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My mom at 29 Me at 25

i’m so fucked up about this Michael Jackson shit

ngl i hate when my michael jackson obsession is re-triggered bc i genuinely cannot be normal about him and i actually do not enjoy being parasocial about nobody but i physically cannot control that he consumes my every thought until my hyper-fixation calms back down 😭

how the fuck did they manage to pull off a perfect sequel to a 20 year old movie

Who remembers Accelerated Reader?

Sex and The City so real cause all this shit relevant 25 years later

Breaks my heart to see people hurting others and just getting away with it? It’s so unfair.

When a ngga get a new ho & start bein mean actin like everything you do get on his nerves

I hate how traumatized everyone is from dating. it's actually sad.

THUG HAD MEEK MILL ON DIGITS INITIALLY

I can’t deal w ppl who are extremely conflict avoidant. There’s a difference between maintaining your peace and being a coward

You also realise he was so real for saying this

After years of dating an emotionally avoidant person, I can tell you, don't date them. Avoid them at all costs. Not because they're broken. Because you will break trying to fix them. Here is what actually happens: You will have the same conversation dozens of times. The same unmet need, the same explanation, the same promise of change, the same silence two weeks later. You will start tracking their moods to decide whether today is a safe day to bring something up. You will rehearse how to say things in a way that won't make them shut down. You will apologize for having needs because your needs make them uncomfortable. You will do all of this automatically, without noticing, because it becomes survival. Their avoidance is not passive. It actively trains you. Every time you soften a request and they respond better, you learn to ask for less. Every time you bring up a real issue and they go cold, you learn to stay quiet. You are being conditioned, slowly, to need less, expect less, and accept less, and you will call that growth. You will call it "not being needy." It is not. It is erosion. The intimacy you want will always be slightly out of reach. Close enough to keep you there. Far enough that you never actually feel it. That gap is the whole relationship. And the timeline is always the same: Years in, you are exhausted, they are unchanged, and you have to decide whether to leave someone you genuinely love because they will not meet you halfway. That decision will cost you enormously either way. You cannot love someone into emotional availability. That is not how it works. They have to want it, pursue it, and do the work, independent of whether you stay or go. Most don't. Not because they can't. Because nothing has made it necessary yet. You being there makes it unnecessary.

In a time with texting, social media, and everything in between, attention is currency. You have expensive taste in your friendships, and you are allowed to say that and want that. You require a lot of attention, and that does not mean you’re a narcissist.

I don’t understand this need to have the bar so low in human connections. Why can’t you want greatness and presence and consistency in friendship? Why are there so many exceptions, excuses, etc.? Can we please raise the bar? YOU CAN LITERALLY SHOW UP FOR EVERYONE ELSE

The issue is, people want low effort friendships to be rewarded so badly. People are allowed to have high standards and expectations for their friends, I would even say more than their romantic relationships. Your friends set the standard. Your friends are the family you choose

This is gonna get me hated… I don’t really care, when someone rewards distance too much. If I hear “I’m so grateful we don’t have to talk often” one too many times, the friendship is done. Because they somehow have time to talk to everyone else and do everything else

I stopped giving women so much grace in friendships when I realized that they always have time, energy and funds for their situationships.

normalize not reaching out to someone who hasn't replied to a text or returned a call in hours or days. they know they haven't spoken to you, and it's because they don't want to.

I blame Blac Chyna for this movement