VictimFocus

Here is our free course created by @DrJessTaylor for caring for yourself after sexual violence. Over 50,000 people have taken it already, and we’re immensely glad that it’s helped so many. ❤️ victimfocus.org.uk/free-caring-fo…

Dear Doctors, If you see a patient in your clinic who has been brought along by their partner, who is strongly suggesting to you that their partner is mentally ill and needs medication or a diagnosis, consider the following: 🚩 Lots of abusive partners insist on taking their victim to the doctor to have them diagnosed as having mental health issues 🚩Abusive partners benefit from their victim being diagnosed as mentally ill instead of traumatised from the abuse, and will often use the medication to threaten or gaslight their victim 🚩 Abusive partners will often hold the MH diagnosis over the victim; and either convince the victim that they are going mad, or that no one will believe them 🚩 Pathologisation of a victim of abuse on their medical records will change their life, and mean they are likely to be disbelieved when they come forward - or CPS/police will drop the case due to third party materials (your notes) which frame the victim as mentally ill instead of a victim of abuse I train medical professionals to look out for this kind of abuse tactic, common not only in domestic abuse, but also in child abuse. Abusive parents are known to use this strategy, too - meaning the behavioural changes of their child are seen as disorders instead of trauma. Thank you for listening.

Oops, I did it again! ❤️📚 My new book ‘The Watcher of Your Own Flame: Understanding and Nurturing Yourself After Trauma’ is out now all over the world! Get your copy on Amazon Prime worldwide - or directly from me in my bio. Wanna know what’s inside? Chapter List PART 1: Trauma and the self What does it mean to be human? Why do people harm us, and why did no one stop them? The impact of different types of trauma Exploring your trauma responses Understanding your coping mechanisms How trauma changes your world view Triggers, patterns, and associations What is justice anyway? How trauma manifests as physical illnesses Sex, intimacy and relationships after trauma PART 2: Trauma and society Abuse and harm: The elephant in the room Why do we blame victims of abuse and trauma? Normalise, minimise, sexualise… traumatise Trauma, culture, and religion Trauma as a profit-making industry Alternative explanations for common mental health issues Traumatised people are easier to control PART 3: Moving on from trauma Does your trauma predict your future? How can you move on from what happened? Seeking validation and acknowledgement Dealing with hatred, resentment, anger and jealousy Listening to your intuition Exploring spirituality and a deeper connection to self Techniques, therapies, and alternative approaches to trauma Honouring the younger version of yourself Self-love is a superpower How can you use your trauma experiences for good? Finding your spark, finding your purpose Becoming The Watcher of Your Own Flame Sooo, what do ya think? Which section calls out to you?

@HandNSALT @Jaimi_Shrive Thank you

The most liked comment on a video of a girl dancing… The most liked. Meaning, thousands of people agree. Millions, probably billions of women are subjected to rape in their lifespan. Our society is full of rapists & enablers.

A little reminder that this tool launches tomorrow! ❤️

It's the weekend! Time for some reading? Our Year 4 students will be dipping into this text by @Victim_Focus @DrJessTaylor @jaimishrive next week. #IndicativeTraumaImpactManual

Sexual assault of women and girls is so common that it will correlate with anything though. Drinking alcohol. Having blonde hair. Eating chips. Maybe we need to talk about the fact that we’ve created a society that is pro-rape, and pro-VAWG, and instead of addressing it, we are pretending that women going out and having a drink is causing men to abuse them. Alcohol doesn’t rape. That’s why when men go to the pub with the lads, they don’t get drunk and sexually assault each other. Alcohol is not the causal factor here.

To help me and @cheshirepolice learn how make our county even safer for women and girls, I've asked @Victim_Focus to carry out an independent, anonymous survey about personal safety, crime and experiences with the police. Have your say by 1 December 👉 orlo.uk/biTTv

Mother in Progress: From pregnancy through parenthood: A trauma-informed reflective journal and guide for women This journal will encourage you to reflect on your own experiences, feelings and thoughts. victimfocus-resources.com/products/mothe…

Woman in Progress: The Reflective Journal for Women and Girls Subjected to Abuse and Trauma Inside this journal you will find hundreds of reflective writing, doodling and thinking tasks which you can do in your own time, at your own pace. Whether you are using this journal alongside therapy or whether you choose to work through this journal in private, you can use this space to process the experiences you have been through.

This journal will encourage you to reflect on your own experiences, feelings and thoughts. Also available digitally. victimfocus-resources.com/products/woman…

This journal has been created for women and girls who would like to explore and reflect on their personal experiences of trauma, abuse or harm they have been subjected to by others. Inside this journal you will find hundreds of reflective writing, doodling and thinking tasks which you can do in your own time, at your own pace. Whether you are using this journal alongside therapy or whether you choose to work through this journal in private, you can use this space to process the experiences you have been through. victimfocus-resources.com/products/woman…

Healthy Relationships and Ethical Sex Education: Secondary School KS3-4 The aim of this resource is to help young people aged 11-16 develop an in-depth understanding of their bodies, intimacy, sexual activity, and healthy relationships. victimfocus-resources.com/products/healt…

Trauma Responses and Coping Mechanisms Debate Flashcards and Resource Each card contains a statement that can be used with children (12+) and adults to help them to identify, discuss, challenge and process trauma responses and coping mechanisms. The cards can also be used in professional and student training and education, for group work, workshops, games and team building for organisations working in relevant sectors.  victimfocus-resources.com/products/traum…

Sexism and Misogyny Flashcards and Resource Each card contains a provocative statement that can be used with adolescents and adults to help them to identify, discuss, challenge and process social and personal beliefs of misogyny, inequality, oppression and sexism towards women. victimfocus-resources.com/products/sexis…

A journal for the conscious, critical researcher who is ready to dig a bit deeper into their own work. Perfect for students, researchers, academics and teachers from any social science or humanities disciplines at any level of study from A-Level onward. victimfocus-resources.com/products/the-r…

Being in love with someone can be complicated, thrilling, frightening and wonderful. It is the plot of films, the lyrics to songs, the basis of our cultures and traditions around the world. But it isn’t always easy.  This set of 40 beautifully designed cards contain inspirational quotes, ideas, and self-help questions to encourage children (12+) and adults to explore and process their feelings and thoughts about being in love.  victimfocus-resources.com/products/equal…

Every experience of pregnancy and motherhood is unique. Our feelings, thoughts, memories and bodily responses mean different things to all of us, and there is little in the way of support and understanding around this. VictimFocus wanted to help provide some solutions to that using our expertise in trauma-informed and strength-based practice. This journal contains hundreds of reflective writing, doodling and thinking tasks which you can do in your own time, at your own pace, as well as information and facts about topics such as conception, pregnancy, birth, miscarriage, post-natal trauma, raising children, parenting choices and techniques and feelings about motherhood. Learn more about this resource - link is in the comments.

This therapeutic resource has been designed to support children who have been subjected to abuse, reinforcing anti-victim blaming messages in a variety of settings. The sentences and phrases on these flashcards have been developed to encourage open, honest communication and spark interesting discussions with a child. The uplifting messages can help a child to further understand that they are never to blame for abuse, that they are capable and whole, and that they have a bright future filled with possibilities. victimfocus-resources.com/products/flash…

We’ve had a star named after us! Thank you to our amazing commissioner in Byron Bay for this most thoughtful gift. We’re all absolutely blown away at VictimFocus 💫 it means so much to us It was an absolute pleasure to deliver the workshop today.