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Isaiah 60:3 "Nations will come to my light, and kings to the brightness of my rising.”

rt if a woman has never paid for your haircut before

2 chronicles 20:17

I spent 4 years paying my younger sister’s school fees. Every single kobo. The day she graduated, she gave the acknowledgement speech and thanked everyone except me. I sat in that hall and felt my soul leave my body 😭. When she got admission, things were tight at home. I had just started my first job. I told our parents, "Don't worry. I’ll handle it." And I did. Every semester. No breaks. There were months I was eating 0-1-0 so her account wouldn't run dry. I never told her. I didn't think I needed to. Graduation day, she looked beautiful. The first graduate in our family. I was prouder of her than I’ve ever been of myself. Then she got the mic. > She thanked God. (Fair). > She thanked our parents. (Expected). > She thanked her friends who kept her sane. > She even thanked her HOD. Then she sat down. My mother looked at me. I smiled and looked away, but the clapping felt like it was happening in a different room. I didn’t say anything that day. Or the week after. But something in how I moved changed. I stopped volunteering. Started waiting to be asked. Started noticing who actually noticed me. People say, "Don’t give to be recognized." I agree to an extent. But there is a thin line between not needing applause and being erased by the person you bled for. That's not humility. That's invisibility. We’re fine now. I brought it up six months later, calmly. She cried, and said she was nervous and blanked. Maybe. Maybe not 🤷 But I learned something either way. Sacrifice without communication creates invisible resentment. Tell people what you are carrying for them. Not to guilt trip them. But because silence makes martyrs, and martyrs make bitter people. This same dynamic shows up in dating every day. You’re playing the provider or the supporter in silence, while your partner thinks you're just an oil money that never runs dry. Stop accepting the bare minimum of gratitude. If they don't see the sacrifice, they won't value the person making it. Has someone ever made you feel invisible in a relationship after everything you did for them? Let’s talk below.👇

BREAKING: Don't leave this earth without knowing Jesus, pass it on timeline.

The most destructive piece of internet lore ever created is the phrase: "If they wanted to, they would." ​It sounds empowering, but it is actually deeply narcissistic. It assumes that a person’s actions are dictated 100% by their desire for you, while completely ignoring their capacity. ​A partner can desperately want to give you the world, but if they are fighting a silent financial war, battling burnout, or dealing with a health crisis, their capacity is at zero. Measuring a stressed partner's love strictly by their ability to "perform" is a lethal mistake. "If they wanted to, they would" is the fastest way to lose a fiercely loyal partner over a temporary lack of bandwidth.

The things I want, they want me too, but not this version of me.

I see the life I want, and it’s possible, but I must evolve - grow, sharpen and refine myself - so I can truly inhabit it.

I want my woman to have the softest most unproblematic life. Any issues just call me babygirl

How long are we going to keep blaming these people for not giving us what most of them never had? Yeah, your feelings are valid but have we ever considered the fact that it's just their first time living too? They didn't even have the internet to give them a quarter of the exposure and knowledge we have right now. They only followed the path they were shown. Well, the baton has been passed onto us now too, let's see how better we can be.

i don’t stay mad at people for long. i may never actually speak to you again but i’m not mad about nothing for real 😭

I’ll marry a woman who treats me like she’s waited her whole life to find me, excited and grateful that our paths finally crossed.

I realized when you're a lil too understanding, people become a lil too inconsiderate of you.

You’re smart… but imagine if you were consistent.

Unfortunately, as you get older, you gradually become less interested in new music and keep going back to the old favorite songs you once loved.

Immediately someone else is in my space or I'm in theirs, my routine goes to shit. A lot of the things I do when I'm by myself will feel performative if someone else witnessed them, so I just don't do them.

Sex is great, but have you ever scrolled on 𝕏 after Arsenal won and Manchester city dropped points?

May every Arsenal supporter that has endured the last 20 years live to see the next 3 month ❤️🙏🏼

If we win the EPL I will quit football and concentrate on my personal life man! It's been 22 years of pain and heartbreak

The internet constantly tells women that men are terrible listeners because the second a woman starts venting about her day, the man immediately interrupts to offer a logical solution. We are taught to view this as him being dismissive, emotionally unintelligent, or invalidating our feelings. ​The strict, unpopular truth is that to a man, fixing the problem is his absolute highest, most desperate form of empathy. ​Women vent to connect; we want our partner to just sit in the dark with us and validate the emotion. But men are hardwired to view the woman they love being in distress as an active threat. When he immediately offers a spreadsheet, a strategy, or a solution to your problem, he isn't trying to silence you. His brain has recognized that something in the world is hurting his partner, and his immediate, visceral instinct is to assassinate the thing causing you pain. We constantly shame men for "not just listening," completely ignoring the fact that his attempt to fix your life is his most profound declaration of love.