Steve Dean

After 15 years of online dating — as a power user, coach, consultant, matchmaker, product designer, whistleblower, and event/podcast/show host — I've spent this year writing up my key tips, takeaways, and rants. Enjoy: How to Navigate Dating in 2025 stevedean.substack.com/p/how-to-navig…

Why You're Not Getting Matches on Dating Apps stevedean.substack.com/p/reasons-for-… What Dating Apps Should Do Differently stevedean.substack.com/p/what-dating-… Dating in the Age of AI stevedean.substack.com/p/dating-in-th…

Dating App Profile Text — Everything You Need to Know stevedean.substack.com/p/dating-app-p… Dating App Messaging — Everything You Need to Know stevedean.substack.com/p/dating-app-m… Dating App Photos — Everything You Need to Know stevedean.substack.com/p/dating-app-p…

After 15 years of online dating — as a power user, coach, consultant, matchmaker, product designer, whistleblower, and event/podcast/show host — I've spent this year writing up my key tips, takeaways, and rants. Enjoy: How to Navigate Dating in 2025 stevedean.substack.com/p/how-to-navig…

I’ve now seen over 500,000 dating profiles across over 300 different dating apps. Every day I see the same mistakes from both clients and friends. Here are my best tips and practical considerations: open.substack.com/pub/stevedean/…

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.@StevenMDean is online dating consultant. See his unexpected advice in this comic by Beatrix Lockwood and Maya Scarpa (@mayabluecheck) 🎨: wapo.st/3TpgGmf

or b) we’ll be stuck trying to exasperatedly suss out compatibility downstream — in our messages and on our dates — precisely when it’s the most tedious, frustrating, and costly.

Remember, every relevant compatibility metric that we fail to include upfront means that either a) someone won’t feel confident enough that we’re a good fit, and will skip right over us,

Dating App Photos — Everything You Need to Know open.substack.com/pub/stevedean/…

The secret to a great dating profile might not be what you think. The latest comic by Beatrix Lockwood and Maya Scarpa (@mayabluecheck) features @StevenMDean, an online dating consultant 🎨: wapo.st/3MJlNK0

What @StevenMDean, an online dating consultant has learned about love. The latest comic by Beatrix Lockwood and Maya Scarpa (@mayabluecheck) 🎨: wapo.st/4e0LZvG

My response to a friend's question, "How do I share my more selfish or sexual intentions with someone, especially if I fear the other person wouldn’t share them?" stevedean.substack.com/p/advice-for-r…

My life's mission summed up well: "At critical moments in time, you can raise the aspirations of other people significantly, especially when they are relatively young, simply by suggesting they do something better or more ambitious than what they might have in mind."

Existential self — all the versions of me that may or may not exist, or ever have existed. If someone uploads my consciousness to the cloud, which one is the real me? If I schedule tweets to get published for years after I die, do they still count as mine?

Quantified self — my location history, personality inventories (MBTI, Big 5, Enneagram, etc.), blood type, medical diagnoses, criminal history, dental records, astrological signs, sleeping habits, credit score, follower counts, etc.

In dating, when y'all say "just put yourself out there"... Which 'selves' do you personally prioritize? Which ones do you omit? Which ones am I missing?