Dr. Robin Stern

I'm excited to announce that my book, #TheGaslightEffectRecoveryGuide is now available on all platforms! This time, as an interactive workbook, readers can learn about gaslighting & how to recover through prompts, checklists, quizzes & reflective questions buff.ly/3EkOSHQ

Staying curious when you feel attacked is one of the hardest things a person can do. Scott Levy & I talked about the intense vulnerability of public leadership and why curiosity matters more than expertise. Why do we demand perfection instead of honesty? podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

Love Viktor Frankl’s work :) The Meta-Moment technique I co-developed with @RobinSStern, and write about in Dealing with Feeling, is built for exactly this space between activation and response. We all get activated. The question is whether we let the feeling drive the reaction, or pause long enough to choose a response that serves who we want to be. That space is a skill, and it can change everything. The full conversation is on the Mighty Pursuit podcast: f.mtr.cool/ugvwtopqgs #MightyPursuit #DealingwithFeeling #MetaMoment #BestSelf

What happens to our relationships when the fear of conflict becomes stronger than the desire for connection?

When we lose the ability to talk about the things that divide us, it leaves people with a pervasive terror that the world is falling apart. Scott Levy reminded me that disagreement is not what makes us feel unsafe. It is the profound silence that follows. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

How do you hold onto your truth in these spaces?

The fights happening at school board meetings are rarely just about policy. They are about power and who controls the narrative our children hear. My conversation with Scott Levy dives into the messy reality of local leadership. 🔗 podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

I asked Mo whether the high-achieving version of him actually felt like him. His answer stayed with me: he said he would not have known what “feeling like me” meant. How many people are succeeding inside a self they no longer recognize? Listen now: f.mtr.cool/zajqhcbrik

Mo looked in the mirror and thought, “Who is this guy? I wouldn’t hang out with myself.” That is not just a leadership story. It is a reckoning with the self success helped build. Listen to my conversation with Mo Edjlali on The Gaslight Effect: f.mtr.cool/xwptoalvkp

What do you do when tenderness still cannot get through? Sometimes the truth is not being heard as truth. It is being heard as a threat to the story someone is using to hold themselves together. More with Mo Edjlali on The Gaslight Effect podcast. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

Maybe the goal is not to avoid every hard conversation. Maybe the deeper question is whether respect can stay when difference enters the room. More from my conversation with Mo Edjlali on Conversations at the Edge. 🔗 podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Debate #Conflict #Gaslighting

A coach once told Mo employees were like horses: one set takes you from A to B, then you put them down for a fresh set. That kind of language says so much about the leadership many people are still recovering from. Listen to Conversations at the Edge. —> podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…

If a space claims to value awareness, what does it mean when disagreement sharpens thought in theory, but starts feeling unwelcome the moment power is named? Hear more in my conversation with Mo Edjlali on Conversations at the Edge. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #mindfulness

A lot of people are trying to prove they still care by never looking away. But there is a difference between being informed and being consumed, and pretending there isn’t usually comes at a cost. Pierce Harris on The Gaslight Effect Podcast. —>f.mtr.cool/xzjsrqnnwl

Young people bring urgency and questions that deserve follow-through, not applause. When adults meet that urgency with curiosity and a plan for next steps, ideas become work, not spectacle. w/ Pierce Harris: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #conversations #reflections

The Meta-moment technique I co-developed with @RobinSStern that I detail in my book, Dealing with Feeling has helped millions better deal with their difficult feelings. It's rooted in a lot of science. And inspired by Viktor Frankl's work :) marcbrackett.com/dealing-with-f…

Young people aren’t asking for praise. They’re asking to be taken seriously. Pierce Harris on why adults must stay in the room The Gaslight Effect Podcast. Full episode on Apple + Spotify. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #relationships #moralcourage #beliefs #youngvoices

Are you inside a chamber that only echoes your view? Pierce Harris warns that the internet can create that trap, and he explains why connection and small acts of dialogue are the antidote. The Gaslight Effect Podcast. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the… #Morals #beliefs #conflict

That may be one of the most important questions a person can ask after conflict, because it reveals whether the disagreement erased the relationship or whether both people were still able to stay human inside it. Pierce Harris: The Gaslight Effect Podcast f.mtr.cool/zykjydzbrp

You cannot pull adult SEL out of implementation and expect the rest to stay standing. Students do not experience SEL as a framework on paper. They experience it by observing adults' tone, regulation, repair, relationships, and the consistency of those skills across the school day. That is why adult learning cannot be assumed. It has to be built into training, implementation, and the support schools provide over time. Our new Education Week essay explores a three-domain framework for educator SEL: learn it, live it, teach it. When adults are supported across all three, SEL has a better chance of becoming something students experience everywhere, not just something they are taught once. 🔗f.mtr.cool/healmiasmj #SEL #Educators #ProfessionalDevelopment #SELResearch #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipDevelopment @drmarcbrackett @RobinSStern

When arguments push you to pick a side, who stays open to keep the person opposite you human? Pierce Harris speaks from rooms where disagreement mattered, on responsibility, dignity, and a steadiness that lets you care. The Gaslight Effect Podcast. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the…