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Please, read books. Not just captions, or carousel posts, or what made it to the top of your feed. Read books. Long ones. Complex ones. You cannot build a mind with weight on the back of social media ephemerals. Intellectual depth demands patience.

and still be wrong in how you handle the human in front of you. intimacy requires a different default than analysis. the goal is to leave the encounter with dignity intact, proving that while the incentive got you there, the person is why you stayed.

if the representation of sex is just “winning,” you’ve stripped the act of its human utility. you have to demonstrate that the fulfillment was found in the person, not just in the successful execution of an idea. you can be right about the mechanics of human nature

humans are essentially a collection of responses to specific incentives. i told her in our first year that anyone could be reached if the environment was calibrated correctly. when it finally happened in our third year, the theory met reality. but naming the mechanic out loud…

Misandry is women venting. Misogyny has institutions, laws, traditions and festivals behind it. Misandry is like old women gossiping at the back of the church. Misogyny is what happened in Ozoro today. One is a reaction while other is a system.

If not for social media and video evidence, you people will continue to gaslight women. We come here and tell you people everyday that these things happen and the scale is scary and it is normalized and you say we’re lying or Twitter radicalized us. Which world do you live in ?

I hope you people know young boys are also there watching & joining these things. See what you are teaching them is okay? Tomorrow when someone speaks out on how this culture forms, you will say women online hate men. We have so much to do re socialization in this country

to justify its cost. it is a performance of parasitic complexity. one resolves a crisis; the other requires one to survive.

the mathematician operates on the architecture of reality. they begin with a genuine flaw and engineer a resolution. it is a function of pure utility. the consultant operates on the architecture of the market. they begin with a 'resolution' and then manufacture a flaw…

growth is the mechanical result of refusing to lie to yourself about how much you've deviated from your own map. you have to inhabit the discomfort to understand the repair. vitality lives in the sting, not the sedative.

when you feel the guilt of gossiping or the hollow sense of a failed commitment, don't look away. that's the real you being found out by the ideal you. it’s a structural challenge to actually become the person you’ve been pretending to be.

if you claim the right to feel good when you win, you’ve already signed the contract to feel like shit when you fail. you can't have the peak without the valley. avoiding bad feelings is just trying to cook the books of your own experience…

There’s nothing like when a Nigerian artist sits down with a Nigerian storyteller that knows what they are doing. The cultural factor in the way the interaction translates is huge. I get the appeal of foreign outlets/audience but our biggest stars should be sitting down with us!

true reasoning requires the ability to audit the data itself, not just the logic used to process it. if you cannot question the source of your convictions, your IQ is irrelevant. it just means you’ll be more articulate than the average person while you’re being wrong.

we see this everywhere. highly educated people using their mental horsepower to justify the indefensible. they are no dumb, they are using a very sharp blade to cut the wrong things. their intellect is being used as a shield for their bias rather than a lantern for their path.

think of a high-performance sports car. the engine gives you speed and power, but it has no say in the direction. if the steering is locked or the map is wrong, that power only helps you crash harder or lost faster. why the intelligent person is often the hardest to de-program…