyche that re-emerges only when there is safety to play." I never knew this was a thing until I read your post. It explains SO much of the last several weeks. 🙏

The “inner child” movement began in the 1970s. It came from humanistic psychology and was popularized by John Bradshaw and later trauma-therapy culture. It taught people to “reparent” the wounded child within — to soothe the unmet needs that caused anxiety and shame. That work was revolutionary for its time. But it was only partial work. In 2020, Anxiety MD was published, evoking the same inner child/reparenting dialogue. It stops at comfort not at true healing. It teaches people to manage pain, not to rediscover your True Self that went into hiding. Depth psychology went further. Winnicott showed that the True Self isn’t a child to be cared for — it’s the spontaneous, creative core of the psyche that re-emerges only when there is safety to play. Jung called this process individuation. We meet the shadow, integrating what was exiled, and become whole again. So while reparenting soothes anxiety symptoms, shadow work restores you to your true source. You don’t heal by endlessly parenting an inner child. You heal by remembering the adult who can imagine again. That’s what my work does. I use walking outdoors without devices and drawing. But these somatic tools aren't art therapy. They are symbolic integration tools. Your nervous system learns safety, and your psyche rediscovers its authentic voice.

Healing is relational because trauma is relational When I told my family I had been sexually assaulted, most of them disappeared after making noises about how bad *they* felt. And then would never speak of it again, not even ask how I was. Our story needs witnessing to heal

We will never achieve peace and abundance if our goal is avoiding personal pain and sacrifice

If you can't figure out what is going wrong, start looking for what you've done right. None of us get stronger by beating the shite out of ourselves for what we don't know. We get stronger when we use what we do know to support ourselves in growing.

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Not sure why you're dissatisfied with the job you thought you always wanted? Your nervous system needs more than a paycheck. It knows the difference between extraction and contribution

The word 'obsessed' seems to be lighting up the personal goals space. The idea, in short, is to find something that you are obsessed with and focus on this to the exclusion of all else. Build a routine that shuts out any and all distractions to achieve ultimate flow. There are times, absolutely, when this works. I know this because I wrote a thesis. To do that I didn't leave my office for 6 days except to use the bathroom and get water. (I was also blessed that my roommate, a programmer, recognised the need for flat food delivery service every 4 hours. Thanks Dan!) A life of obsession My life though? I don't know about being obsessed, it feels a bit heavy to me. The phrase "His Dark Materials" always lingers when I read about new ways to deepen your obsession. Maybe I read too many science fiction novels as a kid? Maybe it's the history of traumatic life events that I did obsess over. The OCD that runs in my famliy and that my kid struggles with every day in order to leave the house. Regardless, my definition of obsessed doesn't end well, it plunges itself into the darkess. Obsession grows increasingly narrow in it's focus. I was plunged into the darkness of shame and self-recrimination. Not a place I want to return to. (Hey - no shade if obsessed works for you. It just doesn't for me) What are the Alternatives? I too want a word that captures that sense of focus, that overwhelming desire to build this idea into reality. A way to articulate the urge to not only learn more but share this information with others. Something expansive and light, not restrictive and dark. Something that trips as easily off the tongue for me as obsessed does for many others but captures the ease I want to feel. A word that that makes me feel describing my work the way I feel when I am on the prairies in Batoche, smelling the honey-air listening to the bees bumble through the fields. Thus I began my search First stop, dictionary. I looked up obsessed as the starting place. Quickly closed that and looked up synonyms of obsessed. Closed that too. (seriously, torment or plague, anyone?) But I noticed someone had typed in "obsessed synonyms positive" and so I clicked it. Eureka! Here are the ones I am now contemplating and I would love to know what tickles your fancy. 5 Options instead of Obsessed 1. Enthralled - to capture the fascinated attention of... That would be a great way to feel about work, to be fascinated (another gooder) so much that your attention doesn't wander. This makes me think of the way horses eat grass in the summer with all their attention, their tails brushing flies away without breaking their chewing rhythm. 2. Delighted - great pleasure. I certainly want to do things that give me great pleasure over and over again. And if work does that (as it is starting to do), I am going to sit happily in my chair. 3. Captivated - attract and hold the attention of; to charm. The feeling of constant discovery that keeps me hooked on what I am doing so nothing else can draw me away. 4. Fascinated (you had to know it was coming) - draw irresistibly the attention and interest of someone. This idea of being attached to the work so much you cannot let go feels like it has the same mood, but with a lightness. 5. Charmed - unusually lucky or happy, as though protected by magic. This one hit me in the gut as I typed the definition. I originally chose it because it felt light, the way I want to feel about work I love. When I looked up the definition for this piece I realised why I had saved it til last and had a wee cry. Because I really believe I am charmed by work. Believing in myself enough to get off of long-term disability and try to start a company, go back to working for someone else, and then try again has been magic for me. What I learned in this exploration My work, building this business, is medicine and so I need to speak of it so. There are so many ways to talk about our love of and relationship to work. We can be riveted, we can be enlightened. We can be saved and our lives forever charmed. If obsessed works for you, go for it. It does for a lot of people. If, like me however, you need something a little less like where you are getting away from, I hope this list has given you some ideas.