OctaviaWells

A humorous account of dating disasters. Attempting to find love over 5 years, and being the wrong side of 40. - Being the accidental mistress - A FWB situation - Catfishes - Players - Liars - Cheats - STI tests - Mental health issues - Therapy #questpit #Q #A #M #NF

It’s sad that small accounts are virtually invisible.

My therapist told me, "When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she's not trying to be strong. She's just waiting for someone to do for her what she's spent her whole life doing for everyone else."

This, this, this!

Yep. 😬

Sometimes solitude is not a choice.. It’s a fucking survival tactic…

When someone dies by suicide, people ask: Why didn’t they talk to someone? What were they thinking? How could they do that? But when someone tries to open up, the world often says: You’re overreacting. You’ll be fine. You’re too sensitive. That’s life get on with it. Silencing people in pain and then judging their silence is one of the cruellest things we do as a society.

People think “reach out” is easy. It’s not. Reaching out when you’re suicidal is like crawling through fire to say: “I’m not safe in my own head.” And the response I got? “Breathe.” “Be positive.” That isn’t support. That’s dismissal.

Suicidal thoughts don’t always sound like “I want to die.” Sometimes they sound like: • “I don’t want to wake up.” • “I can’t do this much longer.” • “I don’t feel built for life.” • “I’m tired of being in pain.” • “I just want everything to stop.” These aren’t attention seeking thoughts. They’re distress signals and you deserve support.

Dating sucks.

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Dating me is like winning on a scratch card (£5 win on a £10 card).

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Real talk.