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A birth is a birth! You think say e easy? Some would even say "if it's not vaginal birth, you didn't deliver like the Hebrew women"! SE e wa alright? Either through C-section or vaginal birth; may all our children excel, prosper, be in good health, spirit and of sound mind🙏🏾

Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith. First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul. If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her. Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them. A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward. He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now. Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar. Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity. Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do. Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight. Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break. Allah knows best.

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Omo, I'm tired walai. Robbi inni limmah anzalta illayha min khayri faqir.

We honour our beloved Muslim sisters who use the Hijab, Jilbaab, and Niqob during this overwhelming heat. May Allah shield you all from the heat of the grave and the flames of Hell fire 🙏.

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stop calling your busy friends “fake” we’re not 16 anymore, people have responsibilities

@theamakae @yvessirae Gbam

@yvessirae The saddest part? You probably explained that washing machine to him multiple times over 11 years. He just never had to remember because you were always there to do it.

After 11 years of marriage, three days after leaving my husband, he called to ask how the washing machine worked, and that said everything, because it was never about the machine but about the invisible labor I carried daily, unnoticed and unthanked, raising children, running schedules, fixing problems, and keeping life moving while he called it “help,” and leaving didn’t break the marriage, it revealed it, his confusion becoming my clarity, freedom first sounding like silence then feeling like relief, and sometimes independence begins with one small question that finally proves how alone you already were, a lesson that lasted longer than any ring.

THINGS I DONT DEBATE WITH MEN : 1. Abortion 2. Breastfeeding 3. Menstruation 4. Female body hair 5. Birth Control 6. Access to feminine hygiene products Why? Because NONE of those involve the male body & therefore don't create any valid MALE OPINIONS

I met a first daughter who told me she loves men who don’t just accept anything, men who don’t get bossed around, men who lead and she follows. Whats funny is, this babe loves to boss people around and when you don’t do what she says, her mood changes. Made me understand something about first daughters, if you don’t lead, she will lead, and her leading makes you less attractive to her

Normalise saying "Allahummar zuqni taubatan nasuha qablal maut" O Allah, grant me sincere repentance before death. WaLlaah, every single soul shall taste death. May Allah take our souls when He is pleased with us.

DON’T JOKE WITH THIS DUA Yaa Allah, position me where I need to be, with the right people, at the right time. Ameen

Picture this: Terrorists kidnaps someone, straps bomb onto the person and then sends the person to a crowded place where the "message" would be delivered. That's similar to how the human botfly operates. The human botfly is the terrorist here. When it's ready to lay its eggs, the human botfly kidnaps a mosquito that's flying or resting and attaches few eggs onto the belly of the mosquito. She does this in mid-air by catching the mosquito, rapidly attaching the eggs with a quick-drying glue, and releasing it, all in a few seconds. The eggs are temperature-sensitive. They remain dormant on the mosquito and will not hatch unless the mosquito lands on a warm-blooded animal (human, dog, cow, monkey, etc.) to take a blood meal. When the mosquito lands on a human and starts biting, the sudden rise in temperature (from the warm skin) triggers the botfly eggs to hatch almost instantly within seconds. The tiny larvae (maggots) drop from the mosquito onto the human's skin, crawl into the tiny puncture wound made by the mosquito's bite or burrow directly through intact skin using enzymatic secretions and hooked mouthparts. Once inside, it burrows into the subcutaneous layer and begins to grow. The larva creates a small breathing hole (a tiny pore you can sometimes see) through which it sticks its breathing tubes. Over time, it grows from microscopic size to about 15–20 mm long, feeding on tissue fluids and the body's immune response. When mature, it wriggles out (often at night), drops to the ground, pupates in the soil, and emerges weeks later as an adult botfly. HOWEVER...what I described above was just an example. What we have in Nigeria is not human botfly. It's their cousins, known as tumbu flies. Tumbu flies don't use mosquito. They lay eggs on damp or sweaty clothing (especially underwear, baby diapers, T-shirts, towels or bedsheets) left hanging outside to dry. The eggs can survive up to 2–3 weeks on clothing waiting for a warm body. As soon as someone puts on the infested clothing or lies down on infested ground, the sudden warmth + slight pressure causes the eggs to hatch within seconds to minutes. The larvae penetrates into the skin immediately and the rest of the process is similar with that of botfly larvae. Once their breathing hole is noticed, put anything viscous on it. It could be grease, palm oil or shea butter. This blocks their breathing holes and forces them to come out. That's is why it's very good for you to iron your clothes, ladies and gentlemen

Inheritance is a bad retirement plan for parents in Nigeria. Your children are 28–35, hustling in Lagos or Abuja, paying crazy rent, school fees, wedding bills, and begging for startup money every month, while you’re sitting on millions planning to “leave it for them when you die”? By the time they’re 60 and finally inherit it, what will they even use it for? Hospital bills and burial contributions? Give them the money when they’re young and can turn 50 million into 500 million. Let them buy land in their 30's, not in their 70's. My dad said: “I won’t put money in the grave with me. I’ll put it in your hands while I’m alive to enjoy the results with you.” This should be every parent's mindset.