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U LET YOUR BAD DAYS AFFECT U TOO MUCH. U DON'T LET YOUR GOOD DAYS AFFECT U ENOUGH, FIX THAT.

We are suffering from severe air pollution in Lagos 😢

You can’t change someone. But you will anyway. Not through arguments or ultimatums or that thing you do where you get really quiet and hope they’ll notice you’re upset. (They never do, by the way. They just think you’re tired.) You’ll change them the way water changes stone, by being around them long enough that they start to see themselves through your eyes. I dated someone who interrupted everyone. Constantly. Mid-sentence, mid-thought, didn’t matter. It drove me insane for months. Then one night at dinner with friends, I watched her do it again, and this time she caught herself. She looked at me, then back at the person she’d cut off, and said, “Sorry, keep going.” Nobody else even noticed. But I knew: she’d started hearing herself the way I heard her. That’s the thing they don’t mention when they say “accept people as they are.” You do accept them. And then they feel that acceptance so deeply that they finally have enough safety to look at the parts of themselves they’ve been running from their whole lives. Not because you demanded it. Because you made space for it. But here’s the trap: if you’re asking “can I change her” with a specific outcome in mind, you’ve already lost. You’re not in a relationship anymore. You’re in a renovation project. And people can smell that a mile away. They can feel when your love has conditions attached. It makes them smaller, more defended, and less likely to grow into anything you’d actually want. Honestly, it usually just makes them better at hiding. The real question isn’t whether you can change someone. It’s whether you can love someone enough that they feel free to change themselves. And whether the direction they’re growing is toward you or away from you. Sometimes you date someone, and she becomes kinder, more thoughtful, and more herself. Sometimes she becomes exactly who she’s always been, just louder. And sometimes, this is the one that hurts; she grows into someone beautiful. Just not someone beautiful for you. You can’t control which one happens. You can only decide how long you’re willing to wait to find out.

I fell in love with this sentence: “Forgive yourself for not knowing earlier what only time could teach.”

The British people are OFFICIALLY paying a #BrexitTax!

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Product review of my 4 month old son

you are allowed to outgrow people, outgrow things, outgrow situations, without guilt, without shame, without explanation, you are allowed to become who you need to be without attaching an apology letter to every stage of your growth.

The Invisible Cameraman 🎥 @Paul_Olima

Powerful: Jameis Winston on Deshaun Watson. A must-watch and listen.

what's currently going through the father's mind 😂😂😂😂😂😂

I'm In tears 😂😂

Her voice is good for my mental health. I feel better now. 😂☺️

bringing this back to the TL

using your 20s to un/relearn, do ego work, reparent yourself, and maintain your mental health is exhausting

Diversity is who is in the room. Inclusion is who has influence in that room. Anti-racism is a mindset, way of being, and goal for a group of people in a room. These are not interchangeable terms.

Time passing is not an apology

the kindness in each of his responses