Temmy@Temmy_omoileri
There was a married man who kept chasing me for a relationship in the past, while he was on the call with me, he joined a meeting to counsel a couple, in the meeting, the wife of the couple said her husband hasn't have sex with her in 2 years, the man screamed "ahhh ! Alagba why? Her husband started rumbling and excuse himself that he's been fasting.
The man then said out of shock that " eni tolori koni fila" meaning; some have caps but no heads" he then added that " where someone is lacking sex in marriage because his wife doesn't let him, another man is sex starving his wife"
That day, I felt pity for the man and I invited his wife over to my house to let her know what her husband said in the cause of the meeting I was privy too.
She exclaimed and said, its not true, that both of them are sexually active....
I kept quite...... because she wasn't aware her husband was chasing me.
I then realized the man was just looking for a sex tool since his wife isn't available sexually.
Firstly; alot of people are going through alot in marriages.
Any man that is comfortable to sex a married woman is cursed already.
The bible is fiercely against it.....
I have searched the scriptures and this sin is an abomination.
It attracts so much ill luck and evil into your life.
Secondly: if a woman should ask if a man can do without her" it screams alot"
There are many ways a man will make his wife feel unwanted, many men say things they don't mean to their wives when angry, women incubates word.
A woman is weak" believe it"
A tiny soft word of assurance will keep her with you" this is why many had concluded that a woman is only subjective to her emotions.
The making of a woman doesn't have the capacity to live in chaos.
Many had given up and just keep living like it doesnt matter, but when they see a greenlight elsewhere and someone starts promising peace, togetherness, etc... theyre gullibly deceived.
This is why one of the things I taught myself is self discipline.
No matter how unpleasant I feel, it will never make me seek validation from another.
I have seen the switch from totally emotionally dead towards A and suddenly starts burning towards B because of maltreatment.
Hateful words, toxic behaviors, silent treatments, etc doesn't build a woman, it breaks her.
To my dear ladies: if you have to keep asking another man if he can do without you? You need help that is beyond penis.
A man will never tell you he cannot do without you when he's enjoying you secretly.
It is when they finally own you that they start to misbehave.
Finally, men kindly know that, everything you did in the beginning when you met your wife is your identity to her.
Dont stop nurturing that feelings and watering your garden.
Don't treat your marriage as unimportant and never say what you dont mean.
If you ever say anything you dont mean, dont assume she knows or understands, please tell her when you are calm that you don't mean it. Apologize truly.
Lead with love and patience.
Pray away toxic behaviors that doesn't help anyone but causes destruction.
Above all, let us know that our true peace is being the peace others also deserves....