Ron Friedman, Ph.D.

Bad teams: 1. Information gets hoarded.  2. Saying no gets you labeled difficult.  3. People are accountable to the boss, not each other. Great teams:  1. Everyone is in the loop.  2. Saying no is a sign of someone who knows what matters. 3. Teammates are accountable to each other.  Same job. Completely different life.

10 quiet signs you're on a great team: 1. Your manager has your back. 2. You can say no without it costing you. 3. Credit lands with the person who earned it. 4. You leave on time without guilt. 5. You don't dread Monday morning. 6. Your teammates want you to succeed. 7. You don't check messages on vacation. 8. You have a colleague who gives honest feedback. 9. You feel calm about your job security. 10. You feel safe enough to say "I don't know." Most people have never had all ten. Some have never had five.

Busyness deceives us into feeling like progress.  Every response requested, every meeting scheduled triggers that satisfied feeling.  Real productivity doesn't give you that rush. It just compounds quietly until one day you look up and realize you've built something.

Your best ideas don’t show up while you grind, they show up right after you stop. Try 90 minutes focused work, then 10 minutes off-screen.

On the best teams, everyone wins together or no one does. Shared goals create shared success.

@AdamLaneSmith Yes!

@RonFriedman Right, self-care makes capacity which allows all of the work you're wanting to do. Regulating your nervous system should be the START of the process, not the reward at the end.

Feeling good isn’t something you earn at the finish line. Treat it like the thing that gets you there. Sleep, food, exercise, and a little margin. Everything else gets easier after that.

Most leaders treat burnout like it’s an individual problem. “They need better boundaries.” “More resilience.” “A vacation.” But when your best people keep burning out, the problem usually isn’t them. It’s you. Praise nights and weekends, and you reward exhaustion. Praise great work done sustainably, and you reward excellence. The difference is what you reward. Burnout isn’t a badge of honor. It’s a failure in leadership.

The secret to great meetings is canceling the ones that shouldn’t exist. Before you schedule anything, ask: Do we need to think together in real time? If not, it’s not a meeting. It’s an email.

Disconnecting from work isn’t something you selfishly do for yourself. It’s an investment in your future performance.

@mrmance @DeionSanders Fascinating! Thanks for sharing @mrmance

@RonFriedman big fan of your book Decoding Greatness. I keep seeing patterns like this…and it’s relevant because I see it clear as day. Dabo and @DeionSanders have similar formulas…and immediate success.

Your setbacks don’t define you but how you respond to them does. The trick is to identify one thing your setback has taught you to do differently next time. Focus on development, not defeat.

@steveeunpu Thanks for sharing this with your community, Steve!

Creative blueprint "A proven formula with a novel twist. " @RonFriedman Read this book.

@JeronimoGDB @HarvardBiz Thanks for sharing this, Jeronimo!

Consider "mastermind meetings" for less draining and more productive team meetings. Benefits include improved resilience, trust, and growth. By @RonFriedman; via @HarvardBiz #Management #leadership #ManagingPeople hbr.org/2023/02/ask-yo…

@bhargp Thanks so much for sharing this with your community. I'm so glad you found the lessons useful and were able to apply them.

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