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MENSTRUAL PAIN: ARE MOOD SWINGS REAL DURING MENSTRUATION? IS MENSTRUAL PAIN AN EXCUSE FOR BAD BEHAVIOUR? Walk with me. When the Womb Weeps. A Letter to Aderonke Dear Aderonke, You are right, menstrual pain is real. Very real. Sometimes it feels like a chain saw cutting throiugh the skin. Sometimes it is a dull ache that sits in the belly like betrayal. Like I'll always say, Menstruation is the weeping of a disappointed uterus, mourning the baby that did not come that month. The womb contracts. The blood flows. And the pain becomes the language of the body’s grief. And you are right again,sometimes this pain is not just monthly sadness. Sometimes it is endometriosis. Sometimes fibroids. Sometimes adenomyosis. Invisible wars fought by women whose smiles do not tell their stories. And yes, this conversation must not be left for women alone. It should be whispered in classrooms and spoken loudly in clinics, so that boys grow into men who do not flinch when women say pain. So that understanding can stand beside empathy. Because pain changes things, it dulls joy, sharpens tempers, and sometimes makes silence safer than speech. Hormones rise and fall like tides, pulling emotions with them, and sometimes a woman needs space. But, my dear Aderonke, pain, no matter how deep is never a license for cruelty. Menstrual pain does not justify meanness. It doesn't equate bad behaviour. It does not excuse unkindness. It should not strip us of grace. I have seen women curled up on hospital beds, trembling, sweating, whispering prayers between spasms. I have held their hands and watched their tears fall not only from pain but from exhaustion. And when I say your pain is valid, I say it with the weight of their tears and the echo of their sighs. Yet even in pain, I have seen dignity. I have seen women choose restraint when rage would be easier. I have seen them call in sick from work rather than lash out in anger. They know pain, but they also know grace. So when someone says, 'Menstrual pain is not an excuse for bad behaviour', perhaps they are not denying your pain, perhaps they are pleading for balance. And balance, my dear, is everything. Because there is help. Real, medical help. A gynaecologist can listen. A scan can reveal what eyes cannot see. A laparoscopy can uncover what silence has hidden. There are treatments. There is relief. There is hope. So, dear Aderonke, continue to speak. Speak about pain, and about the women who endure it. Speak about wombs that bleed and hearts that keep loving anyway. But speak with grace. Let truth be firm, and spirit gentle. Because women’s pain is best understood by women, but women’s dignity must be defended by us all.