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Spicy Indomie YES or NO

The game is the game 🤷‍♂️

"It's very expensive to be a girl... Love doesn't pay bills." To be her man, you have to pay up $7000 every week.

If the only reason your wife respects you is because you’re rich, you’ve lost it. For those of you that are yet to marry, do this simple test ; stop giving her money and see the nonsense you’re dating. I can guarantee she will stop communicating with you again after 3 days.

This mode could’ve been generational if it wasn’t a LEGO MODE

I’ll say this once. Don’t make it a habit to be “helping out” in house chores. All these: “She’ll cook, I’ll wash plates” BS shouldn’t be happening in the first place. That’s her duty. To keep the home running. If you start giving her the power to tell you to do things in the house, sooner or later, both of you will start wearing the same trousers. She cooks. You eat. She takes your plate to the kitchen & wash it. You’re already providing for the house. That’s the least. she can do. Y’all have gotten too soft.

I don't know what you people are talking about o, but no man is moving into my house permanently. 😑 Na one bedroom apartment you get, bah? Either I'll move into your space without coercion, or we'll jointly find a neutral place. My first love (my dad) has never slept over at my mother's father's house or any of her siblings' places. That's the upbringing I had, and it's where my family values stem from. We are patrilineal, not matrilineal. Sometimes, it's not about the woman when a man moves into her place. Even if she means no harm, his insecurity can unnecessarily create faults where none exist, simply because he feels bad about living in her house. There's nothing wrong with patriarchy, as long as there's no abuse. If you move into my house, will our kids bear my surname? The most basic thing a man should do for his lineage is to provide a place; the root or base. If I could fall in love with a man living in a studio apartment, I'd feel comfortable enough to move into his space. If it's too small to accommodate our growing family, we can move to another house together, but not mine. I'd give up my place to move into his. If he's relocating from Nigeria to where I live, of course, we can stay in my place temporarily so he can settle in and get a job. But that's just short-term. Once he settles, we'll jointly move into another home, and I don't mind contributing to the rent. I live in the Nordic region, a place known for the highest levels of gender equality but plagued by the lowest total fertility rates. I've seen the effects of these modern ideologies you're incorporating into the family system, and they don't always end well. You are a man with your natural role, be it and fulfil it. You are a woman with your natural role, be it and fulfil it. I understand that the world is changing, but we must not adopt everything. We should keep what works. When comparing the conventional family system with the modernized or "woke" one, both have their limitations, but the conventional family was better, and I'd choose that over what I see here. This is my opinion. If yours differs, do what suits you. What matters is that we're all happy and no one is coerced or forced into anything.

That is off point. Men aren’t that good either. But if you have to pick ONE person out of the populace to commit to, and you pick nonsense, that says a lot about you. I’ve seen people say 90% of women are bad. But they will still ignore the 10% and want to die on top the 90% they claim is bad. If there are 400k women available and 90% are bad. It means you still have 40k options to pick ONE from.

The average Nigerian has turned marriage into a strategic battle. When they advise men about marriage, it sounds like World War tactics. When they advise women, it is Cold War strategy. Nothing about love. Everything about control, paranoia, and survival. You hear things like: “Let provision be your shield.” “Stay ten million steps ahead of her.” “Do not tell your wife how much you earn.” “Do not allow your husband command you.” “Do not let him tell you what to do.” “Always search his phone.” “Do not let her make calls when you are not there.” “Her money is not your money remove your eye from it.” “Your wife is not your family member do not treat her as one.” “Women are wicked people do not eat food from her without testing it.” “Do not tell your wife your future plans.” “Do not let your wife see you every day she will disrespect you.” At this point one has to ask. Are you people marrying out of love or entering a long-term war contract? Are you marrying a partner or recruiting an enemy agent? Is the goal companionship or mutual destruction until one person finally breaks, cheats, dies, or mentally checks out? Because nothing about this sounds like love. It sounds like fear. It sounds like poverty thinking. It sounds like illiteracy dressed up as wisdom. It sounds like trauma being recycled as culture. A society that truly understands love does not enter marriage armed to the teeth. A society that trusts no one ends up turning marriage into a battlefield. So what is it really for Nigerians? Inability to love. Or a life so hard that people no longer believe peace can exist inside a home? Think well.

You’re missing the point completely. Marriage is not about competing over space or proving masculinity. Having your own space isn’t about “downgrading her house” or ego—it’s about boundaries, mental health, and self-respect. Even if she owns a bigger home, maintaining your own space makes you a stronger, calmer, and more grounded partner, not a weaker man. Some men don’t understand: peace, stability, and individuality in a relationship matter more than square footage or who “owns” the bigger house. If you ignore that, you risk resentment, tension, and losing yourself in someone else’s life.

Nobody is saying you shouldn’t have your own space. If you have your own cubicle and the woman you want to marry owns a 3 bedroom, you will now move her to the cubicle to prove you’re a man? It is well ooo. No be best friend Una dey marry again?

Sadly they didnt marry wrong, Reality just doesn't care about all these plenty write-ups, even though you are trying to portray it the way you think it should be but the reality is exact opposite, there are things you will never understand unless you have the experience yourself

A man establishes a home. Marriage creates a new home, not a relocation into the wife’s house. I have a 3-bedroom apartment on the mainland. My wife has a mansion on the island. But I should move into my wife’s house? If a man EVER moves into his wife’s house due to extenuating circumstances, it should be temporary. What exactly is wrong with modern men?

I said it with my full chest, and I will say it again; There are certain marital matters you don't involve LOVE in. I will not do because of love and marry a man with AS genotype, knowing fully well that I'm also AS. Does that mean I do not love and respect my man? Absolutely not! But I cannot allow love overrule common sense. I know you understood my point clearly but only want to play ignorant of the truth. An elder said; "There are matters you can ONLY understand better when you are married and there are certain decisions you will never make when you get married". Las las na 𝕏 everybody dey, when you're married, move into your wife's house.🙏