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MerrilyThroughTheLoom
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MerrilyThroughTheLoom
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Hoping to defuse the sex wars before my own children are old enough to get conscripted.
UK Katılım Aralık 2025
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@anniee_0216 The way to start sharing your life with someone is to go and give your time, attention, and efforts to him. You can't "share" a life with someone if you don't hand part of yours over.
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@bumbadum14 You can. Or you can just turn your pillow 90 degrees and put the baby next to your face, moving your body down the bed.
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Can recent moms explain to me why you can’t have a basket like contraption in the bed so you can still co-sleep without accidentally smushing your child?
Is this a thing? Like there has to be a happy medium here
Eigen@faintlimits
My dad’s cousin killed her baby because she co slept with him. Woke up to a dead child bleeding out of his nose. But yeah co sleep bc it’s so trad and cute and feminine xoxoxo
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People need to stop speaking about averages and look at their own lives. If you want your husband to do more, stop doing the tasks you think he should do, and ask him to do them. Go and take a nap. Why be bitter about an imaginary life when you could have a good one of your own?
Jill Filipovic@JillFilipovic
Men routinely overestimate the amount of childcare and housework they do. Women underestimate how much they do and overestimate how much their husbands do. One solution: dads should commit to doing 70% of the work and it’ll wind up closer to 50-50.
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@shagbark_hick He is wrong though. A child's educational attainment has much more to do with their inborn IQ than what you teach them, if you let a kid do whatever they like and they have access to books they will end up reading to approximately the same level as they would have in school.
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Look, pro-homeschooling people are piling on this guy but he's not wrong at all.
I know of families who are straight-up failing to teach their children beyond a 2nd-grade education. Like 16-year-old kids who don't know what the Capital of the US is, have never heard of Toronto, and could not perform a basic algebra problem.
While it's true that there are many excellent homeschooling families whose instruction far exceeds that of any public school, the fact is that the American system of "school your kids however you want" does also yield a lot of severely stunted kids who get stuck playing "catch-up" for the rest of their lives.
My wife was homeschooled, we might homeschool, I'm not averse to the practice per se, but it's a fact that there's a whole world of multi-generational homeschoolers who are not and will not rise above a 2nd or 3rd grade education level by their own volition.
Should the state intervene in these cases? I dunno, the answer to the question is not as "easy" as many make it out to be. The idea of barely getting through 'Mary Had a Little Lamb' at the age of 16 should be appalling, and it IS happening in some American homeschooler families.
Just Jim@JimsTweets
Do Homeschool kids just like, not have to take tests or exams or get grades? How does the government know if the child is actually getting an education and not just like, being neglected
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@NYMag The short answer: kids give people perspective and they don't want to waste their life on sub-par friends. I shed some useless friends at each life milestone, but kept many others, including friends with no children who weren't losers.
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Our friendship survived bad dates, illness, marriage, fights. Why can’t it survive your baby?
"The friendship divide is not some dramatic breakup but a slow-rolling tectonic shift that neither side notices at first (especially the parents). The fissure often starts as an abstract fear of unknown agents of change (an emerging baby and an emerging parent) and the shared realization that two lives, which had been more or less plodding along a similar path, are about to diverge."
Revisit Allison P. Davis’s story on the impact of parenthood on adult friendships: nymag.visitlink.me/8PAnue
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@selentelechia There's research? I thought that was a term I coined while explaining my parenting choices.
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how much of the "hedonic set point" research is based on survey data lmao
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@RRR0BYN Going by mine, giving birth in the evening and sleeping at your normal bedtime is helpful. Also people who turn lights on for feeds are making a rod for their own backs.
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Ok there’s something to this bc I sunned my belly everyday for HOURS sometimes in my third trimester and I have had a theory this is at least in part what helped my baby come out sleeping through the night. Is pregnant belly sunning the secret to giving birth to a diurnal baby!??
RFH🦎👁🗨🪐🌘 ⬛️ (Doctor)@hollowearthterf
I took him out in the sun a bunch during the day, his skin was protected, never long stretches, but I made sure to get daylight in his eyes. Babies come out nocturnal, and this needs to be reversed or else they’re going to be miserable about sleeping for possibly years
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@kitten_beloved It could, or we could do something simple like have a lottery where every person who dies childless has their estate given to a newborn in the area.
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Here's the only material analysis that matters: for most of human history children were an economic asset, and now they're a liability
Actually flipping that equation requires subsidies so massive they would subsume the entire budget, it's completely infeasible
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Neither side will have significantly more babies
But Sasse is much closer to understanding the problem than these endless misguided material analyses
"Sure, paid child care and leave hasn't halted fertility decline in any country that has tried it... but it might work for us"
Fish Stark@fishstark
All right @BenSasse, let's make a bet. Let's divide the US in half. I'll let you pick which half. In your half, you ban Candy Crush. In my half we institute 16 weeks of paid parental leave, universal childcare, & a restored child tax credit. Let's see which has more babies.
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@Romy_Holland I think it makes sense if you are poor at modelling others' behaviour not to risk your life upon them coming to the conclusion you came to.
However, I suspect you would get the bell curve meme for this, and those exceptional at modelling people also tend to choose red.
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I've only talked to maybe a dozen friends about whether they're red or blue button pushers, but within that group there's an obvious correlation between being worse at modeling others and pushing the red button. I think it's easy to paint it as an empathy thing, and that's true in some instances, but I think for many people it might be about an inability to grasp that other people think in radically different ways.
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@peterrhague @SickAssPen You are failing to separate the prediction of score from the individual choice. People who choose red do not have things "go their way" if most people choose red, they live either way.
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@SickAssPen Ah I see, so the red case which is entirely based on predicting the final outcome can’t actually predict the final outcome in the tests we can actually do, only in a test we can never do which will definitely go your way because trust me bro?
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Amazing how lots of self appointed game theory experts confidently asserting that blue is the stupid choice. But every time this poll is run blue wins. Not only is the “game theory” answer predicting the wrong outcome, its explanatory power is based on it being able to predict the right answer. So it’s doubly wrong.
Tim Urban@waitbutwhy
Everyone in the world has to take a private vote by pressing a red or blue button. If more than 50% of people press the blue button, everyone survives. If less than 50% of people press the blue button, only people who pressed the red button survive. Which button would you press?
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@lporiginalg On 2: You can misunderstand the question, really want to be part of saving people, be unable to stand the thought of living while other people might die, or you can just be saying it because the optimal play is to get >50% of people to vote blue while voting red yourself.
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1. This is not a partisan experiment. The majority of Trump voters chose the blue button.
2. It's painfully obvious that reds are worse at mentally modeling blues than vice versa.
MentisWave 🐍🚁@MentisWave
The blue button red button thing has made me realize how many leftists really do genuinely just don't understand things.
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@AmyLove91172704 @lporiginalg I don't get this. If blue gets a majority but I voted red, I wouldn't think of blue as "winning" because I don't lose anything. I think of them as not committing suicide, which is probably good for most of them, but that doesn't reflect on my decision at all.
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@lporiginalg the shrill, neurotic response from redcels just reinforces this assessment. aggressive, mean, small, pointlessly derisive. it's like they're more pissed that they lost than capable of understanding why blue won
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@BecomingCritter I feel like this is an unfair question because we didn't write anything but I absolutely made it clear before marriage that the only way either of us was leaving it was in a casket.
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@venom1s Some women like men with experience.
Some of us picked a virgin on purpose and married him because the idea of sharing with anyone else ever is intolerable.
I wonder which make better wives?
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Girls are more attracted to men with options.
The more ex-girlfriends a man has, the more attractive he is to women.
They hate virgin men with no girlfriends and call them incels.
You'll often see women going after men who are in relationships and even married men.
R@justranky
No matter what, make sure you are the girl with flower
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@IterIntellectus Not sure what the gradient would look like after transfers due to tax and welfare. The problem with being rich in Europe is that it just doesn't confer much advantage. The most capable leave or reduce income in favour of free time.
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people talking about "inner city rich, periphery poor" when the insane part is that the average income of people living in one of the most important cities in Italy and Europe is €20k to €85k ($23k-$99k)
europeans are really poor
Giulio Mattioli@giulio_mattioli
Income levels in Milan, Italy. Incredibly concentric and huge differences between the richer city centre and the poorer peripheries tg24.sky.it/economia/2026/…
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@CartoonsHateHer Isn't the whole thing with women criticising Erica Kirk that they're seething about her being blonde and good looking?
I've never seen a pretty blonde woman say something mean about her.
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Not dragging this particular person, but this is kinda what I mean by "everything that isn't SERVING CUNT is ugly." This is just a regular aesthetically pleasing dress. The clearance section is fine.
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@QuetzalPhoenix @PYeerk @fuckbrownvboard For example, if people compliment my children I smile gently and murmur that I'm very fortunate. I don't explain that I have radical methods and that I think other parents deserve horrible kids for failing to step outside the norm in their own childrearing. That would be rude.
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@QuetzalPhoenix @PYeerk @fuckbrownvboard There's a difference between being self-loathing and self-effacing. In English culture it's seen as a sign of insecurity to actively big oneself up (which Americans often seem to do), but downplaying one's own status is just to make others feel less bad about being inferior.
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The saddest thing about Douglas Adams and the Pythons is that despite their own brilliance they genuinely and truly believed that the worst people on Earth were other middle class Englishmen.
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@brittilina Do you not normally sleep on your side? I do, so adding a baby makes almost no difference, and after a couple of months I don't even need to wake up to feed. Older children in their own beds are much harder work for me than a baby in bed next to me.
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When my baby wakes up at 4-5am, and I can’t stay awake in the rocking chair, I do this for an hour or so, and I do not believe this person when they say it “saves their back”. After an hour, I’m in excruciating pain down my back and up my shoulders.
Flavia@FlaCebs
Si tuviera que fomentar una secta sería la del colecho , precisamente en esta posición, la cual básicamente me viene salvando la cordura, la espalda y el SUEÑO! soy una mamá feliz porque cada noche dormimos los 2 y todo se hace muchísimo más fácil 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
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