Puffin's Mummy

@TheLegacyOfLeo Thanks Jess, hope you have a peaceful Christmas #BabyLossHour

Thank you for everyone for coming along to #BabyLossHour tonight. I hope that the next few days are smooth and gentle, and you get to remember your baby however suits you best. Merry Christmas everyone. 🎄

@TheLegacyOfLeo Yes I’m actually really appreciating that- no visitors- we can just focus on looking after each other, recovering from the physical side of it and grieving #babylosshour

@PuffinsMummy In some ways, that’s the positive of covid isn’t it? The permission to just be. #BabyLossHour

What rituals or acts do people do in the days after Christmas for self care or to soften the missing? Can be an overwhelming time #BabyLossHour

We also have tree baubles for each of our babies which helps make them feel more of a part of it #babylosshour

In the past we’ve lit candles and blown bubbles with my 4 year old to remember Little Puffin and will probably do similar this year to remember both our babies #babylosshour

@merrymunky @TheLegacyOfLeo Yes it's online but with people I have got to know well in person which makes it easier I think #BabyLossHour

@PuffinsMummy @TheLegacyOfLeo I’m pleased to hear that. I know our sources locally are mostly online at the moment but at least there is something #BabyLossHour

Welcome to tonight’s #BabyLossHour. Who is around tonight? How are we doing?

@merrymunky @TheLegacyOfLeo Thank you- I am connected to lots of sources of support this time so have lots of people to talk to which helps #babylosshour

@PuffinsMummy @TheLegacyOfLeo Oh lovely I am so sorry to her this. It’s just devastating. Hope you are seeking support and being looked after. #babylosshour

@merrymunky @TheLegacyOfLeo Hi Emma, I've not been on for a long while but remember you from when I was on here previously- I've just had a second miscarriage last week 😢. Hope the 'meh' feeling doesn't last too long #babylosshour

@TheLegacyOfLeo Bit late but I’m here. Feeling a bit ‘meh’ today. Hope everyone is doing ok x #babylosshour

@TheLegacyOfLeo @AchingArms Ooh this is a lovely idea #BabyLossHour

We are looking forward to watching Leo and Elis balloon in this race on Xmas day! #BabyLossHour @AchingArms

Spending time in nature or in our garden and thinking about/talking about our babies #BabyLossHour

@TheLegacyOfLeo Yep I'm so grateful for that- I know so many people have been without their partners in similar situations this year #BabyLossHour

@PuffinsMummy A huge difference. So glad he could be there for you both #BabyLossHour

I’m here tonight for the first time in a long while...we’ve just had our 2nd miscarriage (our first one was 2.5 years ago) #babylosshour

@TheLegacyOfLeo Yes indeed. She snuck my husband in for the scan and into the gynae ward with me(he wouldn’t normally have been allowed in due to COVID), spoke to the sonographer, waited with us made me a cup of tea etc- little things that made big difference #babylosshour

@PuffinsMummy I’m so glad to hear that - makes a shit situation a little less shit #BabyLossHour

@TheLegacyOfLeo Yes, thank you. We were in contact with bereavement midwife this time who made all the difference in making a terrible situation a bit more bearable #babylosshour

@PuffinsMummy Oh I am so so sorry. I hope you had good care? Such a hard time. #BabyLossHour

@TheLegacyOfLeo What a lovely, thoughtful gift from your friend #babylosshour

Tonight’s #BabyLossHour is about the small ways we can include our children in the festivities. Seems apt as tonight I’m lighting a doorstep gift from a friend, with the label “something to light for Leo” — it really can be simply lighting a candle ❤️

Thanks @HarrysHeroes1 and @TheLegacyOfLeo and everyone else for an interesting #babylosshour chat on self care

@HarrysHeroes1 Yes- same for me #babylosshour

@PuffinsMummy I find the feeling of being a burden so overwhelming sometimes and I neglect myself. I have had to learn (slowly) that I have to be selfish #BabyLossHour

Thank you for having me host this #BabyLossHour its been a lovely to see your responses to this topic. Finally are there any tips you have found have really helped and would like to share

@HarrysHeroes1 Yes and it’s hard to put ourselves first sometimes when there are so many other demands on us and we don’t want to burden others #babylosshour

@PuffinsMummy That is such a good way of looking at it, sometimes we are so busy and caught up with everyone around us that we lose the ability to apply that to ourselves #BabyLossHour

@merrymunky @HarrysHeroes1 Yes self care can be totally different for different people can’t it? What might help one person might be the wrong thing for another #babylosshour

@HarrysHeroes1 I think the best advice is to do what feels best for you. Nothing more, nothing less. #BabyLossHour

@TheLegacyOfLeo @HarrysHeroes1 Yes, I agree, making time for grief is really important #babylosshour

@HarrysHeroes1 Making time for grief, not overloading and embracing being ‘selfish’ — it’s okay to say no, to listen to yourself. Learning your grief is so so crucial. #BabyLossHour