Unexpected Widow

And how life changed. In that moment and the hours after, to never be the same again. Gone suddenly before I got there. I never got to say goodbye. Neither did our boys. I bloody miss him. They do too. It’s shit.

@PeteTaxMiller I hope you are doing okay too Pete

@SuddenWidow I think about you frequently, as we lost our spouses at about the same time. I’m glad to hear you’re doing OK.

Apologies for not posting much recently, life, as we know, moves forward. This is an update on my progress, if this appears self-indulgent again, apologies, the intention is that for anyone reading my earlier posts sees that there’s life ‘after’ grief. So…

But, because I loved so deeply, and I was loved the same, my heart was open to love again

Grief hits on a daily and most random basis, I’ve learned to live with it. I miss him all the time.

I’m in year 2 of studying for BSc, the eldest boy is studying for his BEng, the youngest boy is qualifying in engineering.

@LynviaHarding Exactly this! Sending love and positivity x

@SuddenWidow I’m 20 months in and I’m still waiting for him to come through the door and say ‘Honey I’m home’. I’m still waiting for it to get better too. Love to you and the boys 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Update! Life for me and our boys is good, we are good We’re 2 years into this grief malarkey where apparently it gets better? I went through his work apparel today to decide what to bin and what to keep and I’m destroyed. A life and a career done. 😔

@DadWidowed I feel like this too, hence why I’ve been quiet on here. My twitter space was about dealing with my grief and, whilst I am still a widow living with grief, it doesn’t define me either. We move forwards with love and positivity 😊

Been thinking that I’ve outgrown this Twitter name. Not that I’m done grieving, because I’ll feel that pain in my heart until the end of my days. It’s more because of the associations with sadness and despondence when I openly talk about the difficult emotions associated with loss. Grief has changed me. It’s part of me. I can experience these emotions and still be a happy person at the same time. Widowed and sad are not synonymous. I’m widowed and awakened, with lots of life to live😊

@RachelBrougham I’m 2 years into this ‘new life’. Like you, I remember everything about that morning, who was on the radio, what I was writing at work, even the blue light journey to the hospital (too late). I don’t know how I’d explain what’s happened since; life is good but not the same 🫂

@CherryMorrello I am genuinely sorry to read this sad news. I appreciated reading Cherry’s positive updates and I will continue to smile at a dog as she always advised 🫂

It is with great sadness that the family announces the death of Tracey Morroll (nee Sutherland)(known as @cherrymorrello on X/Twitter) on Monday 8th January 2024.

@lizziep73 I feel this. Which is why I won’t send cards from me/us individually…..I write ‘love from’ and The ourfamilyname …..For me, it works better than trying to pretend that life is still normal x

Wrapping presents and just putting ‘love from mum’ and knowing I’ll never write mum & dad again 😞 2nd Christmas……. #widowedparent

Crikey…I intended to update with #positivityingrief but made the mistake of scrolling ..wtf is wrong with people? “If tha can’t say owt nice, then seh nowt” 🤷‍♀️

@widow_waiting @CherryMorrello So sorry to read this news. Thanks to Cherry, I always smile at a dog x

Our dear friend @CherryMorrello has asked me to pass on the message that she is really poorly at present & unable to update Twitter. So much love to you & Mr M, Cherry ❤️

I realise I posted about this…but its bothered me because it hurt. It cannot be excused, I’ve been married to her brother for over 20 years!

Hi! Ive had a birthday, I had a card addressed to ‘Miss’ and my name and married surname. It was from my SIL, husband’s sister. Assuming it wasn’t a mistake. I’m asking, what do I do?

@RussellScotland Thank you for taking your time to reply with something negative. I hope you find happiness elsewhere

@SuddenWidow That was nice of them to remember your birthday and take the trouble to send a card. But you could use it to be a victim if you want.

Hey! As a widow, what would you do with a birthday card addressed to ‘Miss’ forename and (married) surname from an in-law. I’m not even #AskingForAFriend

@UnmarriedGrief1 @rachelteale It is. I talk about him in the present, even though he’s not here, it feels like he still is in some way x

@rachelteale @SuddenWidow We have to move forward so we can tell our stories and keep our loved ones memories alive. I'll never 'move on' - my heart will always have him in it, but I will move forward and carry him with me. It's so hard without our loves isn't it x

Hi! I’ve been quiet…for good reason I think? My life goes on. Despite suffering the most devastating loss, I am managing to move forwards (not ‘on’-I hate that 😠) The teenagers are great, I’m studying, I’m running, I’m living. Hopefully with #positivity #grief #Grief #running

@ilkleymax Hi, small steps….if that’s a run then great, if that’s a walk because you can’t run because your grief comes out in tears and snot….it doesn’t matter….we move forwards. Sending positivity x

@SuddenWidow I don’t know you but I’m about to start trying the moving forwards part. My running has taken a back seat but it will come back. I’m hoping that and some new routines will help with the positivity part.