Isabelle Fox

A student of mine!

Do men treat S workers better than their wives or girlfriends? No they don't. When I used to sleep with men for money, what I noticed wasn’t that they cared about me more than their partner. It was that the dynamic with a worker is far simpler than a romantic relationship. Most clients, if they’re married or partnered, would honestly prefer to be getting consistent intimacy at home. They don’t book because they want to replace their partner. They book because something in their normal life feels hard, complicated, or emotionally tense. And many of them wish they didn’t feel the need to see a worker at all. In the booking space, the expectations are clear. There’s no arguments or unresolved emotional weight. Just a structure where both people understand the role they’re in. So when a man walks in awkward, it’s usually because he hasn’t had an undemanding interaction in a long time. Once he realises he’s not being rushed, criticised, or emotionally pulled in five directions, he naturally relaxes! And the experience becomes easy for both people. It’s not that he treats a worker “better.” It’s that the relationship is lighter. There’s no resentment, no pressure, no emotional negotiations piled on top.

When I started working in a brothel at 18, the only person I spoke to about it was my dad. He didn’t judge me, disown me or tell me to quit. He told me to treat it like a business. Whenever I came to him upset about a difficult client, he would tell me to reframe it. He’d say, “That’s not a bad client. That’s an objection.” He taught me to use business language. Sales language in particular. He told me that if I wanted to earn well, I needed to learn how to handle objections the right way. And he even gave me lines to use back to my difficult clients. When men would try to haggle or ask for discounts, he told me to say, “The only time I discount my rate is when I discount the quality of my service, which I would never do to you.” And it worked! He handed me my first sales book, The Art of Closing the Sale by Brian Tracy, and told me to study. These lessons changed the trajectory of my career, and I’m so thankful for my dad for supporting me through them. It wasn’t just selling the bedroom fun, it was business. A business just like any other.. With extra close body contact with your clients. And that mindset is what took me from $155 an hour to $2,000 an hour.

Did you know if you want to pay for a working girl to sleep with you, you need to send a deposit to lock in your time? But some men find this very irritating.. And straight up refuse to send a deposit Which is a really good thing! Let me tell you why: Most of the men messaging us were never going to pay us anyway. They likely want attention, free entertainment or some fort of fantasy conversation. Not a transaction or an actual paid booking. When we introduce a deposit, we are not “scaring away the clients.” We are filtering the trash. About 95% of inquiries will never send a deposit on average..but that’s not really a failure. Because the 5% who do send it, show up and respect our time. The men who make no issue out of deposits tend to be the high value clients we want to keep around, not the ones that have a problem with it. Most workers panic when inquiries drop and think, “I need to lower friction.” No babe…you need to raise your standards. You either spend your day entertaining men who won’t book… Or you let deposits do the sorting. It’s not about the money, it's about the intent. Stop trying to be accessible to everyone and start being accessible to the ones who pay.

I don’t claim to be a sexpert but I used to boink around for money with over 500 men at this point… And you know what most of my ultra rich male clients actually wanted from me? To get me off…genuinely. That’s what I’ve always loved about men, they’re pleasers, and they really do try! We need to give them a bit more credit sometimes.. But anyways here’s what actually makes women go crazy in bed. Number one: compliments, but make them personal. “Baby, you’re so hot” is good, I won’t complain But “I’m so attracted to you” is way better. Even better is, “I’ve been thinking about you all day,” or “You drive me crazy,” said like you actually mean it. Number two: comfort matters. A lot. If a woman doesn’t feel comfortable, she won’t fully let go. Men get turned on by the smell of a woman and they’re ready to go… but women aren’t built like that. So make comfort a priority. Having more time instead of rushing matters. We’re sensitive, and that’s part of what makes us special. Number three: make her feel like she’s the only one in the world. We want to feel chosen. Like we matter. Like this moment is just for us. Say things like, “I’ve never felt this connected to someone,” or “It’s you, that’s all I need.” Because when a woman feels safe, seen, and special, that’s when she really opens up. If you want better bedroom fun, and you want to drive her wild, start there.

Do women who sleep with men for money as a job actually experience the big o’s? As someone who used to sleep around for 2000 dollars an hour, here's the real answer. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Depends on the clientele and the provider herself. And most of the time, that’s not even the point. Our orgasms aren’t the job… pleasing the client is. And creating an experience where someone feels wanted, relaxed, and safe enough to enjoy themselves… If a working girl sees a lot of men in a day at a cheaper price point, doing the bare minimum as a service, it’s more unlikely that they’ll have the chance to get off very often. However when you see less clients at higher rates, and do longer bookings, the likelihood of us experiencing the o’s is much higher. Early on in my career, I thought my value was tied to how convincing I was in enjoying my time with the client. Like how high energy I seemed or how much I faked to enjoy it. Later, I realized that my value was in the overall atmosphere and experience I created. Of course you’re allowed to enjoy it.. In fact I made it my mission to get off as many times as possible with my clients, because it made the whole job so much more enjoyable. Some women prefer not to do that, and will avoid doing so.

Why would a woman choose to sleep around for money as their full time job? Like why would someone willingly want to become a professional h0e? Well it obviously must be tragedy or manipulation or some sort of desperation… And look sometimes it is.. But honestly more often than not it’s strategy. Some women choose it for flexibility or fast”easy” cash. Some women like me choose it because they realise their time is worth more than $25 an hour. I used to work a shitty office job before I started in a brothel at 18 and I really hated it. And I was always drawn to smex work, and I thought I could really like it. And I was right. That doesn’t mean the job is always easy or glamorous. It’s not right for everyone. But let’s stop pretending women have no agency… a lot of us choose this work. And if we are being honest a lot of women choose corporate jobs that burn them out, or marriages that end terribly, or start businesses that fail. But somehow this work is the only choice people assume we were forced into because of some poor circumstances. Some women are coerced and that’s very real, but that’s a completely different story from being an independent provider from your own accord. Women choose this work for the same reason anyone chooses a high-risk, high-reward career. Because they believe the trade-off is worth it. The real question isn’t “Why would we?” It’s “Why does that make you uncomfortable?”

Every woman dreams of being paid a 100 grand just by spreading their legs.. I mean.. we’d all be millionaires by now if everyone knew how to attract wealthy men willing to pay those amounts for the bedroom fun. I used to charge 2 grand an hour sleeping with wealthy men, like millionaires, CEOs, hedge fund guys.. And I’ll tell you something about them. You don’t attract these sorts of men by “manifesting” them, or chasing them desperately hoping they’ll pick you. You attract them by positioning. Wealthy men are never looking for the cheapest option. They’re looking for convenience, ease, discretion and quality of experience. And this is why you stay broke.. You try to look super expensive… untouchable.. “High class”... luxury option But wealthy men are not concerned about you wearing designer lingerie, posing in a cocktail dress in front of a mansion or sipping champagne on a yacht. They want a low profile, amazing, discreet experience with a girl who feels genuine. Think girl next door kinda vibe. Not someone who is evidently chasing luxury. And if your communication is messy, your boundaries feel a bit flexible and your pricing feels negotiable… You’re screening yourself out babe.. Raise your rates to the level of the man you want and market to these men specifically. High-net-worth men are used to decisive, successful women like doctors. lawyers or founders. If you act unsure, unconfident and like a “poser”, you signal low leverage. Wealthy men don’t chase women like this. And the fastest way to repel wealthy men is trying too hard and putting on a facade.. They can sniff it out.

People think men pay for the bedroom fun because they’re desperate. That’s completely wrong.. As someone who used to sleep with men for money as my full time job, in my experience, most of the men who paid for it weren’t weirdos or feaks.. They weren’t awkward or even bad with women. They were lonely and just tired of guessing what women want, performing at home or at work or tired of constantly negotiating their needs to be met inside their relationships. Men don’t pay for our bodies, they pay for the experience and the feelings attached to it. They pay to not be rejected or judged. They pay for a space where they are desired and paid attention to. With us they won’t feel like a burden or another inconvenience in someone elses life. A lot of my clients were married but overtime, the physical touch died from the marriage. A lot of them weren’t buying the act itself, but relief. From pressure, stress and feeling unwanted. If it was just about cheap, fast physical release, corn would have replaced this industry years ago. But it didn’t… and here we are changing thousands of dollars an hour.

I used to rent my ladyparts out for 2000 dollars an hour as a full service worker, and people have been wanting to hear my most glamorous booking experiences, so here they are. I used to sleep around with celebs, CEOs, millionaires, billionaires.. So I've seen some luxurious stuff okay! The first was being flown to a private five-star hotel opening. It was just a small group of clients and a few of us girls, and the entire hotel was reserved for us. We each had our own suites, private staff, the whole experience felt surreal. At one point we even ended up putting on a bit of a show, whipped cream included, although half the time the clients were on business calls and we were mostly entertaining ourselves…. It was luxurious and honestly just a really fun memory. The second was a yacht booking, which sounds incredibly glamorous, and it was, but it also required serious thought around security. When you’re at sea, you can’t exactly step out if something feels off… I only did it with friends, and we had clear boundaries and safety plans in place before stepping on board. The third was a private mansion party hosted by a multi-millionaire. By the end of the night, he asked me to stay and later offered me $10,000 a month to be his exclusive girlfriend. I turned it down because it was a lot less than what I was earning independently, so it was kind of a bad deal.

Just like a professional golfer has the perfect golf club for every occasion, a woman who sleeps with men for money has the correct rubber for every situation! Because if you do this job properly, ideally your rubber pouch should look like a small pharmacy. Here are the rubbers every working girl should carry with them, to give consideration to all shaped and sized weenies. You want normal and ultra-thin. Some clients care about feel. Some don’t. Have both just in case. You want latex-free. Allergies are real. And finding that out mid-booking is not the vibe… it’s a disaster You want extra-large. Definitely not for your benefit… Still necessary for the big fellas. You want red ones for when you’re on your period. Trust me, the client wont notice a thing. Still use a period sponge just in case. Then you want the longer-lasting ones. Because some men finish way too fast and are left frustrated. And you want to make sure you have a lot of them.. Because things break. And if you run out of condoms mid-day, that’s just tragic. As for female condoms? In my entire career, not one client ever asked so I never stocked them. But if you want a few on hand, that’s good to have. And here’s a pro tip: Go to your local worker organisation. In Australia, they often give out free condoms and other safety goodies.

My family never cared that I slept with men for money. People are always shocked when I say this but it’s the truth. What they did care about was that I was safe and that I did my due diligence when I started at a brothel when I was 19 years old. And when I called my dad and told him I was going to start working in a br0thel, He didn’t get angry at me or didn’t disown me like most people keep assuming. He couldn’t care less about what the neighbors would think or how the world would see our family. He asked me if I had researched the brothels I was thinking of starting in and if I fully understood the risks that come with this work. For 12 years, my mum, my dad, my brothers have all supported me. Because they trust me and know I can make decisions by myself. They knew only I can decide for myself and that even if they did disagree, which they don’t, they couldn’t have stopped me. Society likes to dictate what your family “should” think of this line of work. But my parents didn’t see it as an issue. A lot of people project their own fear, religion and jealousy onto this industry, and a lot of people don’t like to see women making so much money out of something so normal. Everyone is welcome to have their own opinions of course, I just wish we would stop pushing them forcibly onto other people.

Most people don’t realise that men are actually super simple.. And when it comes to the bedroom fun… k!nk vs vanilla has a clear winner amongst men As someone who used to charge 2 grand an hour for sleeping with men, here’s my thoughts on both options. Vanilla is very mainstream, super classic experience. It focuses on creating the feeling of real connection, making the client feel truly desired and wanted. It’s also the biggest market, because most men are vanilla, even if they like to think that they aren’t. However it’s also crowded. And as a working girl, if you don’t know how to position yourself, you’ll end up competing on price. Because being “nice” isn’t enough to charge a premium. Now k!nk: It’s a smaller market so you get to charge higher rates right off the bat. You have a much easier time making a clearer branding and positioning for yourself. You’re not competing with everyone, but instead only with the workers in your niche. But you actually have to be comfortable with it. You can’t fake confidence in power dynamics or fetishes. Clients will feel it. And some services naturally carry more risk, so you need to be intentional about what you offer. In my experience there's a good amount of money to be made in both k!nk and vanilla. Vanilla is more generic but in high demand, you need strong positioning to stand out. K!nk is more specialised with stronger boundaries and less competition. The question isn’t which is better. It’s which one you can build long-term without resenting the work. Because the fastest way to fail in this industry is to choose a lane based on money alone.

Student wins! ❤️

Is it awkward to walk up to a man in public and ask them to pay for sleeping with you? Sure it can be.. If you make it awkward. When you sleep with men for money as your full time job, meeting clients in public like hotels, events and high-end bars is a whole other ball game.. But like with anything, practise makes perfect. Confidence is what matters here. Firstly I do want to clarify I don’t teach this from personal experience. I never freestyled. I built my entire business online. I always aimed for low volume, high value, and good pre-screening. In-person selling is a completely different skill set. Online, you have so much more time. You can screen and think your answers through before you reply. In person you’re reading body language in real time, handling rejection in real time and assessing safety in real time. There’s no “let me think about it.” When a man messages you through a platform, He already knows what he’s there for. So if you want to learn freestyling, learn from women who actually built their model that way. Just understand this: In-person acquisition is higher adrenaline, whereas online acquisition is higher control. Neither is really wrong... just depends on what you prefer!

Did you know that selling the bedroom fun is one of the few industries that do not get affected by recessions? At least if you are doing it the right way.. And yes, there is a right way to rent out your kitty. I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but for over 12 years in this industry, I’ve heard the same thing over and over again from working girls: “It’s quiet.” “It’s the recession.” “I miss the good old days.” And for those same 12 years… I’ve worked alongside women consistently earning $360,000+ a year, with my rate of 2000 dollars an hour not getting affected. Yes, recessions exist and uncertainty affects markets. But have you noticed something interesting… During times like these, the rich tend to only get richer Sure they might spend differently, but they still spend. The problem isn’t that “it’s quiet.” The problem is that you’re trying to attract poor men, when in reality, you should be targeting the wealthy men who are not affected by economic downturns. When you compete on price, you compete for the most fragile client in the market. Like the price haggler and the time waster. And then you start lowering your rates just to feel busy. That’s not a recession problem, but a positioning problem!

Student wins 💋

Isn’t it just the worst when a man you invited to do the bedroom fun with you doesn’t realise you usually get paid for said activity… Super awkward to surprise him and be like “That would be 5 grand thanks” As someone who gets paid to sleep around with men, you need to be clear about the arrangement way before things get…. deep. A lot of workers panic when a client says, “Oh… I didn’t realize this was paid.” And this usually only happens in a more special kind of setting Like for example you invite him to an event with you. A 48-hour time together including a trip to another city. You’re super excited and know just the client who would love to come with you. So you message him and say, “Come with me I’d love to have you.” And suddenly all he hears is: “Omg, a romantic getaway, I must be so special to her..” And he fails to realise it’s still a paid booking. But the truth is: You’re blocking out two full days of your schedule and your chance to earn elsewhere. So if he says, “I thought this was just us going together…” You should say: “Oh, I’m so sorry if that wasn’t clear. This is still a paid booking. Does that work for you?” And then you stop, do not over explain or defend it. If he says no: “Totally understand. Let’s skip this one and keep our usual arrangement.” Because the moment you start justifying your price, you’ve already discounted yourself.

I loved sleeping with men for money. Honestly, it was one of the best decisions I ever made for myself. I had a great career, great clients, and now I get to mentor amazing students in this industry. And because my experience was overwhelmingly positive, I tend to talk about it positively. But every now and then someone says I’m “glamorising” the industry.. Whic his ‘t even a real word but I digress. What they usually mean is that I’m making the industry look better than it is by leaving out the hard parts. So let me be clear. Sharing my lived experience, including the parts that were fulfilling and financially rewarding, isn’t glamorising. It’s documenting. If I said every client was perfect and there was never stress, discomfort, or risk, that would be glamorising, and it would be false. But saying, “These are the designer shoes I bought with money I earned doing this job,” is just a fact. When a doctor buys a BMW or a lawyer posts their luxury apartment, no one accuses them of glamorising medicine or law. We accept that certain careers have financial upside. We even expect people to celebrate their success. But when it comes to my industry, it’s suddenly wrong? Adults get to choose their work, and they get to talk about all of it, the good, the bad, and everything in between. I’ve shared the hardships too, but they were a small part of my overall experience. If you want to understand this industry, you have to look at the full picture, not just the parts that make you comfortable.

When you want a man to pay like 10 grand to sleep with you for an extended period of time, the first thing to do is to stop getting so damn emotional about it Negotiating long, pricier bookings isn’t about convincing the guy your ladyparts are made out of gold. However most pro h0es don’t know how to negotiate high-ticket bookings, because they get so overly emotional. And emotional women don’t survive in S work.. Let’s say your 48-hour is €6,000, and you offer a client €5,000 because he’s a regular. If he pushes back and says, “That’s a bit high…” Don’t panic and don’t start listing your expenses. And definitely don’t discount yourself before he even finishes the sentence. You say: “Sure. What did you have in mind?” That’s it. Now the pressure shifts. If he gives you a number that still respects you, you decide if you wanna go with it. If he lowballs you, you stay calm and say: “That doesn’t really work for me, but I’d love to keep our usual arrangement.” No tension, drama or punishing the client is needed. What most women do wrong is that they negotiate against themselves. They drop from €5,000 to €4,000 before he even responds. That’s not great negotiation… that’s fear. High-ticket clients don’t need persuasion. If you can hold your number without flinching, you’ve already positioned yourself above 90% of the market.

Student wins! ❤️