Wicked Fae
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Wicked Fae
@Wicked_Fae1
❌ NO DMs!!❌ 🚫No under 21🚫 I like banter, don't take it serious. I'm 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈✊🏾 inclusive.


My parents didn't have money to waste on water pistols. So I used this when I was a kid back in the seventies. But being an impatient child, I couldn't wait for mother to finish the bottle of Fairy Liquid, so I decided to empty almost all of it into the sink so I could at last get to squirt the neighbour's cat with my new super-duper pistol. Christ almighty, did I get a bloody good hiding from my dad when mother had told him what I had done 😂🔫🐈
















The Dominant’s Duty: Discernment is Not Optional Let me be clear, I am willing to lose every follower I have if it means hurting peoples feelings when speaking up for the safety and integrity of the BDSM lifestyle. I am not responsible for your feelings, and if something I say, rooted in BDSM fundamentals and protocols angers you, then I suggest looking at yourself and asking why you feel convicted. If you’re going to step into the role of a Dominant, you are taking a person’s mental and emotional well-being into your hands. That’s a heavy responsibility, not a power trip. Part of that job description is having the self-awareness to know exactly where seduction ends and manipulation begins. It’s About Intent vs. Impact: A safe Dominant is constantly checking their "why." -Seduction is about creating a spark and inviting them to follow your lead.✅ - Manipulation is about creating a trap so they feel they have to follow you, and consequently is the definition of emotional and psychological abuse. 🚩 If you don't know the difference, you aren't ready to lead. Using someone’s triggers, insecurities, or fears to get a result isn't playing the headspace, it’s breaking the person. Distinction Matters: -Consent is a moving target: You cannot have SSC or CCCC if you are moving the goalposts through mind games. A Dominant who manipulates is effectively stripping away their partner's ability to give informed consent. -Protecting the safe word: The second you use guilt or emotional retaliation, you kill the safe word. If they’re too scared of your reaction to stop a scene, you’ve created an unsafe environment. -The double standard is real: We have to be honest, Female Dommes often get away with toxic mind games that would get a male Dominant blacklisted in a heartbeat. As Dominants, we have to hold ourselves and our peers accountable, regardless of gender. Before you push a boundary or try to "mind-f***" a submissive, ask yourself: Am I doing this to enhance their experience and our connection, or am I doing this to satisfy my own ego and control them at their expense? If it’s the latter, stop. True dominance is built on integrity, stewardship, and respect. If you have to lie, guilt-trip, or manipulate to get someone to submit, you haven't earned that power, you’re just stealing it. It’s not a matter of “different strokes for different folks” it’s a matter of responsibility and safety. Sadly even respected leaders in the community are failing to uphold the standard. Real Dominants don't need to play dirty to be obeyed. -Sir Garnet #BDSM #Dominant #Leadership #KinkSafety #SSC
