The LOLA Project

Go steady. Miscarriage is in the news. You do not need to watch it or read it just because it is validating your truth. Progress is progress, with or without it consuming your day.

@NovaFoundation_ @LullabyTrust Ah, this is so kind. Thank you! We are so grateful we’re able to offer this support for anyone who needs it, and still planning improvements and more support too. ❤️

@LullabyTrust @TheLOLAProject1 Also, I LOVE @TheLOLAProject1

Final question: What helped you deal with anxiety around having another baby? #BabyLossHour

@ShoeboxofM @LullabyTrust Thanks, Rich!

@TheLOLAProject1 @LullabyTrust Collection of tweets is here: wke.lt/w/s/GRX-Em #babylosshour

Good evening and welcome to this evening’s #BabyLossHour Everyone is welcome to contribute or just follow along using the hashtag Who is joining us this evening?

@LullabyTrust That is so good to hear. I am pleased our online yoga might be helping some people right now in particular. Thank you for referring. X We have plans to add a lot more content - different classes of different lengths/focuses etc. We will soon offer even more abs better support ❤️

I've found online yoga really helpful and we have been directing parents to the resources @TheLOLAProject1 #BabyLossHour

@babyinthemakin1 I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you, abs your beautiful boy today and sending all my love.

@TheLegacyOfLeo Hey Jess! I am so sorry. I now teach on a Tuesday evening and sometimes come to this super late. Sorry to miss you all. I hope you’re doing okay, in all the many shitty circumstances xx

#BabyLossHour is quiet tonight! Totally okay. If anyone wants to talk about anything “off topic” feel free to. No rules around here...

@TheLegacyOfLeo Hi Jess! I’m so sorry I missed this conversation - I finished work late. We are over 9 years now. There is life before Lola, and after Lola. The two don’t correspond. They are different worlds. Grief has changed. But is no less enveloping or painful, even if I manage it better.

Good evening tonight for anyone joining in or watching #BabyLossHour. Tonight we will talk about managing the new normal within long term grief. Please do feel free to join in, wherever you are!

Tomorrow’s #BabyLossHour will look at adapting to the ‘new normal’ after loss. Tuesday 17th Nov, 8pm. Please do share.

A look ahead to the rest of the years #BabyLossHour topics. Every Tuesday, here on Twitter, from 8pm.

Next Thursday, 5th November, there will be a Westminster Hall debate on the effect of the COVID-19 outbreak on people experiencing baby loss, led by our Co-Chair Cherilyn Mackrory MP @thisischerilyn. The debate will be available to watch here: parliamentlive.tv/Event/Index/7b…

@TheLegacyOfLeo This is absolutely beautiful.

My wife ❤️ #LGBTBabyLoss

Thank you to Nat for sharing these beautiful words about being a Mother to Leo Phoenix 💚 #BLAW2020 #BLAW #BabyLoss

@TheLegacyOfLeo Hi Jess, I am trying to connect! I can’t seem to access the event at Event Brite. I’d love to join if it is t too late.

For those who reserved a spot at tonight’s #BabyLossHour virtually live, you should now have the zoom access link in your inboxes. Drop me a message if you don’!

Pls check in on your friends. “I saw the news today, intense. Made me think of you, and {babies names}. I know it’s Awareness Month too, so I wanted to see how you are feeling? Do you have some time off / got anything relaxing planned to balance it all out?” #babyloss #blaw

A word on taking photos and sharing in the midst of the death of a baby. #blaw #babylossawareness #ChrissyTeigen #JohnLegend

@mrpeterbyrom @TheLegacyOfLeo I think it is vital to do what’s right for you. What feels right for you cannot be wrong. It’s also likely best for you (most importantly) but also for all, in the long run. Forgetting, forgiving. Each experience is so personal, only you can know what ‘right’ is with each person.

Do we still need to find forgiveness if they are no longer in our lives? What impact can holding the anger have in these circumstances? Many people I no longer see, still cause me pain... #BabyLossHour

@ARCantenatal Thank you so much! That is so kind! It has taken me 9 years or so to find my bereaved mum voice and bring a little bit of what I needed to the world with Lola’s Project, but it is coming now, & if what we do can ever help to support you and the work you do, please say the word.

@TheLOLAProject1 And we will always be here for both of you.

It is so sad hearing these stories, but also somehow helpful. We had some horrific experiences with family after Lola was born, some who just disappeared and others (my mum) who came from NZ and then dramatically left for no real reason. It was so hard to understand #BabyLossHour