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There’s a moment that happens to new parents, probably around four in the morning, when you’ve been up all night with a sick kid, and they’ve just thrown up again, and you’re so fucking tired and frustrated, but it’s outweighed by the sympathy you feel for this helpless dependent, and most of all you just want them to feel better, and then it hits you that this is what your mom did for you, and in that moment you understand your parents in a new way, fully comprehend what they did for you — like, you really get it, way down in your stomach, not just in the abstract way that anybody can understand what parents do for children — and you realize that from now on you’re always going to see things from the perspective of the parent, not as a child, and a lot of your complaints and hangups and neuroses will melt away, never to return, and from now on the stories you’ll tell about your childhood, stories you’ve told 1000 times before, will have a slightly different character, will be based on a fuller understanding of who you are and what actually happened to you, and you’ll think, “my God, in all those years of childlessness, I’ve cheated myself of this realization, of this opportunity to understand the world as it really is and move on.” And if you’re childless and reading this, then maybe you’re thinking, “sure, but obviously I can intellectually understand this without having children of my own” and it’s just, like, no, probably not. It just doesn’t really work like that.

I’m probably a person you’d describe as “withdrawing” my kids. I homeschool them. But, also, we are so social we don’t have enough time for all of our relationships. We do classes, sports, clubs, play dates, and fields trips. We spend time with extended family several times a week. So, “withdrawal” isn’t an accurate perception. We aren’t withdrawn, we are selective and intentional.

When you send your children to public school, this is who they’ll be spending their day with.😑

Family estrangement is more common today. Young people are quicker to prioritize personal boundaries and emotional comfort. Terms from Psychology, like Emotional abuse, are more widely used, but sometimes applied too loosely. A big issue is one-sided narratives. Online spaces like TikTok and Reddit often amplify one person’s perspective without the full context, which can make situations seem more clear-cut than they really are. Also, many young adults simply don’t have strong conflict-resolution skills. Instead of working through problems, they avoid them, often by ghosting or cutting contact rather than addressing issues directly. Have you noticed this shift, too?

Signs of ADHD in women 1. Easily overstimulated by noise (a barking dog, a crying baby, music in the background) 2. Motivation swings between extreme productivity and zero energy 3. A constant mental overload, like having countless tabs open at once 4. Social exhaustion even great nights out require days to recover 5. Replying to messages only when the energy hits… or not at all 6. Staying up late despite being exhausted (hello, revenge bedtime procrastination)

Homeschooling, in a nutshell, is refusing to outsource your child's formation to strangers with a curriculum you didn't choose.