Mr. Oligarch
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@hamptonism Being disciplined about starting your days early is good. But one thing which will help you more than any alarm is eating dinner before 7pm the previous day. Gives your body enough time to digest the food and you will wake up on time full of energy the next day
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@DejaRu22 By deciding I'm a lucky individual, I am constantly affecting the thermodynamic state of wherever I go, the molecules and atoms react to my internal state and affect external circumstances in real time to make manifest fantastic things happen in my day to day. all intentional
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I'll write about this in depth sometime in the future bc it'll truly be a service to the world, but here's the short version..
Ever since I started reading "important" people's biographies and interviews, etc (since I was ~10 yo) - one of the most obvious patterns is the "childhood discovery" pattern: Something captures them and they stay with that feeling FOREVER.
I think it's bc they're more self-conscious and actually give their life experience a thought, it's often more easily found in artists' life stories: "I was gifted a camera and it became my lens to the world", "They bought a painting set for my sister but I took it and never stopped painting ever since", "I read a story and was obsessed with writing something like that"..
Important point here is this, though: Being a "photographer" doesn't exist in nature. Or being a "financier". Or something like being a "comedian"..
But, being very observant, enjoying ways of seeing, capturing moments, telling people's stories, inventing solutions, doing something in an efficient way, making people laugh and creating a warm environment.. these can be found in the nature, without any labels.
So, my thesis is (though impossible to prove anything, except my point) - people are born & in time develop these things, and then if these things can find expression on some vehicle, it becomes a vocation. If the person is on a vehicle that's so far away from their core thing(s), they suffer greatly. If their core thing is very much developed + they are in the perfect vehicle + things go extra "well".. then you have a Dostoyevsky or Buffett, etc.
If the goal is to find your "purpose" or "what you enjoy in life" - you have to stop thinking with labels and start looking at it from the perspective of "what is the core motion(s), thing(s) I really like" and I bet you, you can find it on your childhood (obviously). But it's important to understand: It will NOT be obvious, in most cases, it will be subtle BUT repeated.
There are storytelling-focused filmmakers and philosopher-like filmmakers, for example. I'd propose if the storytelling-ones haven't at some point get obsessed with cameras and movies, they'd probably satisfy their core thing/feeling through writing, too - bc it's about telling a story, in that case. Or the philosopher-like, if cameras didn't exist at all, could satisfy their soul's yearning through actual philosophy. I understand it's not *that* clear-cut in life, but you get the point.
I'm sure if we interviewed, say, biggest YouTubers of the time - their inclination of "recording" something, putting on an act, getting a reaction, etc would be obvious in their childhoods. Maybe theater kids. Maybe loved attention. Maybe didn't have friends but kept detailed journals and wrote stories. Same core thing, different manifestation.
For myself, among many things that I've been able to spot, one example I'm comfortable sharing is the feeling of turning a dollar into two. Coming from a financially shaky background, the possibility that having $5 in my pocket as a kid would potentially mean $10 (if applied the right move), which then could be $20, which then could save my family from troubles.. has been a big driver. I loved (and still love) even just the IDEA of it, let alone doing it. I assume most entrepreneurial types are similar, bc some % of our minds are always scheming for business and moneymaking ideas.
Now, there are different TYPES of entrepreneurs. Elon Musk and Buffett are both entrepreneurs, but Elon is a "builder" type - from what ppl tell and from the newly out biography, it's clear that "money" is not a concern for him, except for going to Mars, etc. He's not a money hoarder or investor type (think Soros, Buffett..). He's also not an overoptimizoor engineer type (probably Bezos, etc). He's actually a missionary, more than anything else. The core driver is very much different. Same job, same titles, different reasons.
The core "thing", that feelingly-repetitive thing will stay with you, consciously or unconsciously. This is true for all other vocations and ways of life. And the unhappiest people are those who forgot/missed their thing completely, they don't even remember or know what it is.
If the sentence above made your heart sink a little, good - it actually means if you feel you're in that group, you're still not a lost cause. People who'll never get theirs back wouldn't be reading a post like this or feel a yearning for having that. Having the desire is the prerequisite to fulfillment of it.
An obvious exercise would be to just talk to your parents, people who've known you for a long time, look at old pics, journals, whatever.. and look NOT for concrete things ("oh I've been coding for years!") - but the abstract ones ("i really like going into the garage, not letting anybody know, and then coming out with a new build - is that inventor + showman inclinations?") and talk to AI about it. You have to be proactive with it.
And the usual blindspot is, the thing(s) being so obvious and normal to you, that you don't even see them. So, try to have a completely objective perspective. Look at your story, your childhood bedroom, all the notes you took & unfinished projects, etc as if you're a stranger - and note down the obvious, to-your-face things. Every kid draws stuff as a child, but not every kid's room is filled with different drawings and paintings they've done, progressively looking better. 99.9% of people haven't used those old school voice recorders more than 3-4 times, but maybe you have casettes of journals or stories or interviews or whatever you've did. What was the core thing there, that feeling? Find that and you'll be fine.
Good thing about that core thing is, you can "live" it almost everywhere. If you're an efficiencymaxxor engineer, I can put you on any task and as long as the overall circumstances are ok with you + you can fulfill that efficiencymaxxing drive, you'll do fine - whether you work at WallSt or as a teacher, might not matter *that* much (ofc values and conditions are things, but you get the point). Or if you're a people-pleaser by nature (using in a positive way, as performer + relationship-focused..), maybe instead of being a barista and pleasing everyday people, go and repeat the same feeling need by being a high level gift consultant. Idk, this is life, it's your life & you get to make it up.
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