Jay Stringer

After Unwanted, I kept listening. The deeper work came into focus: it isn’t only about stopping “unwanted” behaviors—it’s about forming desire, the force under our choices. My new book, DESIRE is now available for preorder, wherever books are sold.

Unaddressed trauma doesn't just affect our memories. It rewires the way we want — love, connection, pleasure, purpose. It corrupts the signal. The good news? Desire is remarkably resilient. Desire is where I go deeper on all of this: amazon.com/dp/0593728270?…

I've sat with thousands of people in therapy over the years. And almost all of them came in thinking they had one specific problem — a bad marriage, a stalled career, an addiction, a body they couldn't stand. What they actually had was a fractured relationship to desire.

That's not an excuse. It's an invitation — to stop fighting yourself and start getting curious about what formed you. Understanding this changes everything about how you approach healing. Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: ow.ly/NUZQ50YNMNH #Desire

The body becomes so conditioned to tension and vigilance that it struggles to trust or receive alternative realities like safety and peace.

The movement went further than traditional teaching — it attempted to wage war against sexual desire itself. Purity rings. Purity balls. Girls pledging their sexuality to their fathers. We can and must do better.

Desire problems build over generations, quietly shaping our lives. Only by stepping back to examine our family's legacy of desire can we find the courage to defy these cycles. What legacy of desire did your family leave for you?

Why do some requests feel legitimate, while others immediately irritate us? My new piece with @RonCarucci in @HarvardBiz explores why your irritation is never random — it's data about yourself and those you lead. hbr.org/2026/04/when-y…

If we find ourselves wanting triumph over our trauma, compulsively stimulating our body, or resisting embodiment, we may be missing the chance to go upstream to experience wholeness. Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: amazon.com/dp/0593728270

Most people know my work through Unwanted — and a lot of you have had questions I haven't had a chance to answer. Next Friday, I want to hear what stood out to you. This one won't be recorded — join us live. Click this link to register: ow.ly/WCB550YGJsj #Unwanted

43% of women and 31% of men report a sexual dysfunction. 15–20% of couples are in a sexless marriage. 21 million women are living with betrayal trauma linked to infidelity. Sexual problems reveal where we come from. They are not a verdict on who we are. #Desire #JayStringer

Most of us have spent our lives treating desire as the part of us that needs to be controlled, tamed, or spiritually overcome. Desire invites you on a different journey: to take seriously the desires that God has put inside of you. Desire is available now where books are sold.

We can and must do better. Desire is where I go deeper on all of this — the science behind what we were taught, why it shaped us the way it did, and how we find our way back. Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: ow.ly/hHeb50YCyng #Desire #JayStringer

Instead of trying to fix your patterns, what if you studied them? Discover your Desire Profile → ow.ly/sv8R50YC4uB Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: ow.ly/FwSH50YC4uI #Desire #JayStringer

When Dreamers begin tending to their actual life — not just their imagined one — their meaning gains weight, grounding, and direction. Which archetype are you? Comment below 👇 Find your Desire type → yourdesireprofile.com "Desire" is available now: amazon.com/dp/0593728270

I'm hosting a free Q&A where I'll respond to questions, hear what stood out to you as you've gone through the book, and go deeper into the themes and research that continue to shape my writing and clinical work from Unwanted to Desire. Register here: ow.ly/18An50YzZMC

Unaddressed trauma doesn't just affect our memories. It rewires the way we want things The good news? Desire is remarkably resilient. But healing has to begin with honesty. You can start reading Desire's first chapter free of charge. Simply visit ow.ly/4KXF50YxnMX

We can and must do better for ourselves and our kids. If not, we will consign our children to experience shame and judgment in one of the most beautiful areas of their life. #Desire #JayStringer

Vulnerability isn't a reward for healing. It's the path to it. Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow — Chapter 15, p. 291 Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: ow.ly/3Oik50YwBBG #Desire #JayStringer

The limping doesn't go away. But you start to see why it matters. Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow — Chapter 5, p. 74 Desire is available now. Grab your copy here: ow.ly/5Uzv50Yw7lv #Desire #JayStringer

Dr. Dan Allender changed the trajectory of my life. I would not be doing the work I do in the world without his wisdom and friendship. Desire is available now: ow.ly/r3qS50Yvv1I