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Start up idea. Get runners backpacks so they deliver parcels when they do their long runs 😭🙈

If you’re Irish, English, French or from New Zealand: Chasing the Sun 1 and 2.

The actual research is wild. Every time you push down a feeling, your brain has to choose between suppressing that emotion and recording what’s happening around you. It picks the suppression. The memory doesn’t get saved. A 2000 Stanford study confirmed this: people told to hide their emotions while watching a film remembered far fewer details than people who just reacted naturally. Suppressing emotions uses up mental energy, and that leaves less brain power for saving new memories. Brain scans show why. A 2012 study found that suppression quiets the hippocampus (your brain’s memory-recording center) right when it should be saving information. The two brain regions that normally team up to lock in memories stop talking to each other. Over time it gets worse. Suppression keeps cortisol (the stress hormone) elevated, and cortisol shrinks the hippocampus. Chronically stressed people can lose 10 to 15% of its volume. Just three weeks of high cortisol can shrink the tiny connection points between brain cells by about 20%. The good news: studies show this shrinkage can partially reverse once stress levels drop. Not necessarily permanent. A Finnish study of 1,137 older adults tracked over roughly a decade found that habitual emotion suppressors had nearly 5x the risk of developing dementia, even after controlling for genetics, smoking, obesity, and education. There’s a better way to handle emotions that doesn’t cost you your memory. It’s called cognitive reappraisal: instead of bottling the feeling, you reframe what’s causing it. (“This meeting isn’t a threat, it’s practice.”) A 2003 Stanford/UC Berkeley study found reappraisers had more positive emotion, better relationships, and higher wellbeing. Suppressors got the opposite on every measure. And reappraisal carries zero memory cost. The difference comes down to timing. Suppression kicks in after the emotion has already fired, so your brain is fighting its own response while simultaneously trying to record the moment. Reappraisal changes how you interpret the situation before the emotion fully activates. Same event, same person, but your hippocampus stays free to do its actual job: recording your life.

The In Memoriam at the 2026 #ActorsAwards

“Be where your feet are.” My mind has a habit of wandering to the past or worrying about the future, so I return to that sentence whenever I feel pulled away from the moment I am actually in.

Behold, the attachment.

STOP TELLING CHATGPT “CHECK MY GRAMMAR AND WRITING.” Bad prompt = Bad result. Use these prompts and you’ll see the difference:

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Can you block someone on MS Teams?

Boomers want us back in the office 5/5 so they can successfully dodge their families 😭

PLEASE SPREAD FOR AWARENESS ‼️) The public is being called to participate in the draft revised white paper on visas and migration. Cape Town folks, it’s your time to shine. this is about protecting your city, your housing, and your future. Get involved, make your voice heard.

“Can we please prioritize this” Nakweo gebare “we” ba ra wena o le one.😭😭😭👍🏿

To an extremely romantic 2026 ✨❤️

They’re making me do work emsebenzini. 💔💔💔

Words that have never been spokened before are being speakened … wtf does any of this mean?😭

available for marriage, no dating please; straight marriage.